Ep.34 What men need [relationship, society]

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Hello, and

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welcome to the Borealis experience.

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I'm your host Aurora.

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And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. It is Friday, I don't know what Friday means to you.

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Maybe it's the day before the weekend can start. And now he

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can arrest and relax and recharge your batteries. Maybe

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it is the busiest day of your week. Like it is for me.

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I

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yeah. Had a lot on my plate today. And I'm very happy that I

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can make the time now and record this episode for you and at the

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same time, enjoy this as a time of rest and relaxation.

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This week,

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I posted a video about men about what men really need in

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relationships from our society. And this is why today's episode

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is about men as well. What do men need? I feel that social

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media media advertisement

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movies, hollywood. They tried to yes sell

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us a very specific image of a man. This is why I love

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alternative movies so much and movies from all over the world.

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Specially the ones from Denmark, very dark sense of humor. But I

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feel what it does to us is that it sets weird expectations and

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weird views on how a man is supposed to act and look and

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behave and relate to you. This episode is not only for ladies

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today, it is also for men because I want to know if I'm on

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the right track here. I want to know if I'm hitting a nerve. If

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I learned the right lessons if I made the right conclusions from

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my experiences. What I've learned is that my men are

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attracted to beauty. And what is beauty, beauty is not perfection

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and makeup and nail polish and high heels. Beauty is coming

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from within. It is a state of being a state of confidence and

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well being a state of health. And of course this will radiate

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into the outside world as well. Men are attracted to women who

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take really good care of themselves. They are healthy.

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They know what they want in life. They know how to set

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boundaries. They have a good sense of humor, you know, they

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don't take life too seriously.

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They have playful they know how to listen. And they know how to

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receive. I feel this is what a man seeks and a woman

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and as women we focus all too often only on the exterior and

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try to attract try to impress. But it's getting really

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exhausting after a while when it doesn't come from the inside

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when it's just trying to manage from the outside and trying to

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manipulate and control how he looked like. I think a lot of

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women exhaust their energies when it comes to their physical

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appearance. And don't get me wrong. It's important, but

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feeling and being healthy. And this is what I learned from my

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dad by the way, is what makes you shine. A full shiny hair is

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beautiful. But it's also a sign of health curves are a sign of

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health, being too skinny is not a sign of health. And being

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overweight is also not a sign of health. I think we are attracted

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to health. And then the awesome thing about is at the same time,

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it's not to be fanatic about it yet to not go crazy about health

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to know a balance, to have your cheat days to have your

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chocolate, your candy, but to work out and to enjoy healthy

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foods at the same time. Everything in moderation. What a

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man is attracted to is a woman who can listen, I mentioned it

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at the beginning here. A woman who got her shed together, knows

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how to manage her feelings and her life. And a woman who can

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hold space for the men in her life, where he can express

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himself and kind of be guided back to his soul and his heart.

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Too often society and women are pressuring men to be a certain

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way. And this in turn, doesn't allow them to feel weak at

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times, and to have a shed day or a shed face. I'm working closely

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with people from Kenya right now. The Suicide is just Yeah,

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very common. On a daily basis, there's numbers rising, mental

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health is declining, violence is skyrocketing. And all this among

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men, they live under high pressure in Kenya, you only get

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certain

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jobs, a specific, like good position in society if you are

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married, this results in Yeah, kind of loveless marriages. And

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what I'm trying to do here with my podcast, my what my vision

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is, is that I

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kind of wake people up, but also at the same time guide them back

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to their hearts. Because all too often we are too ego driven too

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head driven. We tried to control and influence way too much. And

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we don't listen to our heart anymore. So a woman that is

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capable of listening to her heart. Her intuition is deeply

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inspiring for a man. She can bring him home to his own heart.

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At the same time, he is protecting her not because she's

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weak, but because she's so endlessly precious. And he's

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making sure that she has everything she needs in order to

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be in balance. But I feel we kind of unlearned what it means

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to be a woman in a relationship. There's very business driven

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woman out there and it's very cool. Like it's awesome, how

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much they get done and how high they climb up that ladder. But

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if they are seeking a romantic relationship, where they feel

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loved and appreciated and sexy, they have to learn to go back to

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the soft, feminine energy. You cannot be in a relationship with

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a man if you're trying to connect. Sorry, not connect if

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you're trying to compete with him at all times when it comes

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to conversations when it comes to politics, when it comes to

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how things should be done in the household and so on. If you're

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constantly an opponent to your man, you cannot expect him to be

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a decent lover. You have to surrender to the masculine and

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not be fearful of the masculine. We have to trust the masculine

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again, we have to trust that he's not going to try to control

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us to dominate us. He's not going to be jealous. He's gonna

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look at you with kind eyes and wants you to be your best

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version wants you to shine wants to deeply connect with you. I

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want to dissolve these powers games that are happening between

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men and women right now. I feel they're not serving us anymore.

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And they never have, they destroy relationships. Over

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time. A man wants to have a healthy woman, I decide, he

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wants to know that she has a safe space where somebody is

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listening to him, where he can express himself. And then he

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needs a woman who is independent, but also

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interdependent. It is a given take a constant given take. You

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take each other as part of yourself. When the others

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hurting you or hurting, when the other is thriving, you are

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thriving. You support each other, but don't use each other

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as crutches, you lift each other up. You call each other out on

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bullshit. And you help each other to grow. You allow each

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other to change. because change is a given life. It is so

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important that we support men who embrace more and more their

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feminine side expressing themselves and wanting to be

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themselves more because under patriarchy, they suffered just

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as much as the women that were suppressed. We have to be there

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for our men. And we have to fear masculinity, less, we have to

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trust masculinity again. And we have to allow femininity again.

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This won't be the last episode that I will be talking about men

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and women. Trust me, I'm passionate about this. And I

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hope I was bringing you value to your life today and insights or

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maybe an angle, a new angle from the bottom of my heart. Thank

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you so much for listening. If you have questions if you have

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