Ep.8 How do people react to you? [self awareness]

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Hello, welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

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host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with

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you today. I hope you're doing well out this spring, and

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sunshine and warm weather where you live. Because where I live,

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there is lots of snow and soda depressing. Alright, today I

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want to talk about the energy, the vibration, the mood that you

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send out into this world. Because this is what you're

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gonna attract into your life. That may explain a little bit.

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If you imagine being a radio station, and all the people

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around you have their own frequency, they have their own

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rhythm, their own views, they own perceptions, right, we

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talked about it before, in season one. So the people who

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will feel attracted to you are the people who can relate to the

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stuff that you put into this world. And it's not only what

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you speak, and where you spend your time and what you do with

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your life, it's a little bit more subtle. It's how you relate

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to your environment, how you communicate, how you express

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yourself, how you solve problems, how you approach

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obstacles, how you cheer When you are happy, and how you cry,

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or are depressed or sad, when the going gets tough.

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People will choose you if they can relate to you, if they feel

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understood. And if they feel as if you can understand them,

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they will not so much look out for you or want to be next to

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you. If you keep challenging their beliefs, if you keep

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challenging their way of living is very interesting. When you

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start healing when you start shedding your old skin, people

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will start to get attracted to you and old people or other

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people. I meant people that were in your life will vanish and

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move out of your close circle of friends. So it is very important

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that you are aware of what you send out into this world in

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order in order to understand how people react to you and how they

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relate to you. And the only way to really find out about the

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energy that you put out there is to sit with yourself and to

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observe your thoughts and to feel your feelings. It is most

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of the time, uncomfortable, especially if we've been running

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away from our stuff. For the longest time. When you start

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sitting down with yourself in silence, all that stuff that you

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are trying to distract yourself from will come up your thoughts

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and your feelings. And it is okay and perfectly natural to

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feel very uncomfortable and to feel like wanting to escape. But

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it is in that moment that we just have to stay and sit there

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and see what happens. Because this is how you can dissolve

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past pain. This is how can you can realize I'm still resentful

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with that person. I still am upset because of that situation

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in my past, or I'm still beating myself up for the mistake I've

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made or I still believe life is unfair. And every two years

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everything will be ripped apart again. And what is the point of

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creating and building if change and destruction is part of life.

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So when you observe these sites, when you observe yourself

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thinking, oh my god, this is so useless, I'm wasting time. This

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is your monkey mind. And your monkey mind, also called your

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ego will always prevent you from going down deep, it will try to

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distract you, it will try to come up with better ideas, it

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will try to keep you in your comfort zone. And it is that

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entity that will challenge you. As soon as you leave your

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comfort zone, as soon as you want to be that new, better

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person, it's going to try and hold you back in that state of

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mind and that lifestyle, and that addiction, but you can free

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yourself from it. As soon as you observe what is going on in your

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head, you can change it, you can be aware of it. And every time

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that thought, that feeling comes up, you can re evaluate the

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situation, instead of reacting and jumping back into

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distraction mode or reaction mode or fighting mode. I lost my

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train of thought. But this is what I believe is the only way

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to get better and to move on and to change and to start believing

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in yourself again, is to sit with your stuff for a little bit

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to observe it and then let it go. And then you will also be

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aware of what you send out there. If you're always that

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whiny, little bit. Who's sad about this circumstances? Well,

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people cannot take that for long, they can help you and

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support you. But you will see very quickly that their support

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will get less and less. And they will try and find more and more

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distance between you guys.

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And that's a very tough reality to face. But this is just how

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people react when they feel overwhelmed. It has nothing to

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do with them not being supportive anymore. It has to do

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with you overwhelming your surroundings. So seek out

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professional help and deal with your stuff. And show people that

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you can take care of yourself. Because you're responsible for

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yourself. No one else, people can be your friend and they can

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listen and they can support. But don't make them your employees,

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because they will sense that and they will find a way to escape

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from that role as fast as they can. So again, if you sit with

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me here and meditation and stuff comes up, and stuff is too much

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to handle, then reach out to a professional and get the help

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that you need. But if it's not that uncomfortable, just a

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little bit uncomfortable, I invite you to sit with it and

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feel and reflect about it. And try to let God try to make

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peace. ring that friend and apologize or talk to that

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relative and forgive them instead of being harshly

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sticking to your beliefs that might not be serving you.

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Whenever you meditate. Whenever you spend time with you alone,

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you will also very quickly feel Hey, am I doing well? Am I okay?

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right now. And if not, grab into your tool pocket and grab out

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that thing that makes you happy again, without it being Netflix

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or food or substances, drugs, or any other kind of addictions? We

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talked about that too in episode one. I think it was that we need

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to know what makes us happy makes us genuinely feel good.

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And when you sit in meditation and you realize oh shit, I'm not

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feeling good. Then you just help yourself first. And then you can

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always reach out to a friend and tell them hey, I'm dealing with

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this and I'm trying to help myself but I'm reaching a point

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where it's getting tough and, but give them something that

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shows them that you are helping yourself first. They cannot be

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your crutch. They're not professional counselors or

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doctors. They're your friend and they appreciate you but you have

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to Do the work. So maybe this is inviting for you to sit a little

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more often with yourself and to meditate with me here. And maybe

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I just reached the exact opposite. And you're like, No,

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no, no, no, no, this is not what I want to deal with. Well, it's

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your choice, and you will heal at your pace and not at my pace.

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This is just an invitation. This is just a suggestion. This is

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how I was able to help myself and I want to share it with the

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world because I know there's enough people out there who can

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relate to this. So thank you so much for sitting with me today.

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Or maybe you went for a walk and reflecting about this. What is

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the energy you put out there? Are you strongly opinionated and

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have very judgmental, strong believes that you're trying to

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kind of influence and convince people? Or are you a very lean

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back person who just see what happens and goes with the flow

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and is very open minded. There's a huge difference in that and

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you will see that and how people react to you. Thank you so much

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for listening to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora, and I'll be out there for you tomorrow again.