Ep. 6 Are you fooling yourself? [self-awareness]

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Oh

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hello hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

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host Aurora, life coach.

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Always here on Monday and Thursdays, I want to create a

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space for you, where you can recharge your batteries,

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reflect, and rest. And most importantly, reconnect to

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yourself. Sometimes it's not so much about learning new things

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and acquiring stuff, reading books.

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Sometimes it's more about unlearning, and letting go of

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things. And being reminded of who you are.

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Remember who you were, when you were three years old, eight

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years old, 10 years old.

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It is a beautiful journey to be on. Sometimes it is very

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painful, because we learned to engage in situations that make

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us feel good in the moment. But then realize that feeling good,

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should not always be the goal, the aim,

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sometimes feeling good as they are to distract and to

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guide us further away from who we are, because we think we have

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to change we think to

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overly adapt in order to feel comfortable with other people.

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And that is good for some time. But you will reach a point where

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you don't know who you are anymore.

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And that's a scary place to be.

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So once you go within and see that you steered away

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for too long, too far off from your own path.

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It can be very disturbing and sobering. And that's what you

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know, people don't expect at times, they want change, they

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want to feel better.

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But they think it's going to be an easy path, they think it's

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going to be fun, and that they be laughing. Others think it's

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going to be way too hard and not worth it. And it's more

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comfortable and easier and time effective to stay on the path.

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So everybody has a very different view on change on

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being authentic.

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We're slowly but surely approaching the end of 2021. And

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what I love to ask myself towards the end of the year is

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what is it I want to stop doing?

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What is it that I want to slowly? Let go off?

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What is it that doesn't serve me anymore?

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Second question would be what is it I want to start doing? What

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is it I want more of in my life?

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So take a moment and maybe you know already while I'm talking

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what you want to embrace a little more in the future and

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what you want to let go off.

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And it is so important to try and envision yourself.

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Who would you like to be down the road?

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If you go a couple of weeks ahead a couple months ahead a

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couple of years maybe even who's the person you would like to be?

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What would be most sustainable for you.

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But let's get back to what we want to stop doing and let go

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most of the time, if not all of the time, what we're engaging in

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and what we want to let go of in the future. We are doing

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initially to make ourselves feel good

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to make ourselves

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like more functional and okay

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It is not things that we just engage, and then yeah, we don't

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like them anymore, we engage in addiction, we engage in certain

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behaviors for a very, very specific reason. And that is to

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feel better to be able to cope.

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So to just stop doing that behavior is not gonna work, of

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course, you could cold turkey it and just stop doing it. And some

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people are very successful at that. But most people stopped

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doing

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something, I don't want to talk only about addictions, but

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habits. And then slowly through the backdoor, that habit creeps

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back in as soon as should go sideways. As soon as, yeah,

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things become difficult. And we are being reminded of why we

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initially started that behavior.

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So again, it can be pretty much everything it can be alcohol,

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video, gaming,

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emotional eating, whatever you come up with, to distract from

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your pain.

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And this is so important to attempt to have a coach at your

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side. Because with your coach, you explore why you initially

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engaged in that behavior, and then you start your healing

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journey.

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And you just start replacing this behavior that you want to

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change, get rid of, with a new behavior that is more

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beneficial.

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And what is it you want to see down the road? What is it that

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you want to, you know, have more in your life? And how can you

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keep your goal in mind? And vision it?

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If not on a on a hourly, but on a daily? And what are the baby

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steps that you can get?

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Or that you can take towards your goal?

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I think that is such an incredibly important question.

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Because sometimes we have a goal. And then we see people on

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Facebook, on Instagram, in our life that are there already we

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feel like and then we feel discouraged. Or another example

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is we set a goal. But we're not really making baby steps or any

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steps towards our goal. And after a couple of weeks or

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months, we just drop it because we feel there's no point

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anyways.

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So this again, is something that your coach will help you with is

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to stay accountable, and to explore what kind of steps you

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would like to take in order to get closer to your goals.

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So

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first of all, find out what is it you want more in your life?

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is a joy, is it love is a connection? isn't money?

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And what is it? You want less?

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Is a drama? Is it confusion? Is it miscommunication? Is it

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health issues, money issues?

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Loneliness.

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And then we can go from there and see

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how we can reach these goals.

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You can hear it in my voice already. I'm very calm, close to

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being sleepy. But it is that time of year where you know the

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days are really short here in North America. And you really go

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within and reflect and allow this. I know our society here is

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doing quite the opposite.

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Which doesn't make any sense, but this is how it is. But if

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you are aware that Mother Nature is actually wanting you to get

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to go inside and to go a little slower. And yes, society around

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us is going crazy and it's all about planning and controlling

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and influencing and buying presents.

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And that can drive some of us severely crazy.

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So I encourage you to make time be it in the morning in the

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evening. Or if possible in middle of the day for you too.

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To be alone with yourself and reflect and enjoy your company.

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And if you don't enjoy a company that you see, hey, what is it

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that I want to change? If I don't really like being with

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myself, if I don't like to look myself in the eyes in the

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mirror, then I would suggest we need change.

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And that is okay. Change can be very uncomfortable. Change is

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not going to be the I feel good route all the time.

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But the end goal is going to be so satisfying. To feel authentic

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to feel you can be yourself is so incredibly precious. And all

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the pain all the digging all the unfolding that needs to happen

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before is totally worth it.

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I hope you know how precious you are. And not only because you're

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listening to my podcast, but because if you are listening to

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my podcast, it means you are growth oriented. You like to

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challenge yourself. He likes to make this place a better world.

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And you are willing to look at yourself instead

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doing the work instead of blaming and shaming the outside

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world. So let me tell you, I'm incredibly proud of who you are.

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And I'm so blessed to have you here on this journey.

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If ever you feel ready, reach out to me and schedule a coach

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call. I would love to support you. I would love to empower

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you. And the people who have reached out so far are Yeah,

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again such a blessing. I learned so much. And we grow together

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and it's just an incredible way

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of connecting with people.

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Alright

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and if you want to connect with me on Facebook, Aurora Eggert or

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Aurora Eggert coaching is where you can find me. Until next

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time, take care. Bye bye