Ep.8 What is it you need more of in your life? [have your needs met]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach, and

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spiritual healer. Let's say

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this is my last episode for the year 2021.

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What a year.

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Huh? I want to take a moment. And thank you for being here

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with me. We're all on this together.

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And, yeah, it's been

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a tricky year for me.

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Lots of ups and downs and

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lots of change. It's been a good year overall. But it's been

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really tough as well.

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So let's take a moment and

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reflect about the things that we want to let go off things that

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we don't want in our life anymore.

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And then

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we also want to take a moment

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to reflect about what it is that we want, more off in our lives.

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Maybe we don't have it in our life

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already.

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Maybe we're starting to get closer to what we want and need.

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And we're slowly but surely, steering into a direction where

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we get closer to what we need our goals or dreams.

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To how do we do that? I know it's going to be New Year's Eve

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here soon. Lots of new year's resolutions.

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But I feel sometimes we

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restrict ourselves if we

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set our mind

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on to new year's resolutions. And I don't know about you. But

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most of the time when I had something in mind,

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I was successful in the beginning but then

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I was not able to be sustainable

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with my the change that I wanted to see.

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So it is really important to keep an open mind and open heart

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when it comes to your dreams and goals and to not narrow it down

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to one activity or one way of reaching your goal. Let's take

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physical health. For instance. If you set your mind on having

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to go to the gym from January 1

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five times a week, and you're gonna go no matter what it's

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going to be no excuses.

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It is good. It is awesome. That you feel you could be motivated

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enough to go ahead and and do the five times a week.

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But what about a simple walk? What about a hike?

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What about a bicycle.

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You see when we narrow things down too much. We usually

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exhaust ourselves after a while because our being wants to be

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free or being wants to expand. And if you force your body your

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mind your soul into a gym for five times a week. And you've

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never went to the gym before.

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You might be motivated at the very beginning but after a while

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you might find out that this is actually pretty boring. And the

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only reason why it is boring it is because there's going to be

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highest stimulation and novelty at the beginning and that will

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wane off and it will be monotone us monotonous sorry

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and boring for your mind and soul. And the body is just going

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to drag behind and feel disappointed again and let down

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because you had these beautiful goals to work out on a regular

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and now all of a sudden you are

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not doing

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anything anymore, because you only set your mind on going to

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the gym. So if you keep the selection wide and open,

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then your mind and your soul will always stay

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stimulated and excited. And then you're also open to your

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surroundings. You know, I used to be very fixated on going to

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the gym. And so often my friends invited me skiing or to go for a

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hike. And I always said, no, no, no, I have to go to the gym.

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First, I need to get up my rigid load workout, and then I am

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free. So I was giving myself limitations. And that was not

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doing me good. It was not serving me. On a higher level,

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you know, my body was getting stronger, and beautiful, but my

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soul was craving adventurous and my heart was just feeling

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cringed and locked up. And same goes with

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eating habits. If you want to change your eating habits,

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it's it's really nice to be curious about new foods again,

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and to really appreciate the food that you have on your plate

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and to test it with all your senses.

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When it comes to relationships, when it comes to friendships, or

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romantic relationships, and you want to feel a change there, you

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always have to go back to your relationship with yourself.

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I'm very excited to be publishing an episode here soon

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about your relationship with playfulness, and pleasure.

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Because that will tell me as a coach, how open you are to

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receive and connect with other people.

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But in today's episode, I want to keep it short and tell you

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the more you enjoy your own company, the more you feel

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comfortable in your own skin, the better you're going to

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attract people into your life. Not only like many more than

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before, but the right people as well.

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So if for the new year,

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you set an intention for

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stronger, more resilient connections, we have to start

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with you. We have to find out what it is that holds you back.

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And that limits yourself you know so many people out there

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who are truly successful, who are successful, not only when it

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comes to money, but when it comes to relationships and

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friendships and healthy bonding.

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They had

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limits. They were crippled by life. They were traumatized.

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They were you know, and wheelchairs, they had to battle

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mental illness.

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Some of them were blind.

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But what didn't stop them was their love their thirst for

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life.

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And with my coaching, especially now in the coming years, I want

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to get you to that point where you take such good care of

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yourself where you're such a good cheerleader of yourself,

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that the things that you truly want and need and deserve are

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just going to float towards you. You will not have to put much

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effort into attracting people anymore, you will not have to

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be desperate about

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the right job that you want to find it will fall into your lap.

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And don't get me wrong, there's always work to be done. But that

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comes after. After you know what your purpose is after you know

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who your partner is going to be. But first you're going to

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attract it into your life by who you truly are by digging

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yourself by unlearning patterns that you had to learn in order

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to heal and to survive. So often we are stuck in coping

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mechanisms. We are overly protecting ourselves because we

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are so scared to get hurt again. And that in turn prevents us

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from getting closer to our goals.

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I oftentimes see with my clients that there is no big, external

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obstacles and circumstances that hold my clients back from

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reaching their goal. But their own limitations, their own

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beliefs about themselves and how they see the world is

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holding them back from reaching their potential. And then

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there's another, another kind of, of person out there who

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doesn't feel deserving. They know exactly what they want,

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they can envision it, they can smell it, they can feel it, yet

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they still don't feel deserving.

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And this brings me to the next point is

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your own radiance, how you can get back to when you were a

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baby, and you just experienced the world you looked around and

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you soaked up. That beautiful flower is you watched the animal

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running through the field, and you didn't watch it with a

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judging eye. But with a loving eye, you were just present with

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the people around you, and soaking in their energy and

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giving back without judgment, without limitations without

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fear.

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So to get back to that state, where you're just be more than

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do is incredibly healing and incredibly helpful. When it

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comes to reaching your dreams, and your goals. We all want to

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get closer to a state of tranquility and peacefulness we

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all want love. We all want to feel seen and heard. And I know

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in the past, you didn't feel that way. I know in the past,

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life was hard. You got disappointed you were let down

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by the people you trust at most. And you were hurt by people that

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you want it desperately in your life. And now is the time to

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reclaim your power. And to live from the heart again, and not

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from a fearful mind.

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So when you dive into the new year, here with me soon,

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I want you to look back and maybe go into birds perspective,

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and look down on yourself and

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bathe your being in love and kindness. And know that every

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day you wake up, you want to be a better person. You want to be

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even more present with the people around you than you were

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the day before. You see we don't need new year's to start all

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over again, we can start right now. He looked back, he looked

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down on yourself. And you just have a gentle smile and very

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soft gaze. And, you know, I know if you're listening to my

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podcast, that you are growth oriented, that you want to let

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go of stuff that doesn't serve you anymore, that you want to

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embrace life fully that you want to be present again, and

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experience deep nurturing connections.

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We want to slow down a little bit and dive a little deeper

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than we did last year.

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And I'm so excited for my guests that will be coming on to my

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show. I'm so incredibly blessed and I feel so honored for the

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new clients that are going to join me that I'm going to be

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learning from and that I will be able to point into the right

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directions. And yeah, I'm I'm wishing us all peace and

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tranquility and playfulness and pleasure, love and lightness.

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And may we have the resilience to overcome hard times and may

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we see obstacles as opportunities to grow. May we

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see

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A difficult situations with people as a phase of growth and

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intimacy, if not with the other person with ourselves

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from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for being here

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for supporting my show. If you want to take a moment, leave a

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Aurora Eggert, I would love to connect with you. I would love

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to hear your story. And yeah, I'm sending my love out to you.

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From my heart to yours, I deeply respect you and I will be out

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there in the new here for you. Bye bye