Ep.7 The open mind and open heart that leads you to where you want to be

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience is the see in the background. I'm in Mexico, San

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Jose, on the Baja I saw for the first episode of 2023. I want to

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make it really special. I really hope that the waves in the

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background now not too loud. I guess I'll see. Once I finished

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recording

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I hope you're doing well. I hope you feel safe and connected.

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Content it's been quite an interesting couple of weeks,

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those first couple of weeks of 2023.

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Maybe you entered this New Year with fresh eyes, expectations,

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resolutions, full of energy. Maybe it took you a little while

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to get into the groove of the new year.

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Today I want to talk about keeping an open mind while I'm

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traveling, and slowly getting to know a new culture, I realized

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how closed up my heart and my mind was for the last couple

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months may maybe even yours. You know such things we don't even

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realize until we are faced with situations where we have to have

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an open mind and open heart otherwise we're not going to get

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through it. That is when you realize, Oh man, I'm so rigid.

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I'm so closed minded. I'm so and so much pain and suffering. For

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so long now that I didn't even realize that I was so tensed up,

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closed up and in pain. When the pain and yours stays long

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enough, you just make it a part of yourself. And for me

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traveling always helps me to open up my heart again and my

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mind. You see how people live a life similar to yours with very

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different tools and approaches and opinions. Very different

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faith, maybe sometimes even different struggles. At the same

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time, if you keep your heart open and your mind open or if

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you start to open it up again you see that people really just

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want to be seen and feel connected. feel understood and

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respected. No matter where we go. It is the same thing all

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over the world

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right now you might be in a situation leading a life where

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you can't really travel. So what do you do then? With my

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information that I'm sharing here, well, fortunately we don't

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have to leave our daily life. To open up our heart again. We can

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change our attitude we can open up our mind our heart. We can

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change assumptions that we made conclusions that we made about

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people and ourselves and our past. Maybe a future you by

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making space and time to see what's going on. And that's a

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necessary evil. That's the only thing that you need to invest

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into yourself is time and making space to reflect, to question to

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untangle yourself, to get back to your true self. When we go

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through pain and discomfort, our psyche, our mind, starts to

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build a fortress around our heart, we start to engage in

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little habits first, to protect us from future pain, who then

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can become part of ourselves. So the pain becomes part of you.

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And you change your character changes the way you move and

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behave, relate to people changes, bit by bit, it consumes

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you and you don't even realize it. Maybe the odd comment and

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people, you know, maybe starting to avoid you reject you more

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often, or making comments mocking you. That sometimes can

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be their problem. But it can also be a sign of you.

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distancing yourself from your core being, if it is people that

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truly know you.

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You can't run away from your pain, you can't avoid it. Yet

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your mind and your psyche will always be there with the mission

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to protect you. And all too often, we also give it

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intentionally the mission to protect us by behaving different

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ways by speaking differently, clothing ourselves differently,

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relating to people differently, right smiling when we don't

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really feel like smiling. But what you're doing by doing that

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is that you give your mind a task that it's not fit to

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accomplish. You can't predict life, you can't predict pain.

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You can't avoid pain. Yet you tell your mind subconsciously

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that you don't want to experience that pain again. And

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then you come to see me for coaching and wonder why you're

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still single, why you still haven't found a job that gives

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you satisfaction. Or whatever pain you're struggling with. All

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along, though, your mind is trying to protect you to be

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vulnerable again. And to explore what an open heart is, because

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that's where you got hurt the last time right. So it's a whole

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mess. It's a mess. It's a big mess, but it's so beautiful to

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realize and to see where you're at. So also deeply humbling. To

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notice what's disturbing you what's holding you back, what is

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the pain you're trying to avoid? Maybe you forgot, you're just

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dealing with the coping mechanisms now and the little

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addictions or maybe even big addictions. But to go and sit

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down and explore yourself again, be it by yourself or with a

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coach doesn't have to be me it can be any person out there who

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is offering coaching and as trustworthy to you to to peel

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the layers back from that shell from that fortress that was

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built around your heart. Because life is short and I don't want

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you to pass away crossover to the other side and regret that

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you haven't really experienced life. You lived a life behind

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Wilds in fear. Scared to be yourself again, because that's

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where you got hurt the last time so keeping an open mind and open

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heart is really Everything I want to remind yourself of today

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because I know, you know, it's valuable and good. But sometimes

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we forget. I'm also very excited to have built a physical

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location for you. Or anybody who wants to come and explore. Make

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sense of their mind experience deep, calm, relaxation from the

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inside out for body and mind. And, yeah, I'm very, very

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excited to have that set up. And to share this with people, not

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only through my podcasts that I love so much, but also in, in

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real life. I crave deep connection with people I crave

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seeing people and having people take their masks down and just

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be themselves. That's the greatest gift that we can offer

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to each other. And I'm all all in to encourage that and you and

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to see you grow and untangle yourself. All right. I'm gonna

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leave you with that My dear listener, I'm so happy to

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connect with you again through this beautiful way of

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communication and being out there in the world through

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podcasting. And I will be out there with you for you very soon

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again. With Love from Mexico. Aurora