Ep.9 Giving compliments, receiving compliments. [relationships]

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I'm so happy to be

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spending some time with you today. I hope you're in a good

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place, I hope I can bring you value hope, love understanding.

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The most important mission I have with my podcast is that I

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provide you with tools that help you to get to know yourself

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better, the better you know yourself, the better decisions

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you're gonna make. And the more content and fulfilled you're

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going to be, which in turn is going to deeply affect the

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people, the environment around you. Today I want to talk about

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compliments. What are the thoughts the feelings that come

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up when I speak out this word compliment? I want to compliment

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you. I have so much respect for you for being here. Because

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chances are you are a person with a growth mindset. You are

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an entrepreneur, you are a parent, you are a lover, you are

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just a very decent human being who wants to live up to their

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potential and be their best version. And proud of you. You

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can be proud of yourself. How do you react when you receive a

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compliment? Do you blush? Do you accept? Do you reject and

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decline? Do you make fun of people that give you a

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compliment? Do you give compliments easily? Or are you

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hard to impress? I feel we can give each other so much energy

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and complimenting speaking out a compliment. It is so important

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to acknowledge the people around you to truly see them for who

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they are to see their efforts and what they are accomplishing

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doing, but especially who they are. Who are you? What is

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special about it to be you? How do you perceive the world? When

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you receive a compliment, you have touched something in

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another person. Yes, there is genuine compliments and there's

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honest compliments. But let's just talk about the honest

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compliments today. If somebody wants to give you a compliment,

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you have triggered something positive inside of them. They

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see something in you that you might not see in yourself. I

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feel that a lot of times when we reject a compliment. It is

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because we don't see ourselves the same way that other people

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perceive us. Every time that's the case. So every time you

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reject a compliment, you don't want to accept a compliment. I

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feel that's where we have to go deeper and find out what is

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going on here. Why do you have a a weird, negative perception of

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yourself and how can we heal that? Do you freely give away

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genuine compliments? Or do you never really acknowledge the

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people around you? Do you show appreciation. It is so important

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when you want to have a deep connection with the people

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around you. And it doesn't have to be your romantic partner it

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can be your parents, your siblings, other relatives, your

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friends, acquaintances, a stranger in the street. One

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little rule I live by is to leave the people in a better

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mood than how I found them. And sometimes a compliment

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just does it just does the trick. It can make another

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person stay if they receive it well, you can really make a

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positive little imprint on their heart. And isn't that so magical

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and beautiful and worth trying. So, over the next couple of

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days, I want you to notice things. And people around you, I

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want you to acknowledge actions, gestures, behaviors, that deeply

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touch you impress you, make you feel good about yourself or

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about other people. And if you're not there yet to express

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it, then just notice it, just start by noticing it. But if

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you've already, I encourage you, to express it, to show

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gratitude, appreciation, show that you're deeply impressed by

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another person. We never know what's going on in another

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person's life, you know, they might have a really tough and

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shitty day. And then you come along and share this beautiful

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genuine compliment with them. And all of a sudden, they see

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the good and humanity again, all of a sudden, they feel better

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about themselves. Again, all of a sudden, they feel energy to

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accomplish the next steps that they need to take. On that day.

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We all have to become a little bit more aware on what deep of

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an impact we have on each other. And once we know that, once

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we're aware of this, we have to own that power. And make the

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best of it. The way you impact people is the way that people

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are going to remember you, the way you make people feel is what

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they're going to be thinking of when they think of you. It is an

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incredibly beautiful experience, to be noticed, to feel

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acknowledged, to feel seen and hurt, you know that to try to

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give that to other people. And we can all make this planet a

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little bit more kind a little bit more magical and beautiful

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again, and it costs you absolutely nothing. Just a

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couple of words. Just a deep look in the eye. A smile, a tap

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on the shoulder. Very, very simple and powerful at the same

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time. Right. I'm gonna leave you with that. It's all my love and

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care. Thank you so much for sharing with the people around

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you with loved ones. And if you want to send me a little

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highly appreciated. For me to continue this beautiful little

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podcast for me to make this work. Yeah, sustainable and most

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impactful on our society. Take care of yourself, and I'll be

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out there very soon again. Bye bye