Ep. 35 How to get through a dark month/ phase in your life [mental support]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today.

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I hope you're doing well. It is November, it is a DAG month, it

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is a month that might bring up some old stuff that we urgently

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need to let go. It is a munstead is a little bit slower and pace,

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a little bit darker and sunlight. And that affects of

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psyche intensely. What I like to do in the winter months is to

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amp up my vitamin intake a little bit because I'm prone to

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winter depression. And that seems to be helping. I also have

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a very rigid routine when it comes to walking. Walking just

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20 minutes a day, at your own pace. Doesn't have to be uphill

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or downhill can improve your mental health drastically, and

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your physical health not only your heart and your respiratory

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system, but also your lymphatic system. your lymphatic system is

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helping you to detox to get rid of stuff that your body is

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secreting and doesn't need anymore. And it is only

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functioning once we move. And walking is a very good way of

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getting your fluids moving. The lymphatic system only works

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through the muscle pump in your calves, for instance. And, yeah,

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it is really, really important during those months to know that

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yeah, darkness might come over us but there is tools that we

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can use to help ourselves. I'm also a life coach now. And I'm

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more than happy to help you to Yeah, give you more specific

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tools to your life to your situation. Maybe you are a mom

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and overwhelmed with having to do at all maybe you are a

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husband and overwhelmed with balancing work and family. Maybe

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you are single and desperate to find the right partner and you

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just want to manifest a good person into your life. I would

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gladly help you on your journey. Whatever it is, so don't

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hesitate. You can contact me on Facebook, Aurora Eggert or

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Aurora Eggert coaching, and then we can make a plan. So taking

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really good care of yourself during those winter months is

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key. Sometimes we can rely on our friends and we have a strong

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support system. And we can cry on our neighbor's shoulders or

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call up our sister or a brother. But sometimes they're busy

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sometimes they are overwhelmed themselves. And it is important

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to know for ourselves that we can rely on us that yes, we have

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other people around us who can help us but we can help

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ourselves too. So another way of really making you feel good is

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taking baths. And if you don't have a bathtub, taking a shower

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with the intention to wash off stuff that you don't need

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anymore. And if you have a bath, just soak in it as long as it

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feels good with some Epsom salt in it and really let go and

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relax that your body totally relax. You know our body is our

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best friend who I love to say and the better, more comfortable

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our body fields, the better our soul and our mind fields because

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it is all interacting. Your body has sensors. Your body has five

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senses. Some people have six and everything that we take in from

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our environment affects not only the body, but also your mind And

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you're so your heart, your emotions. So the better you take

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care of your body, the better you're going to feel overall.

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And sometimes we have to be a little bit of an detective and

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find out, did I really give my body everything it needs in

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order for me to feel good? It is winter now, where we live in

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North America? Am I adjusting my pace? And am I adjusting my

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nutrients and my lifestyle to this darker season? Or am I

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still trying to push through and get it all done and and you

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know, have that sun energy that summer energy going on, we can

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use this time of the year to reflect, to relax, to release,

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and to let go. And if we do that intentionally, it doesn't feel

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like things are people are being ripped away from our lives. It

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feels more like a gentle letting go. It feels more like yes, this

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is supposed to happen. This is the leaves of a tree that are

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supposed to fall onto the ground. And it is a very, very

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important process. I feel because we declutter, we let go,

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we go into winter, we're a little bit more quiet, a little

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bit more introverted, maybe, and then come spring, we will be

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full of energy, we will only be carrying what we're supposed to

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be carrying around. And I think it's a it's a very beautiful

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season to be in. But we have to approach it mindfully. It is

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also important to not get sucked into any weird expectations when

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it comes to Christmas. Any weird pressures from society side. And

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this is how it's meant to be this is how it's supposed to be

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and not differently. You know, that kind of vibe. It is very

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important to be a little bit introspective and to really

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know, what is it that I need? What is it that I aspire? What

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is it that I want? And then look around me and you and see the

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people that you deeply care about? What is it that they want

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and need? How can we connect, but at the same time being very

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authentic and not giving into some weird Christmas

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expectations. A lot of people come Black Friday are very

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hysterical when it comes to Christmas, gift buying. And

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maybe that's not your style, maybe that's not your way to

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show and express your love. And it is totally fine. Maybe you

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have a different way of expressing love. And then go for

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it. Don't suppress it. Don't be shy. Because we all want to

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connect, we all need each other. Right? So it is important to

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find out who you are, in order to make the right decisions for

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yourself for yourself. This just one and for your relationships.

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Be kind to yourself, be gentle. And know that yes, darkness

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might come up. But it is okay. You're not alone in this. We're

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all in this together. We all feel the darkness creeping up on

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us. We all feel the uncertainty and the weirdness that COVID has

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brought into our lives. We're all trying to do the best for us

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and for our families. So let us not only be gentle with

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ourselves, but also with others and know that everybody has

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their story. Everybody has their reasoning. And the more we ask

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gentle questions, the more we can make sense of other people's

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situations and decision making. Making assumptions having

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opinions is a natural given. That's where we love to be in

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yeah in a state of having an opinion and making assumptions

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and bonding through opinions and assumptions. But it is not

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always a smart way when it comes to wanting to connect with

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people. Sometimes we have to make the decision. Do we want to

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connect? Or do we want to be right?

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And before the holidays, before all these Christmas gatherings,

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let us set that intention. Be intentional about it. If you

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want to be right, no matter what, and you don't care about

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the relationships and you want kind of, you know, stand up for

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yourself and test your relationships, then don't get me

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wrong, I'm all for it. And that energy is totally cool too. But

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maybe you feel lonely, maybe you want deep connections. And then

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having your opinions and assumptions right in front of

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you. You know, carrying them like a shield is not going to

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make you connect deeply with people. So be tender. Let go of

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stuff, let go of opinions and assumptions. If it feels right

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for you at the moment if you feel that it takes away tension.

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And enjoy those more darker and slower months. There's always

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two sides of a coin, right? The darker month don't only bring

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pain and weakness and depression. They can also have

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very healing sides to themselves. Thank you so much

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for listening to my episode here. I send out my love to you.

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I care deeply for you. I'm so happy to have you here. And to

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connect with you over Facebook to hear your comments to hear

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your experiences. And to be connected. It is incredibly

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awesome for me to know that I can bring you peace and help you

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recharge your batteries. And yeah, I'm just so glad to be

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serving you. take really good care of yourself. And I will be

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out there very soon again. Bye bye