Ep.10 Busting the myths around success.

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. I hope you're doing well I hope you

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feel good. And if you do not feel all too good, I hope I can

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get my message across loving, and inspiring and empowering.

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And yeah, lifting up. Today I want to talk about a couple

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myths, myths around successful people. I feel it is very

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important to talk about it because most of the time, we

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think that people who are successful, never go through

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pain are born that way, had it easy because of their family,

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had money from their family just are a different species a very

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different kind of human being than we feel we are. And I love

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to bust myths. I love to give you all the tools that you need

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to feel successful to feel liberated from old stuff that

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doesn't serve you anymore. And to feel yourself strongest

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version of yourself. It is a little bit weird to disturb the

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record. But yeah, let's

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let's dive into this juicy topic.

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The first myth I want to attack is the myth that we think that

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successful Happy, Healthy People never struggle. They do

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struggle, they do struggle a lot, even. The only thing that

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is maybe different from our struggles is that they ask for

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help. They reach out. They have advisors, they have people that

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support them, listen to them, and then

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give them advice, make them feel supported and good about

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themselves

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again, and most of us, I feel or I can just speak for myself. For

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the longest time, I thought I have to struggle by myself. It

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has to feel hard. Otherwise, I'm not earning deserving success.

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And this is totally wrong. I lose so much energy, confidence,

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and life force when I'm trying to do it all. As soon as I reach

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out as soon as I know that there's people out there who can

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do something better than I can do certain things. I feel

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supported, I feel we can do this, I feel I can move on,

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instead of feeling stuck getting frustrated and wanting to throw

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everything into the garbage bin.

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So mess number one.

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We can do it alone. No. Successful people need advisors,

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coaches and support. We cannot do it alone. I never heard of

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any success story where the person did it all by themselves.

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People struggle, we all struggle. But some people choose

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to ask for help. And some people just choose to try to do it by

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themselves and sometimes it's just not possible. Myth number

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two, success is genetic. You have to be born into a

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successful rich family. Otherwise you cannot make it in

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this world. This is absolute B S. If you look into it a little

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bit deeper, you will find out that the most successful people

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came out from adversity, stress, chaos, pain, trauma, and were

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able to overcome these extreme obstacles. They were able to see

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opportunity in these obstacles and overcoming them by reaching

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out by having people close to them that believe in them. Or by

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simply knowing that there is no other way than moving forward.

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So, my dear, if you feel that success is only reserved for a

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special

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species of human being, I'm very happy to announce that this is

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not the truth. And I really encourage everybody to look up

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successful people and their stories and to see how much pain

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and suffering they had to go through before they became

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successful. The third myth I want to bust today is that in

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order to be successful, you need a lot of money. Well, my friend

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is also not true. Because again, if you look into it, yes, there

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are some people who had money, maybe old family money, and were

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able to use it in order to be successful. But there's also

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very successful people out there who had absolutely nothing.

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Where their families had absolutely nothing, it was post

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war, everything was bombarded and destroyed. But they found a

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way to become successful. And the trick here is really very

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simple. You just need to be connected to the world around

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you and clearly see what it is that people need, how you can be

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of service to people, or, and find something that is necessary

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to get done. But nobody really wants to do it. There's an

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example I forgot his name, he started a cleaning business back

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then, I think it was in New York, and started cleaning huge

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companies at night when everybody was at home sleeping,

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watching movies, partying, and started cleaning more and more

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buildings and had to start hiring people because he got

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more contracts. And so he had built a business, on serving

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others and finding an activity, a duty that nobody else wanted

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to do. But something that has to get done in order to have a

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beautiful running business, a clean workspace is important.

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This is what everybody figured. And he had a company with very

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reliable, trustworthy janitors, and was, yeah, very successful

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with this idea. So find something that brings value to

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other people. And you don't have to worry about any, you know,

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big investment, money or capital. At the beginning,

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people will see your potential, they will feel your energy, they

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will see your work, they will see that you do it out of the

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goodness of your heart. And that is when money flows, and money

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starts building up. And you can use that money to build a

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successful life a successful business. Another myth that I

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want to bust here is that successful people buy a lot of

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things have a lot of things. Now we want to distinguish between

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rich people who love to brag with all their goods, their

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cars, their jewelry, their awesome vacations, and wealthy

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people. Wealthy people are the people who are really rich, who

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absolutely have nothing to do with bragging and they like to

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stay to themselves and work hard. They make investments they

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invest into assets, instead of purchasing consumer goods or

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liabilities. So one thing will cost you money and depreciate

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over time. And the other thing is gonna make you more money.

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So, example here, buying jewelry buying an expensive car And

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watch us going out to fancy restaurants. This is all money

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that goes into another person's pocket, it goes out of your

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wallet into another person's pocket. If you invest in that,

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say, a computer, or a dump trailer,

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or machinery that you can use to make more money, like get more

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work done and less time, less time than you are investing into

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an asset, it is going to generate you money, yes, you are

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buying something. So money goes out of your pocket, but that's

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something is going to help you to generate even more money. So

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it is very important to see how you use your money. Are you

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using money to consume things? Or are you using money to help

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you make more money, there's awesome podcasts and books out

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there that can help you when it comes to financial health. All

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right, this is what I wanted to talk about today. You have it

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inside of you, you have all the resources you need to be

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successful, happy and content. It is a matter of and digging

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these resources if you don't quite see them right now. And it

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is about getting unstuck, liberating you and making you

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see the potential that you have living inside of you. This is

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what I do as a coach. Once we talk on a free call and the

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first 60 minutes, I usually find out pretty quickly what the

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person needs. And from there, we just hit it off and find out

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what the person is meant to do here on planet earth or if they

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found their purpose already, how to be even more successful.

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Also, addressing relationships and how to be happy and

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fulfilled and so desirable and lovable, that you either attract

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the partner into your life that is good for you or that you have

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a totally fulfilling relationship that will be

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unshakable. All right. I'm gonna leave you on this. always

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with lots of love, Aurora. Until next time, bye bye