EP.31 How to keep an open mind and have a deeper understanding of your environment [self-awareness]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I'm so happy to be

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spending some time with you today, it's a very hot day out

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there had shows 40 degrees Celsius. And I'm in my very cool

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little forest house. And it's just so nice to be able to hide

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away from this heat, I hope you're doing well, I hope you

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are in a good place. I hope you feel loved and understood and

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free. Freedom is such a big thing nowadays, right we, we all

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felt stuck and caught and crammed. During those COVID

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years, and now we want to feel free we want to explore we want

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to feel as if what we do matters, we want to feel a sense

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of purpose. So I really hope that you have found that chances

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are if you are listening to my podcast, you might be still in a

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place of uncertainty and maybe feeling a little bit stuck. And

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if that's the case, I hope I can provide a space for you where

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you can feel yourself, rest and recharge your batteries. And

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make some time to reflect and to grow. Or go deeper or understand

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yourself and others on a deeper level.

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Today I want to talk about the importance of traveling.

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Traveling, you don't have to be a travel bag. You don't have to

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be that kind of person, you know who discovers a new country each

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month of the year.

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You can be a person who's actually very content with where

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they live. But I what I invite you to do is to be open to

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perceive an old place a place that you feel, you know, very

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comfortable and with new fresh eyes and perspective. And that

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if you travel and go drive, walk to a new place that you look at

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the new place through the eyes of a child very curious. Very,

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very inquisitive. very open minded. I've learned that in

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recent years. I'm I'm not an extreme travel bug, but I

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traveled a lot and the benefits of traveling, have having an

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open mind. Meeting new people seeing new places is wonderful.

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It's just so great. And all of a sudden, all those little

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problems that you had in your daily life, vanish, or even get

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resolved.

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If we go into birds perspective, like I say all too often, or if

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we have a little bit of you know distance from our current life

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from our daily life. It's sometimes it's easier to see

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what is not going well for us. And we can also start missing.

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What is going very well for us right you can miss your

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children, your partner, your hobbies, your house, your

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apartment, your pets, whatever it is that you leave behind for

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a little while. You will start missing if you truly love it and

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enjoy it in your life and when we come back home, then, most of

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the time we have this feeling of a full heart, a grateful heart

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and we promise ourselves someday I was even that we want to be

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more grateful for what we have, because we missed it so much now

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that we didn't have the people in our life or the things or the

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hobbies. And now, we promised ourselves that when we engaged

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again, then we want to be more mindful. And it's really

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important to remind ourselves of that, and to not forget to be

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grateful for what we have. And that yeah, we will be coming

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back to our daily daily life, but maybe we can look at it with

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fresh eyes. And maybe if you travel to a new place, you can

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be curious about everything that's going on, sometimes we

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traveled to a new place, and we want to make sure that our

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comfort zone is being preserved read, we want the same coffee,

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we want the same breakfast, we want the same way of living in a

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new country. And that's sometimes very hard to find. So

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if we start to be more open and more relaxed, and know that we

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have everything that we need to feel comfortable, we don't need,

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what we have at home, but we can learn new things that make us

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feel comfortable and good and safe. To have that open

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mindedness is such a gift, it opens extremely valuable

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precious doors to your life. I traveled to a nearby city two

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weekends ago, and we went to a Japanese garden. And we entered

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this garden. And he just thought and felt all of a sudden as if

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you were in a new world. And I started moving differently and

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thinking differently, and seeing details that I wouldn't see if

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it wasn't in a sacred space like that Japanese garden Enos. And

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it really initiated a shift inside of myself. And that is

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what inspired my episode today is that you don't have to travel

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far. You don't have to pay expensive. How do you say that?

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You don't have to pay for expensive flight tickets. But

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you can travel to a close by place and go to a new cafe, go

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to an art gallery, do something that you would usually never do.

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And by physically engaging in something that we never do, of

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course, it's it's a safe activity, it's an activity that

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makes you good, feel good. It's nothing dangerous. It's nothing,

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you know, too, out there and too challenging. As soon as we put

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ourselves in a new environment, our mind opens again, and our

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heart will do the same.

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And that is what I'm inviting people to do. Most of the time

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in my workshop that I hosted here in over the last couple of

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months. I invite people to listen with their heart, put

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your pen away, put your mind away for a second, turn the

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volume down and simply listen with your heart and see how

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differently it hits you how it stimulates your nervous system

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and a different way. I feel all too often we approach situations

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difficult people, our work our life, our love life from a very

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heavy space. And then we get upset that we don't get the

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results that we want. And I don't have the solution to that

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I'm not, you know, hovering above you. I'm right next to you

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in this mess. But what I've noticed this, once I turned the

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volume down of my mind, I can switch my heart on and I'm

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curious and hoping and in a place of you know wanting to

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learn new things. needing to understand my environment.

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Instead of having opinions making assumptions, or having

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harsh judgments. I feel much better with myself. I sleep much

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better. I feel much better. In my skin. So make the time to go

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visit new places, say yes to an invitation, of course, only if

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it's safe, that you usually would decline, you know, there's

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little community fests festivals, or there is, like I

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said earlier art galleries, that host events, there is theatres,

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movies, live music, cooking classes, you can learn a musical

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instrument, learn to stimulate your brain in a way that you

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haven't stimulated in a long time, and then change it up. You

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don't have to go too deep, you can just try it out once. And if

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you like it, you try it out twice. But the physical location

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can usually help us to be that open minded again. We forget

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about it. And we need to get reminded that this world is so

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big. And we're just so small. And to have that humble feeling

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in your chest, that you're just a little creature trying to do

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her or his way. Not by diminishing yourself and looking

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down on yourself. And, you know, thinking thoughts like, Oh, my

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God, I'm just so unimportant. And I'm just this little wheel,

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and I will never make a difference in other people's

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lives. No, that's not what I mean. But to see how different

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people approach situations in a different way, can be so mind

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blowing at times. It's so fascinating how a different

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culture would approach a specific topic like, you know,

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anger management, or love dilemmas, or eating disorders,

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with such a different mindset. And we can learn so much. If we

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have an open mind. And then you come home, get back into your

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daily life. And we'll be more grateful for what you have, or

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will introduce into your life new practices. And when you meet

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people, and it doesn't matter if you're single or in a

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relationship, you will also look at them in a different way, you

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will maybe listen to them more closely. You will see that,

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yeah, you know that person for several years now. But they

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still have secrets, they still have ways of thinking that you

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could never imagine they would have. And to be curious to be

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open minded will help you deepen your relationships

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enormously to a point that you can really press a reset button

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in a relationship, just by being curious. You don't need to get

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fancy, you can just ask questions. I feel we we don't

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wander enough anymore. Right? Because everything is at the tip

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of our fingers. We can Google CellTech right away. But you can

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google your partner, you can google your children. You have

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to ask questions, be inquisitive and observe them with the

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kindest, most loving eyes and learn to understand them. And by

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traveling by leaving your comfort zone. You will feel that

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deep appreciation for sure for what you have, and for what you

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want and desire in your life for what you want to change in your

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life for what doesn't fit anymore, and really has to go

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now. So, my dear friend, my dear listener, I'm going to leave you

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with this. I'm sending my love out to you. As always, if you

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want to request an episode Don't hold back. I'm also available

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for one on one coaching or if you're a group of people, and

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you want me to hold workshops So be it in your friends circle or

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at work with your co workers, or you want to pass on my details

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to your boss and invite them to host workshops with me together.

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Then I'm open and available for this as well. All right, thank

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you so much for being here. I hope I was able to bring you

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lots of value and peace and hope and self reflection to take good

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care of yourself and I'll be out there very soon again. Bye bye