Ep.4 Low or no sexdrive when too much stress and tension is present in your body [relationships]

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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you would like to have addressed, never hold back and

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just shoot me a message there. Today, I want to talk about

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tension and building up a buildup of tension and energy

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inside of your physique. That sometimes gets so intense that

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we feel the need to lash out and release it. And most of the time

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comes out in the most awkward ways or we can't quite

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understand why our body doesn't really function. Like we want it

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to function because we're not aware of the energy buildup that

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has happened over the day. It is really important to be aware of

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how you build up energy during the day. It can be very passive,

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through listening to the news, watching the news, scrolling

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through Facebook or integral Instagram, and having thoughts

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and feelings pop up that are not necessarily in the front, you

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know in your awareness, but run in the background like a

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software like an app sucking energy from you. It is really

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interesting to see how some news some people, some activities

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help us to be relaxed to be our best version. And then there is

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other content, other energies without being on getting to

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spiritual that we soak in, that are sucking energy out of us,

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drain us and even build up tension inside of us. So I want

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to raise awareness when it comes to that because I've talked

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about erectile dysfunction a couple weeks ago, now a couple

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months ago. And our sexual drive or sexual energy is intensely

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tied into how we feel as being how we feel in our environment,

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how we feel with other people, how we feel when we consume news

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through our senses, our eyes, our ears. When we eat we're also

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getting in information of course the better quality of food you

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eat, the better you feel in your body. So when you become aware

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of these tensions, you know an extreme example would be having

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an argument with a person that you care about and not quiet.

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Resolving the argument not quite walking away in you know a

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relief but You feel this stem, still some weird

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energy between you guys. And you walk away. It's not the end of

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the world, but it doesn't feel quite good. And you get

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headaches, you get a stiff neck, you get tense shoulders, some

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people are belly people and become a sore stomach, the next

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meal that you're going to ingest is going to taste good in the

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moment, but afterwards, you feel you have digestive problems,

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without going too much into detail. Some people are

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constipated, or some people have the runs, when there's something

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emotionally, energetically bugging them. And what is really

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important to learn to do, once we have an energy build up like

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this, after an argument, or after we, you know, had a day of

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doing doing doing running, running, running, getting things

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done accomplishing pleasing other people living up to your

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own standards you can hear and the tone of my voice already it

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is intense we're running around then we have to shake it off.

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And we have to learn what the best way is of shaking that

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energy off. It can be a warm or a hot bath, it can be a run a

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walk with the intention to release energy not further build

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up energy. I know so many people who go for a run who go to the

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gym. And afterwards, they're even more stressed out because

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they entered the gym, they started the running with the

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same energy intention, like they were running their whole day. So

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they were not able to shake tension off but to further build

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it up. And that's not what we want. For some people it is yoga

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or meditation. For some people yoga and meditation is like a

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red flag and they absolutely need something physical where

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they feel a release. For other people it is sex. And what I

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want to say about that is that if you use sex with the wrong

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intention, and in this case, it would be to release energy from

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your body. It is not okay, because what you're doing in

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that moment is that you pour that energy into your partner.

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And that's not really fair, what you have to learn is that you

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release that energy first, and then choose to consciously

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connect with your partner. There's people who were that

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tension build up are really good at becoming an erection. But

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there's also a lot of people who, when having that energy

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roaming inside of them are on a very different page. They might

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have sexual thoughts and fantasies and desires. But on a

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physical level, there is nothing there. There is no erection

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there is no juicy wetness on the females side of things. And they

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just can't quite access their sexual energy. And this is

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happening when we were not able to release our stresses before

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connecting with our partner. Another thing that I certainly

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want to recommend here is that you can openly talk about this

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with your friends, with your partner with whoever you're

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going to connect on that day and maybe release stress together.

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And by releasing stress together, I don't mean that we

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start nagging and complaining and dumping our bucket of stress

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onto the other person. But we consciously engage in activities

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together that we know are going to help us release stress. So

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again, it can be walking, it can be swimming.

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It can be just laying on a bench on a park bench and watching the

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grass grow, it can be gazing stars. It can be a tea ceremony.

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It can be making music, creating something painting, expressing

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yourself. And of course, you can do that with people together. It

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really depends how you are wired. If you're more of an

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extrovert and you feel energized and awesome when you are

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surrounded by people, or if you are more of an introvert and you

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need a long term downtime in order to recharge your

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batteries. So all this is here for you to feel inspired and

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excited to explore who you are, how you are wired, how can you

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release energy. And maybe if you have been engaging and very

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upbeat ways of releasing energies, maybe you want to do

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the opposite day, or the next time you feel tensed. And see

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how that feels. You'd be surprised how some people who

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had huge resistance to meditation, for instance,

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instantly enjoy it and grasp what it's all about and make

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their own little practice and create something that really

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helps them on their path. So be creative. Be open to try

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something new, and share. What's your experiences. Tell me what

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you tried and tell me what you observed. What was it that

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builds energy up inside of you that made you feel tense? And

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what were you able to do afterwards in order to release

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that energy? All right. Thank you so much for being here and

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will be out there very soon again. Bye bye.