Ep.35 From heartbreak and being unemployed to happiness and fulfillment.

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm so happy to be spending some time with you

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today. And very excited to be sharing an interview with mouse.

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He wants to share his story how he was stuck in pain and misery

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and depression for so long. But then got out of it step by step

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and is now living a life where he attracts more and more people

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that are in alignment with him. He has a job that fulfills them

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and make him feel really good. He's able to help people when it

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comes to their finances. And yeah, was able to get out of the

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struggle. And I reached out to him, because I feel it's very

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valuable to hear stories like that, especially when you are

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still stuck in pain and misery. Or if you feel better, but you

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want to find like minded people. This is what my platform is

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about. I'm all about showcasing or Yeah, picking out guys that I

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feel are awesome role models, people that if I had kids, I

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want them to look up to. There's too many bullies and aggression

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out there who are in power and in focusing and putting our

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attention on. Good guys. So to say guys who went through

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hardship, and are living from the heart now, I feel we can

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make this world a better place. So here we go, mouse. It's your

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show from now on. And, yeah, share your story with us where

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it all began.

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Sure. I mean, first of all, thanks for having me. It's

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awesome. I've listened to a couple of your podcasts. And I

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really liked them so far. So appreciate you having me on

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today. So I'm looking forward to spending some time with you.

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So I guess we'll start

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a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away. I grew up in a

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mall town of 600 people, so v ry small hick town, farmer

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own.

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And I, you know, had a really good growing up, but you know,

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nothing too bad or nothing like that. I played lots of sports

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and hockey, you know, lots of outdoor activities, all that

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good stuff. up to the age of 16. You know, I got into

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skateboarding and snowboarding. So I kind of quit hockey, I had

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some, you know, issues there. I was always picked on in high

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school. You know, I was the skateboarder kid in town, or you

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know, people that were you know, had money or preppies, we call

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them anyways. I mean, I was always nice and friendly, but I

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didn't you know, I wasn't in part of that clip kind of deal.

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So I was kind of like the black sheep, which was fine. I was

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okay with that. I was I had a happy growing, growing up all

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that good stuff. And then, when I was 18, you know, I decided to

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go to go to college somewhere. And I didn't really think about

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it. I just knew I was really good with numbers. I did really

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well in high school, I was an honor student in most classes,

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and really good with numbers and stuff like that. And I like to

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draw, not that I was an artist, but no drawing on the computer

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and drafting and stuff like that. So I was interested in

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that. So I went jumped straight into high college from high

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school, went to Nate and Edmonton and I took design

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adopting engineering. And I got a job as a mechanical engineer,

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technologist. And later on I you know, I did that for 16 years,

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and I became a professional technologist. So that was great,

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but we'll go jump back a bit there to my younger years. So

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you know, when I moved to Edmonton, I actually got really,

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really good at snowboarding. And I got recognized. So I got a

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couple store sponsors within Edmonton, you know, I go to all

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the contests, jump contests and handrail contests in Edmonton,

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and then I would probably get the top five every time. One

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year I actually went every single contest I went in, which

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was pretty cool.

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I went into some contests in Jasper and ferny and Lake

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Louise, those areas I placed first tied for second and third.

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And some of those so like I said, I was I had a really

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successful career, you know, snowboarding and it was really

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fun, but you know, it didn't pay the bills. So I always had my

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serious career as a mechanical engineer, technologist. And

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things are going great. You know, I was having a good time

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in my young 20s I go to the bar, I'd meet lots of people. I spent

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a lot of time on the bar. I won't lie. But you know, I

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played a lot of pool so I wouldn't go to the bar to drink

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and party I'd go to play pool pretty much but I went a lot so

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I did end up getting really good that pool and I play in a pool

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league right now as well.

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But I, you know, my young 20s I had a great life, you know, I

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was unstoppable, felt undefeated, I was, you know,

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great health, um, and life was good. And then, you know, I fell

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in love with a girl younger.

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That didn't turn out how heartbroken I was. I'm a very

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emotional reactive person. So you know, I wear my heart on my

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sleeve. So I had my heart broken at a young age. And then around

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age 25, I had another girl that I fell in love with, that didn't

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turn out very well. And I mean, some friends got involved, and

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it was not a good situation. So I kind of stepped away from from

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dating.

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And then, you know, a couple years later, like, 1015 years

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later, I reconnected with a girl. And we started dating

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again, and she had a child and she's someone I really liked

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beforehand. It just didn't work out. So I gave her a second try.

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Um, this happened around 2015 when oil crashed.

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So I ended up by, you know, mean her data for two years. And it

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didn't end very well, you know, she was that type of person. I'm

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not, no, I don't want to sit here and badmouth anybody, it

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just, she just wasn't a good person to me or anything in my

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life. She was very

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negative, and kind of, I don't know, like I said, I don't want

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to bad mouth here. But after that relationship, you know, I

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was heartbroken. And I kind of think I had some type of post

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traumatic stress syndrome come from that, because anytime I met

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a girl, like, four months later, I met a girl and I just I get

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bad anxiety to my stomach. And I start to feel like throwing up

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and stuff, and I got to get out of that situation. So I didn't

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handle dating very well. So I just stayed single, because the

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best way to avoid drama is staying single. I mean, I I've

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always wanted to fall in love. But I found the pain of having

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my heart broken was way worse than any love I've ever felt. So

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to me, being single and staying away from girls, maybe hobby, if

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I, if I, you know, became happy, learn to be happy with myself

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being single. And you know, I've always liked being with a girl

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like my ex girlfriend, like we were together every single day,

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we were best friends. And that was great. But the pain of you

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know, not her not wanting me ever again kind of deal and her

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moving on and stuff. I just couldn't handle it. Um, at that

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time, the oil crashed, and I was laid off after 16 years with my

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job. So I wasn't in a very good emotional state.

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Our economy in Alberta was the worst it's ever been since I've

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ever been alive.

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We've had some bad times. But this is the worst because I went

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two years for searching for a job and couldn't find nothing in

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life. You

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know, I even look for work in other fields. But because of my

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experience, and the wage I was working before and my workflow

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background, you know, they were saying, why do we hire you if

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you're just going to jump back into the oil when it picks up?

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Because that was the thought going around? Right?

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So I couldn't find a job for two years. So I mean, I did leave

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with a severance package for my job. You know, I was debt free,

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financially good. I had a mortgage and a nice car. But I

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couldn't find work for two years, I got a nice severance

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package. So I use this smartly. I was always good with money.

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And finances. Like I said, I was debt free. And then during that

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two years of not working, I you know, I was looking for work, I

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sent over 200 job applications probably had about 12 or 13

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interviews, maybe things just weren't going my way. So I

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pretty much spent two years doing nothing but saving money

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looking for work. And I'm staying away from people I just

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I wasn't very sociable anymore. I was that type of person, I'd

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love to see my friends and family, I would talk my ear off.

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Whenever I see them. I was just that social, sociable type of

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person. But those years when I was when I had a heartbreak and

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loss, my joy just didn't feel like talking to anybody. So I

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became a hermit. And I mean, which was great because you

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know, it was gave me time to heal. Although, you know, my

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finances kind of dwindle, I start going into debt, because I

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couldn't find work. And life just I didn't know what to do.

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Um, I wasn't like too concerned about it. But I knew I wasn't

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heading in the right direction. So I started looking at other

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opportunities. And my mom was helping me out. She works in

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finance. She's a bookkeeper. And she came across this one ad for

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a finance career. And she wanted to check it out. And before she

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sat down with them and found out what it was all about, she

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invited me to come.

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So I went check it out. And it was a financial broker,

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financial advisor, and to be 100% honest, so with my

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engineering career of 16 years, probably after about eight or 10

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years, I started thinking like, do I really want to be doing

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engineering the same job for the rest of my life? Like I didn't

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get a promotion, I kept getting, you know, more money, more

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responsibility, but I pretty much did the exact same job for

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16 years. So I was getting old.

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You know, what am I going to do with my life and I mean, I

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wasn't looking

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changed, I was just having these thoughts and I, you know,

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started the dream, what would I like to do, if I ever found the

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ideal job, and I've always liked helping people like meeting and

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talking to people. So I came up with an idea to start a company

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like Google.

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So instead of you typing in searching for things, you could

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just call me. You know,

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if I knew a plumber, or I knew, you know, I had so much

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experience in my life, you know, driving around the city, the

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fastest way to get here, there, I always thought it would be a

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good idea that I could, you know, if someone wanted any type

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of advice, like, they could call me, but, you know, I was just

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daydreaming kind of deal. Um, and then, you know, I got laid

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off, which was, to me, it was the best thing ever, I felt like

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this big weight lifted off me because I knew I was getting a

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severance package. And I wasn't sure if this was the job or, or

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type of career I wanted to do for the rest of my life. And I

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found out shortly after that, that that job that I was with

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for 16 years, you know, the oil industry was a very poisonous

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atmosphere, very negative.

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But I didn't realize that I didn't know I always thought I

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was a positive person. But you know, at that point, people

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started saying that I was being a little bit negative, and I

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didn't know, you know, didn't know what's going on. So

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anyways, whenever I found this new career, and I thought it was

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great, because it actually had a lot of the ideas in place that I

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wanted to do when I was brainstorming at my old job.

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With my new financial job, you know, I'd cover many areas in

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finance. Um, you know, like, I do so many different things that

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I'm kind of like your one stop shop for everything financial.

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So now, I had that idea of giving people advice. If they

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needed something, they could just call me. Now I am that

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person. They need advice on anything financial, you know,

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I'm an expert now, so I can help them, which is great. But

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another part of my business, too, is meeting people

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networking. So I just like meeting other people, not

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necessarily for business, but just to make connections, but by

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making connections with other people's and their businesses.

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When I talk to a client and say, I'm sitting down doing some

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finances, but I never say Oh, your your kitchen isn't

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finished, what are you doing or doing some renovations, like,

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Hey, you know what I know a guy that can help you. And so that

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idea of being the go to person helping people out was just,

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this is just awesome. So I've really loved my career. I've

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been doing it for almost four years now. Now another thing

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about this career that I like is it provided a very positive

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motivational atmosphere 100% 180% different are no 180

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degrees different from my engineering job. And the

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negative poisonous environment. This is you know, you bring

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people up honestly, if you're not our office, and nobody high

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fives you within five minutes is weird. Like, that's the type of

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positivity people always happy to see, you know, if you need

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help people there. So just being getting out of the bar scene

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hanging out with a lot of those acquaintances, I thought were my

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friends. You know, they were not necessarily driving me down, but

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they weren't really serving me any greater purpose. Now, with

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my new career, you know, I'm hanging out with very successful

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people, people with dreams, people, visions, people that

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want to make a difference in the world. I started realizing, hey,

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you know, that was how I used to think. So now, no, being just

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around different associations was first step for me of healing

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and being better. Now, I just, you know, I had a place to be I

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belonged, I was starting to get happy, I was actually, you know,

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I tell this within my company all the time, you know, I've

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changed my life. I've been happier now than I've ever been

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in my entire life, which is awesome.

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But that's only part of it. So within my company, you know,

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we're always developing and looking or looking for good

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people. Because we want to develop leaders, you know,

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people to be role models, or, you know, if you're going to be

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running a business and running a team of people, you've got to

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be, you know, a very good person of credibility, you know,

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integrity, all that good stuff. So personal development within

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my company is highly recommended. So we do lots of

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classes, lots of teaching, you know, recommendations on stuff

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like that. So I got into personal loans. So first of all,

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I hated to read books, I hated reading period.

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So reading books tend to struggle. So I didn't do that

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for the first couple of years of my business. Um, they kept

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bugging me and I kept saying, Oh, I get it all. But I said,

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the reading aspect, so I didn't do it, you know. And then

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finally, I started finding books that I wanted to read, not

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necessarily, you know, the act of reading, but the stuff in the

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books that I'm going to learn and I started to like that a lot

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more than the actual act of reading. So now I like reading a

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little bit better. Like I was painfully I'd read 10 pages and

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probably an hour, an hour and a half, because I kind of have a

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little bit of ADHD maybe a little bit. So I read a couple

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pages and forget what I was thinking. So that's why I've

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never liked reading. But now that I'm liking the information

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I'm reading about and taking it in, I'm starting to really like

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reading. So I've been reading a lot of personal development

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books, a lot to do with my business, my industry, but a lot

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of it has to do with mindset, too.

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Our company, we don't just help people with lifestyle or with

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finances, we help them with lifestyle. So you know, if if

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they aren't eating healthier stuff like that, you know,

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that's the type of stuff we don't, you know, we are not paid

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to do that. But that's the type of lifestyle that we're,

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what's it called, that's the type of lifestyle they want us

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to have. Because it doesn't, you know, you're not happier when

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you eat healthier, and all that good stuff. So, you know, I

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started reading books and getting better at that. And then

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I read a couple books that changed my life.

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There they are books by Dr. Joe dispenza.

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The ones called becoming supernatural. So read them in

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the wrong order. I read becoming supernatural. And I'm now on a

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book called breaking the habit of being yourself.

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And they talk about it's the science behind meditation and

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why it works. Which was awesome. You know, I always thought

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meditation like and I'm not religious, I don't really

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believe in spiritual stuff. Although I've had weird

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encounters, where now I'm starting to believe it, but in

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these books, explains the science behind them. And I'm a

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science and numbers guy. So it relates a lot to me. So now I

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understand, you know why meditation works. And all this

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stuff, I started to be more aware of my brain is changing my

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mindset, and a different person. In doing so with reading his

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books, he teaches you how you can become trapped in a past

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present loop, meaning you're letting your your past emotions

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and memories influenced the way you feel now, and that manifests

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some of the same stuff in the future. So if you're negative

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attitude, you're gonna manifest negative stuff, it's because

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you're trapped in a kind of tight, weird loop. So I started

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to understand that and started to, you know, learn the science

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behind why that happens, I'm not going to go into too much

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detail, because there's a lot to it. It could be confusing, but

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you know, just first step is being aware. So the kind of some

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summarize, or kind of what I got from these couple books so far,

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is

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once you become aware of what you're thinking and what you're

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doing, you can actually control your future, you can control how

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you're going to feel so the way that it works is most people

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live in survival mode. They're not aware that you know, their

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brain is so powerful, they just live on survival instincts.

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Survival Mode is what it's called. It's you know, that's

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living with your past memories, emotions being attached to your

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past, and all that stuff. So what it does is it changes your,

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your circuitry in your body to do the same, some of the same

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that you did in the past. So now that you're now that I'm aware

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of my mindset, and that I can actually break these habits of

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being my old self, I can learn how to create a new future.

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So just being happy. You know, gratitude. Meditation has been

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wonders for me. And I, like not lying at all. I started

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meditating in November, and I seen instant results in my life.

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I started attracting good things in my life. I was had that

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mindset for years where I thought, you know, this world

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sucks. Why is everything bad always happened to me? Stuff

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like that. I was like, not that I was a victim. It was more

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like, why'd Why am I living in life in hardmode.

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And I just had those thoughts. But now after starting

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meditating, I'm starting to learn how to manifest and bring

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good things into my life. And things are starting to roll

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really well now. So like I said, My business is way better than

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it's ever been, and we happier than I've ever been. And I'm

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just so grateful for all the books that I have read. And you

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know, I'm looking forward to the books I'm going to read. I'm

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looking forward to meeting my future self, because I know now

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that I'm on the right path now that I've learned how to dream

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again, how to, you know, have a vision and goals for the future,

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I'm going to achieve them and now I feel you know,

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unstoppable, I feel happier, more in control of my life than

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I've ever been. And it's great. You know, the biggest thing

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about having a good life is you got to be you got to be thankful

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you got up gratitude, you have to project happy thoughts in

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your brain, you got to kind of force yourself to be happy. Does

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that tell you break your phone can be native, once you start

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getting into the habit of that, you know, you'll be happier,

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life will get better. But you got to continually work on it.

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It's not something you can leave because if you let your life go

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back to autopilot, you know, you'll pull back to those same

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things. You always have to you know, put effort into being

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happy, being positive, make a difference in the world. You

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know, you can't just make yourself be happy, but you can

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prepare yourself for the day. So my meditations I do them first

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thing in the morning.

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I'm very reactive person. So what my meditations helped me do

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is all are first of all, you know, think about things in the

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future. I want to be healthy in the future. Be grateful for the

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future I'm going to have but also it prepares me for the day.

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So, you know if I got to drive somewhere and be like, Oh,

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great, I gotta go into city traffic. Someone's going to cut

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me off. I'm going to get road rage and get mad. You know, so I

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prepared

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myself for the day, you know, negative things are gonna

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happen, just be happy, don't worry about it. And now you

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know, I'm a little bit less carefree if I go driving, I'm

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you know, instead of giving that guy a finger, I'll be like, Oh,

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he must be having a bad day. And oh, wait, you know what, you

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just change your mindset. Because once you change your

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mindset, your life starts falling through with the same

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stuff. So,

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um, yeah, I guess that's kind of most of it.

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I'm not sure if I missed anything else, or anything like

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that. But yeah, that's kind of the gist of my story so far. So

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this is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing all this.

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And being vulnerable here with us,

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is very inspiring, and empowering. And I can also see

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how you're becoming more resilient with your practices.

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With the experiences you attract into your life now, you will be

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able to trust again and one day, soon, probably be able to open

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your heart again and be open for dating, maybe not that it should

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be a goal. But it can be something that you want to try

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out again, and then with a different Yeah, mindset with a

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different approach mindset.

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Yeah.

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So you talked about the books that you read that changed your

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mind about meditation? How was it for your family, your family

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sounds like, very supportive of you like from the beginning, but

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they must have noticed the change.

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I think I want to talk about

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feeling lonely at times with the new part like that you have you

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said acquaintances that kind of fell off? Because maybe they

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couldn't relate to you anymore? Or you to them? How was it

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within your family? Did they see Oh, yeah, this is what needed to

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happen. And this is good, or was it scary for them at times?

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Well, for them, it was more they were going through their own

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stuff. So it wasn't like we were very supportive of each other.

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We're like, we just weren't aware of each other.

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Um, now that I live in the city, you know, I live two hours away

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from most of my family, so I don't see them as much anymore.

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So yeah, there's, there's not much to that they're I mean,

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they're, they are doing their own struggles, and I'm trying to

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help my mom my best with, you know, everything I've learned,

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like when my mom is going through some stuff right now,

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and I'm thinking the stuff that I'm reading right now, would do

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her very well. Um,

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so I'm starting to now that I read these books, and they've

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changed my life. Now I want to, you know, give these books to my

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families and friends who might, you know, I think might need

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them and stuff. So,

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yeah, yeah, that's beautiful. And everybody heals at their own

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time. I know, for myself that I used to get very impatient when

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I saw someone in pain, and they just didn't want to read that

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book. And they just didn't want to be aware of their toxic

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behavior that was kind of self destructive.

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Like, we can only offer and communicate and maybe live by

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example, and then see what other people do. And they will heal

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and grow at their own time.

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So if we think about people who are listening, who might just go

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through depression, or being laid off, what is the tool? Or

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what is the, like, advice, closing advice that you would

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love to give them in order to not give up?

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Yeah, so I mean, maybe my situation is a little bit

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different from others, because I do know, you know, some mental

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illnesses Can't be helped.

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Some people need to go on medication and stuff. But before

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you make that diagnosis, you know, check your environment,

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check the people you're hanging out with which associations, you

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know what, because it'll probably a lot of them are

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negative,

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aren't serving you any well. So first of all, check out your

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association.

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And then second of all, you got to be aware of

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your own consciousness in this world. So what I mean by that is

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you got to be aware that you're hurting or you're a negative

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person, or you're doing this or that you got to be aware of all

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the bad trades, because the first step to changing or

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getting better is first being aware and pointing it out. So

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maybe you got to do some self reflection, you know, why, you

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know, why? why are people negative to me all the time? or

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Why do I seem negative all the time? You just you got to figure

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that out? And then once you figure it out, then you can you

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know, of course correct, or try and figure out why it's going on

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kind of deal. So I mean, the biggest thing I've learned in my

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life is pretty

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First off, you know, because I do get a little bit of anxiety,

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sometimes, you know that feeling of helplessness, helplessness.

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But what helps me is, you know, you're not in any immediate

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danger. The biggest lesson I've learned in my life is patience.

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You know, even with a breakup with my ex girlfriends, or

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whatever, Time heals all you will be, you will get better,

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you won't die, things will get better just take time, you just

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got to allow yourself that time.

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You got to allow yourself to heal, you got to figure out

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what's wrong, understand it, and then take the steps to heal. And

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a lot of it a lot of is change. I mean, if you're doing the same

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things all the time, you're attracting the same things in

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your life, maybe there's something in your life, you need

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to change.

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So that's a big thing. And a lot of people are just scared of

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change, they don't want to change or it's uncomfortable. I

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mean, I'm not saying we I don't like change, it takes a lot of

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energy to change something. So if something doesn't need to be

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changed, I just don't want to deal with it. Right? I don't

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want to change it. But, you know, some things do need to

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change. And you do need to understand it does take a lot of

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time, a lot of energy to change. So you know, just be patient,

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give yourself time.

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You know, try to be grateful for what you have right now, that

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helps a lot. A lot of the stuff I've been eating kind of shows

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the power of projecting positive thoughts into your brain. So

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it's like tricking your brain into being happy ahead of time.

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And then eventually your brain will be open to that, and you'll

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just be happy.

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Yeah, very good. Very good advice. Thank you so much for

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making the time today and sharing your story and the tools

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that you use to feel better and be a beautiful, confident human

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being not out there helping other people. Thank you, for my

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listeners to supporting our show here and sharing and reviewing.

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I'm always curious to hear what you think. And yeah, just leave

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a comment or a review. And I will be out there very soon

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again, and maybe Clinton audience mouse will be

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on with financial support, I was thinking of making an episode

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with you, where you can share maybe a couple things that

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you've learned that people can just start using right now and

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being more financially healthy.

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Yeah, that'll be great. Because I mean, you know, looking at

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your financial health, it's almost the same as your

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lifestyle, your your mindset and stuff, you know, yeah, you've

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got to be aware of where you're at. And if you want to have a

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better future, you got to start putting effort into it. So I

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mean, you know, well, we can get into that later. But it's, you

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know, I think it's the same way if you're your lifestyle, as

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your finances, you know, your financial health, you got to put

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some effort into it. You got to be feeding good things into your

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finances in order to you know, create wealth and protect your

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wealth.

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Well, thank you so much for listening to this beautiful

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interview with Clinton Johansen here. And I'm excited to be

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posting a new interview with him soon where we talk a little bit

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more about financial health. I think we can all learn a little

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more about money, how money works and how we can make money

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work for us. So have a beautiful rest of your day. And we will be

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out there very soon again. Thank you.