Ep. 34 Overdoing it will cost you a high price [essentialism]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. I hope you're doing well I hope you

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feel safe. I'll be feeling appreciated, loved. I hope you

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get shut down. I also hope that you get to relax to enjoy life

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to be playful. Take a deep breath in. And then exhale Oh my

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God. All too often we forget to breathe. We get caught up in our

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to do lists. We get caught up in relationship issues. We get

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caught up in our healing process, we get caught up in

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trying to build our business. GO GO GO GO, GO GO GO GO GO GO GO

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as what society preaches. This is what our relatives or friends

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are doing. And so we expected from ourselves. And whenever you

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meet with somebody, and you can say that you're so busy,

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whenever you can tell somebody I wish. I wish I had more hours in

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my day. I wish I could meet up with you. But I'm just so busy.

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I feel that statement is so overrated. And a big chunk of

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people waking up right now realize that is such an old

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school way of living life. To be tired and exhausted all the time

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exhilarated about never ending to do lists. Dancing on several

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parties at the same time.

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spreading ourselves thin is is really something that will burn

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us out. Something that I really want to emphasize our nervous

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system is not made for acquired yet. It will take 1000s of years

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for our nervous system to adjust to the chaos and the fast pace

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that we created around our societies. And until then, we

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will see people slide into depression, burnout, suicide

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I feel we all have to learn to walk and work at our own pace

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again. Because otherwise you're going to run the risk to become

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depressed. To become anxious, overwhelmed, exhausted all the

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time. I read a beautiful book the other day, called

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essentialism where he talks about how important it is to

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take breaks to step away from your busy day from your

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projects. And to look at the bigger picture to see what's

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going on to see if you're moving into the direction that you want

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your life to unfold.

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And you can only do this by stepping away, stepping back,

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relaxing, opening up your heart and reflecting and being with

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yourself. And this is not only for entrepreneurs or People and

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high paying positions. This is for people who struggle with

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relationship issues, people who are unemployed people who

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started a family, singles, who keep dating people that are not

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really a match. Sometimes we get too caught up in a mode. And we

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don't realize that we are in a corner. So if you step back and

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look at your previous days, maybe even weeks, you can maybe

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see a pattern. You can see if you were progressing, if you

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were healing if you were advancing in your journey like

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you want to. Or you can see if you got maybe caught up with

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details that are not really important to pay attention to.

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It is really important to find out what is an alignment with

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your True core values. Each little decision you make from

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the moment that you wake up until you fall asleep at night.

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dictates if you're gonna get closer to your dreams and goals

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and ways of living or not. And don't get me wrong, you don't

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have to constantly be thinking about healing and progressing

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and growing. That's exactly what I mean. You have to take a break

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from it. Step away and look at your life. Look at your

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relationships. Look at your financial situation, look at

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your health, most importantly, your body your physical health

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is sometimes the very last instance, when it comes to your

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life trying to show you that you are on a wrong path. Sometimes

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people have to become seriously sick to realize that they ran

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astray. But their steps before getting sick is an uneasy

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feeling in your chest. There is a tension there is you rejecting

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love you refusing and resisting to opening up your heart.

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There's headaches, there's insomnia, there is erectile

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dysfunction. There is low libido there is no motivation,

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inspiration, no drive to get up in the morning. Pay attention to

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these little signs that may tell you that you are not really on

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the path you should be on. And you can all be here these signs.

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Once you are still Once you allow space and sometimes you

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gotta fight for it because there's going to be invitations,

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there's going to be other people needing you. There's going to be

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your ego kicking in Yeah, but I can't make time because I'm

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overwhelmed already. But I tell you, sweetheart, there is no way

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around it you have to stop and think at times and reflect

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integral integrate what you've learned and let go of what is

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not serving you anymore.

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Be present with yourself and also when you are with other

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people. Notice how you might be in a mode and notice how when

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you're present with them when you feel at ease with yourself.

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Your relationships drastically improve what it takes to make

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space and time to reflect and to see if you are on a good path.

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It is that you say no. are trade offs Highly successful people be

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it in when it comes to finances, health, brilliant ideas, great

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fulfilling relationships, say no to a lot of things. They're very

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radical on how they spend time who they give attention to and

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into which projects they pour their energy into. And I feel we

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can all learn to be a little bit more focused on what is

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important in our lives. And less distracted, less torn between

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events. Less hypnotized by advertisement, Oh, you gotta buy

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this, you gotta go there, you gotta meet this person. Oh, it

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is all so exciting. No, once you make your decision, once you

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know the trade offs that you want to face. Once you say no.

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Once you say yes, to your true calling to events, and people

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and projects, and recreational activities that are in true

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alignment with yourself. You will notice your body feeling

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more at ease. You will enjoy better sleep, you will be more

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clear in your mind and content with yourself. This is what I

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wish for you. This is what each of my client wants to reach. And

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I feel so honored and so grateful to be a stepping stone

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and people's lives as a coach and to see people unfold their

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true potential and pursue their dreams and starting to say no to

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abuse and distraction and starting to say yes to true love

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and financial stability and exciting projects that people

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thought never had time or energy for and now all of a sudden that

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they say no to the non essential. They find themselves

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with more time, more energy, most of the time also more

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money. I'm gonna let you go on this note. And yeah, I'm very

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excited to connect with you. Always reach out to me on

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Facebook, Aurora Eggert. And if you want to do me a huge favor,

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you don't even know how much it means to my podcast here that I

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pour my heart into. Please, wherever you listen to leave a

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review or give me a rating. It helps people to find my podcast

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and my biggest wish would be that we can reach more people,

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especially during those very stressful times that we're all

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navigating through right now. Alright, have a great rest of

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your day. take really good care of yourself and drink a huge cup

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of water. Bye bye