Ep.4 Self image - What conclusions have you made about yourself?

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No and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm so

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happy to be spending some time with you. And I hope I can

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create a space where you can. Yeah, rest and relax, recharge

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your batteries, reflect. And at times, maybe.

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Yeah, change your attitude change your perspective on

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situations on life, when it gets a little bit rough or

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complicated. Sometimes it's a simple change of perspective

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that can help you so much in the moment helps you give the power

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you need the patience, you need to keep going. You are not

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alone. We are all in this together. And yeah, I hope you

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know that. There's always someone out there you can reach

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out to

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if you wish to reach out to me. Reach out to me on Facebook or

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Instagram, Aurora Eggert or Aurora Eggert coaching on

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Instagram the Borealis experience,

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it would mean the world to me to know where you're coming from?

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And yeah, what motivates motivates you or inspires you?

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Or what you are struggling with?

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Today, I want to talk about your self image. And how much do you

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need approval from others in order to be feel content?

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Or successful?

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When we talk about self image? What do we mean I think self

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image is simply put.

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When you look into the mirror, the things you feel and see. Are

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you proud of yourself? Do you fully accept yourself? Can you

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look yourself into the eyes?

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Or don't you really give attention

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to what you see in the mirror? Or even worse? Do you look at

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yourself and just feel desperate? Not good? Maybe even

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hateful? Do you reject what you see in the mirror?

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It tells me a lot. When I asked you how do you feel when you see

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a full body picture when you look at yourself in the mirror

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on how you react.

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And what I find so incredibly sad is that we live in a society

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here in North America, where it's socially acceptable to hate

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yourself and to reject your body. And sometimes it's even

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the way people bond with each other. I find that so sickening.

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That's not good. And with my podcast with my coaching with

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everything I do, I'm trying to change this because it's not

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going to get us anywhere. As society I feel it is weakening

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us.

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Sometimes we experienced something in our life that

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changed our perspective on ourselves that changed our self

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image.

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Maybe we were heartbroken. Maybe we were rejected by friends. And

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now we think we're not deserving. We're not worthy.

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We're not enough.

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Sometimes it is our own family, our parents who make us feel as

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not enough.

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And a deeply influences our quality of life. If your self

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image is poor, if you look down on yourself, it is very hard to

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be out there shining, to be out there pursuing your purpose and

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to be successful because you will feel like

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a fake person you will feel inauthentic

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So what's most important? When I talk to people in my coaching

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sessions, and they talk to me about their dreams, and where

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they want to

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get to in their lives is to find out how do they look at

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themselves? Do they actually like themselves?

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Or do they,

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I don't know, abused themselves into health and happiness, to

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portray a picture to the outside world,

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that everything is okay.

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But from the inside, nothing is okay.

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And when we have that

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disbalance, I don't know, if you say that in English imbalance.

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It is very exhausting. It is very tiring, and nobody can run

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on that imbalance for all too long, you're gonna exhaust

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yourself, you're not going to be successful in a sustainable way.

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And then when it comes to self image, a lot of the times, it is

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very dependent on how you grew up.

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What did your parents tell you?

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Was you sent messages of love and acceptance, and empowerment?

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Believe in yourself. And you could really feel it, it really

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felt like, yeah, my people are supporting accepting me fully,

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and I can do whatever I want, and I'll be successful.

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I have their support?

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Or did you receive the message that

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you could be different, you could do things differently, and

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what you're passionate about is not really worthy to pursue.

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We'd rather you pursue something else, you would be way more

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successful. If you would study this, if you would do that.

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Instead, what you are trying to put energy into and grow

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is not really worth it.

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Can you change? Can you adapt? Can you be a different person?

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Sometimes we get these messages from the people that we need

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support the most from the people we long to be accepted the most.

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And I get it, it is so crazy difficult to liberate yourself

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from that because this is where you first learned

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what love is.

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And this is people that you look up to this is people that you

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want to feel supported from.

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But you are on this planet.

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To shine your own light, I get it. We are born into a family

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and we want a sense of belonging. And that is very

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important, very critical. But we also need you to be out there as

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an individual.

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And sometimes you got to be a little pioneer, you got to be

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the person who does something new in their family.

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And you will meet resistance, you will meet disapproval,

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sometimes even rejection.

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Because you're going to stretch other people's belief systems,

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you're going to challenge people because you will be doing things

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that they themselves would never do.

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Or don't have the guts

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to do

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and that's the hard part. to still keep pushing for your

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dreams and to still believe in yourself when other people that

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you love and used to look up to

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and want the approval from

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don't give you the support that you need.

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So I'm here to tell you that if you are the person who's

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listening and

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presently struggling

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because you don't feel supported

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this

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means that you need to talk more about your desires and dreams to

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people that can hear you to people who have done what you

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want to do in the future, before you

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people who are on a similar path.

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And those people will be excited to hear about your story, they

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will be excited to support you. And you will be able to acquire

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the tools and the skills to get closer to your dreams to your

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purpose.

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And first, you will not receive the support from your parents or

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from your siblings or from your friends or whoever it is who's

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not supporting supporting you right now, but you desperately

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want it.

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But there will come a point. And sometimes it's at the very end,

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sometimes it's after people pass.

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But it shouldn't matter. This is what I'm here to tell you that

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sometimes people will realize, oh my god, he actually is a

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beautiful artist, he actually is putting his energy into

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something I totally Yeah, have difficulties to align with,

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identify with, but he's bringing value

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to society. And now I get the message.

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So sometimes people will net need time

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to support you down the road, sometimes they will never really

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support you. The important thing is that you free yourself from

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needing that approval, that you free yourself from weird

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conclusions that you've made down the road about yourself

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that you're not worthy that you're not deserving, that you

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are not good enough.

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And then go ahead,

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clear your mind

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and pursue your dream. And along the way, meet the people that

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are in direct alignment with your dream. Because if you're

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excited, if you're passionate about something, if you express

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your desires, to somebody who can relate to it,

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they will open doors, they will help you, they will see that you

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have something to share. And you need to find an outlet you need

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to channel that energy out so that everybody can see it and

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benefit from it.

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If you do not pursue your dreams, if you do not get into

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alignment with your purpose, because you want the approval of

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people,

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you will end up and suffering because you are meant to shine

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your light.

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And you are meant to pursue your purpose to benefit humanity.

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And if you shy away, if you feel that belonging is more important

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than living your authentic life.

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I've learned that

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I hate to use the word but you will get punished for it. You

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will get punished with

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feeling not enough feeling inauthentic. And sometimes when

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we feel these feelings for too long, we become depressed

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taking a deep breath here because this

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episode is like such a sweet spot when it comes to my work

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when it comes to my passion.

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And I've suffered for so long.

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And I'm really hoping that I can give you the tools for a little

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shortcut. You know, I get it. Every person has to go through

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their pain and suffering and grow at their own pace. But

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there is something inside of me that really truly hopes that if

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you hear that message

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that you can suffer a little less long than I did.

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It took me a day

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Qaid if not more, and if it just takes you one year or two, to be

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ready to receive this message, then I feel good about it

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already. If it doesn't take you 12 years.

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I hope this all makes sense to you. I hope

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I can connect with you down the road and you can share your

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story with me. And this is an episode that was requested.

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And I hope I was able to Yeah, deliver, never hesitate to

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request an episode from me and I'll do my best to serve you.

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And if you feel like you need a little bit more specific

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inspiration, empowerment, then book a coaching call with me.

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The first 60 minutes are for free. And my clients

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like can confirm that after two sessions at times, they were

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able to make significant changes in their lives that will help

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them

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for the rest of their lives. I'm not wanting to wanting to make

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you dependent on me. I'm one to truly empower you and liberate

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you.

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So yeah,

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this was it for today. I'm very excited to publish this one and

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I will be out there very soon again. take really good care of

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yourself.