Ep. 5 Your mind can be a trickster. [self-awareness]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. I hope you're doing well. I hope you

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feel good, you feel safe, you feel light and uplifted. And if

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you do not feel that way today, I hope I can brighten up your

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day and inspire you empower you. I'm so very grateful to be

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spending a couple minutes with you. And thank you so much for

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choosing my podcast here. Today, I want to talk about your mind

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and how your mind can be your worst enemy and trickster. All

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too often we think that our circumstances, other people,

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just the world outside of us is making our life miserable and

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difficult. And yes, sometimes it's the case. But what I want

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to say today is that most of the time, it is our mind, it is our

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ego, it is our old self that is trying to hold us back that is

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trying to hold us in the well known. And it is very difficult

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to point it out and to call yourself out on this. Let's call

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it BS. Because we feel that our thoughts are so true. We feel

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that our situation is so hopeless, we feel that we really

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are not resourceful enough to conquer certain situations. And

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it is really, yeah, tough to be in a position where you feel

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hopeless and unsupported. And then you're being made aware of

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your mind and how it is playing games and how you are supported,

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you are loved, you have all the resources you need to be

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successful to be content to live a fulfilled life. Yet your own

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mind is putting stones in your way. And it is a coping

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mechanism I want to say it is a way of our mind to trying to

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protect us from potential future pain, we must have gone through

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some kind of trauma in the past that our mind that our brain is

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trying to prevent us from making mistakes again. But what it does

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when we believe in these thoughts in these limiting

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beliefs is that we close ourselves up to new paths to new

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ways of seeing the world to a new attitude. Sometimes, yeah,

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it feels very uncomfortable to be on a new path. And we don't

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really know what's going to happen, it's uncertain. We feel

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we are a pioneer. And at times we feel very courageous and

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brave. But then there will be days where doubt, especially

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self doubt, will creep up on us and where a little comment from

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a person in our life can just totally throw us off off or no

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comment from our people around us and no approval. That can

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also throw us off when we feel insecure and uncertain. So I

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think what I want to share with you is that the tricky part

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about becoming your strongest version, your best version is to

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keep believing in yourself and to keep pushing for novelty and

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expansion. And of course to allow breaks as well and to know

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that

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growth is not a linear process. as they can be little detours,

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they can be breaks and rest of which are incredibly important.

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You have to take breaks, and look at how far you came and be

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proud of yourself and, and then continue, you can just push for

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progress and growth all the time. But let's look at someone

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like me, for instance, who is on the path of becoming an

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entrepreneur. I'm a life coach, and I'm growing my business. And

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of course, there's days at times where I feel overwhelmed, where

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I'm so uncertain about how my path is gonna look like. But I

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have to keep going, I can't go back. I don't want to go back. I

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know exactly what I want. But still, there's days where I feel

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unsupported, where I feel uncertain where I wish I was

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employed and had a regular paycheck. But it is okay to be

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uncertain. And I have to tell my ego and my mind that it is okay.

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to not feel supported at times, to feel supported, and to have

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support from the outside world is a bonus. But you got to

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believe in yourself. First, I have to believe in myself first.

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Because no one else can do this. They will know how to support

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you, if they don't know, if you really want what you're pushing

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for. And sometimes we do the people around us wrong in

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thinking that they are not supporting us. Maybe they just

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don't know. Maybe you just don't express yourself enough with

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what your dreams will look like or are looking like. And

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sometimes we are so caught up in pain from the past, that we

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project the pain from the past, onto the present moment. And

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even into the future. Right? If you grew up with a sibling, and

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your sibling, you know was maybe successful at a sport or found

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their purpose or found a good job that they're really

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passionate about. And you to this day don't really know what

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life is about and what the purpose is here. So you feel

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that your parents prefer your sibling, you feel insecure, you

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feel inferior. But you're actually doing your parents

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wrong, because they probably love you just as much as your

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sibling. But it is you who's insecure and frustrated that you

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don't have found that you didn't find sorry, your purpose yet. So

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it is incredibly important to work on your stuff and to know

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that you can count on yourself. And the only way to do this is

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to get to know your Self best. And to know that you have flaws,

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you have weaknesses, you have strength, you have moods, you

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have a past, you have made mistakes, you failed maybe

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already. But this is all not an excuse to go and read for your

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dreams and to aim high to dream really big. It is so important

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to also have that one person that you can go and talk to when

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you feel self doubt creeping up. I'm just thinking about this now

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because

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it is wrong to think that we can all do it by ourselves, we need

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that one person that knows us that asked the right questions.

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And that reminds of us of who we are. Because sometimes we are so

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lost in our mind, in our self doubts and our confusion in our

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uncertainty, that we forget who we are. And you have that one

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person who is always cheering for you, and they might not be,

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you know, their day in day out, or maybe on a weekly basis, they

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might be very far. Yet when you decide to meet up with them,

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then, you know, they're going to remind you of who you are. And

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that's the utmost important thing to never forget. Because

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who you are is going to make you see what you're made of, and

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will make you see what your purpose is. And then you will

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listen to your thoughts and to your mind when it comes up with

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overly protective systems. And you will be just able to turn

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the volume down. And to put that little beast into a corner and

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to tell it, hey, I got everything under control. You

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are part of me. But I'm not going to let you steer the

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wheel. I can feel in my heart that I'm on the right path. And

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I'm approaching this project, the stream the school, whatever

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it is, with a new fresh attitude, and approach. And yes,

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it is scary. But I want to try it out this way. And everything

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is going to be okay. I will be okay. So yeah, you can even name

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let that little monkey mind of yours, and know that it is going

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to come up. And sometimes you will think that it is the people

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around you who make you feel insecure and amplify a self

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doubt. But they can only have a say in your life, if you believe

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what you're saying. Right? If they were gonna say something

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that is totally ridiculous, and that you don't believe, then you

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don't feel affected by it. But as soon as we have a part in

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ourselves that believe what the other person is saying to us.

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Mess is hard. If you say that in English, so you got to learn to

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distinguish between your core soul calling, and between your

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monkey mind that is trying to keep you safe and make us play

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small and be jealous and competitive and insecure and

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look right and left at all times. Because who knows where

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the next dramas gonna come from. You can put that little devil

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into a corner. And know that you can reconnect to your soul to

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your core values to who you truly are, whenever you allow

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peace and silence. And we're all capable of doing that. Even

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though we live in a crazy busy world today. And again, a coach

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or a friend, a family member who truly knows you who knows how to

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speak to you is incredibly valuable on this path of growth

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and healing. All right. I think that was my message of the day

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and I wish you a good rest of your day or good evening or good

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morning wherever you're at right now. Thank you so much for being

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here. Thank you so much for subscribing to my podcast. And

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more about myself too and my background and how I approach

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coaching and yeah, I'm just very excited to engage on that path.

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