Ep.9 Things to focus on in 2022 [ new years intentions ]

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Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, mental coach, life coach. Love coach. And

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yeah, welcome to 2022

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I'm wishing you a happy new year from the bottom of my heart. I

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wish you contentment I wish you peace. I wish you positive

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adventures, the right stimulation for the brain, not

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too much, not too little. And,

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most importantly, health, you can go without health. Health is

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the most important thing in the world. That is what I've learned

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last year. And I will carry it over into the new year.

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Today I want to talk about playfulness. How playful Are

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you?

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I feel playfulness can be seen when someone is relaxed when

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someone is confident

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when someone is in a good headspace

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and all too often I see people living a very healthy lifestyle.

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You know, they eat right, they exercise, they have a job, they

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have a function functioning relationship. They have a car,

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they have a house, you name it.

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But somehow they feel dead inside they feel Yeah, not okay.

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I struggle with mental health.

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And it can have many shapes and shades and forms on how people

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feel internally. But one thing I've learned is that the more I

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allowed playfulness in my life. And the more I've learned

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even to rewire my brain, my nervous system to enjoy and

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allow playfulness, the better I was doing. And it is much easier

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if you surround yourself with people that are playful and

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silly. And

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you know, if you have children, they will want to have a story

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you read or they want to go to the playground or they want to

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play Lego puzzle or whatever it is. If you are surrounded by

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children, Let them guide you into playfulness into a space

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where you can totally switch off your brain. Just be present

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experience yourself and others and allow room for mistakes and

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failures. And if you make a mistake, if you fail, then laugh

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about it and be gentle on yourself.

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So what I said here previously, like rave wiring your nervous

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system sometimes

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we are so caught up in our to dues. We are so caught up in

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self care practices. And we end up doing them

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like engaging in them like a chore like oh my god, I have to

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still brush my teeth or oh my god, I have to wash my hair.

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I'm gonna do it quickly. I'm not gonna make time because it's

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just washing my hair anyways. But if you start

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rewiring your nervous system with the little things in life

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already, and you know, give yourself a smile in the mirror,

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or really indulging in the washing of your hair and

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sending like group deep gratitude into that practice.

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Appreciate every hair that you enjoy on your body, enjoy your

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body.

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And what I mean, right now is not in a sexual way but in a

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sensual way. Be present with you. Laugh at yourself, because

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life is twice as funny if you can laugh at yourself, trust me

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on that.

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And truly be present. I really wish there

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for you, this year, for the new year, if you have any new New

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Year's resolutions or intentions, then add this to the

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list. If you have nothing,

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then have that one intention for the year.

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And we can also call it or label it. Simplicity. You know, when

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you look at our lives, how fucking busy we are all the time

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with, with staff,

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on our phone, at work, without chores, trying to maintain

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healthy relationships, trying to keep our house tidy, trying to

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keep people around you happy, trying to remember all your

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passwords, trying to keep up and keep up with social media, which

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is not possible. But you get my drift, like, we're trying to

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keep up all the time with stuff that is totally overwhelming.

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Our nervous system is not made for that kind of stress. And it

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is totally okay to engage in that kind of stress at times and

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to want to keep up and to be awesome at it.

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But I want to encourage you to also have downtime, times of

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simplicity, times of

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joy is playfulness, where you try something new, where you

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cook something new, and maybe it doesn't taste good, or it

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doesn't look good, but you had fun preparing it, dancing, and

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feeling totally awkward at the beginning, but doing it anyways

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because it feels good. And trust me, you will get better at it.

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If you allow it.

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So many times it is our lack of allowing ourselves to fail,

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being playful with ourselves that will prevent us to

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try out new experiences, new hobbies, new views, new ways of

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approaching people.

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You will need huge resistance if you haven't been playful in the

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last couple of months or years because life was just too tough.

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Life was just too uncertain. You will meet huge resistance. You

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will have people inviting you to be playful and you will find an

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excuse not to engage in it. You will come up with your own ideas

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on how to be playful and your mind will come up with excuses

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on why to not engage in that for too long.

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I even go so far and kind of mentally schedule playful times

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and I'm so lucky because my partner is more on the playful

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side he gets lots of shit done and is an amazing human being

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all around. But his playfulness muscle is way stronger than mine

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and I I always learned from that. I learned from that and

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he's making me feel very confident when I fail at the

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beginning or when I look silly. We just laugh together.

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So yeah, simplicity. Declutter. Get rid of stuff. That doesn't

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bring you joy. I have so many people around me who love online

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shopping more than ever since COVID. And they don't see how

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every little item in your house sucks energy from you. And if

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you have too much energy in your room, then it starts sucking

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life energy out of you and makes you feel

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depressed at some point even

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the more you can get rid of stuff that you don't need. You

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can give it away you can donate it you can bring it to a close

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by church if they receive donations at the moment.

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There's so many people out there who cannot afford stuff but

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desperately need stuff. And there's so many people out there

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who live so cluttered like quarters and they wonder why

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they always feel drained and it is because they

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Your space is not tidy and not clean and not liberating.

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So simplicity decluttering letting go of stuff that sucks

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energy of you that is just too much.

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Letting go of people who don't really add to your life but suck

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energy out of your life and take up way too much space. And you

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feel drained after communicating with them. And drawing people in

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who are playful, who helps you build your playfulness muscle.

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It is incredibly important to relearn that we've all been

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playful once when we were little. And we unlearned we

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pushed playfulness out of alive because it is not really

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constructive.

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But it is a state of being

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when you are engaging and playfulness

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and not a state of doing and this is what I think we have to

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support each other to Yeah, be more in that state of have to

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enjoyment

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and sometimes it's not enjoyable. Sometimes it's plain

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painful but being present in the moment, opening your heart

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opening your eyes

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allowing no distractions

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and

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enjoying yourself.

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Yes.

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That is my first message I want to send out to you on this

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beautiful third of January 2020 to allow simplicity. Allow

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playfulness, seek out playfulness and rewire your

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nervous system for lightness and joy and go against the

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resistance that will come up.

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All right. I will meet with you very soon again. And for now.

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Take good care of yourself.