Ep. 3 when too much is too much/ feeling overwhelmed

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very relieved

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to be spending time with you today.

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There's days where you're happy and light and everything flows.

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There's other days where you feel irritated, angry, sad,

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frustrated, or maybe you had a fight with a person you deeply

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care about.

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Sometimes life just feels like too much.

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Sometimes we just want to hit pause, and sleep, and sleep, and

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sleep it out and wake up

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to a life without pain and suffering and fighting and

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frustrations.

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Today, I'm here to invite you to do that at times.

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You know, maybe you're a mom, of young children, and you just

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feel like overwhelmed. You need a break from everything.

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Maybe you are a dad. And you just wish that you can have some

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alone time at times and

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just focus on yourself a little bit and stop caring,

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being considerate for other people. Maybe you're single, and

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you're desperate, and you're lonely.

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And your job is stressful. And you just want to break. There's

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so many scenarios

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that I could that I could present here.

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Me for instance, I feel totally rundown, I feel sad and

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frustrated.

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And it's okay.

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Oftentimes, we punish ourselves on top of feeling shitty

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already. Because we feel we have to fulfill that role in society,

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that role in our family.

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And we don't allow ourselves to hit pause for a moment.

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Most of you know that I love posting little videos on

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Facebook and being fun and joyful and inspiring. And it is

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very hard for me to face a day where I absolutely cannot

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imagine being that joyful person.

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But I cannot judge myself again or punish myself for that.

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Because I want to be out there for you soon again, and be the

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inspiration, the motivation, the source of joy and love that I

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know I am. But there's clouds on every blue sky.

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And those clouds sorry out okay to be there.

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So, if you're with me in this, or if you know how I feel at the

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moment, I invite you to

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be in peace and silence for a little bit. And it will feel

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weird at the beginning.

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But all of a sudden,

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it can feel very, very good.

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Because you know, I'm still there, I'm still breathing. I'm

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still present with you.

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And just making space and just allowing silence.

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And to sit in silence by yourself can be very scary

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because stuff might come up that you were successfully

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distracting yourself from.

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But trust me it is very soothing and healing to be silent at

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times.

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And if you are with a person who allows silence

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It's incredibly powerful. It's incredibly

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bonding.

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So if you're driving now, a bicycle or motorcycle, a car or

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a truck, whatever it is, operating machinery, I don't

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recommend you continue listening to this

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If you are in a safe place, or if you're going for a walk for a

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hike, if you're laying down in the middle of your bedroom or

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living room, if you're on a couch, that would be perfect.

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Now just focus in on your breath.

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And notice if you are

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breathing deeply, or breathing very shallow

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sometimes when we face

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too much, too many emotions are coming up. Too much stuff is

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going on, we're too angry, frustrated,

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we tend to tense up physically and start breathing very, very

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shallowly.

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And if we can make the time to just rest for a couple minutes

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here with me

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and start to breathe deeply again.

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We can deeply connect to ourselves again

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and lead every single that was frustrating, kind of pushing

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pause, but also a reset button.

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Sometimes we try so hard, and we still get a just enough grade.

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Sometimes we feel so misunderstood by people. And it

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just hurts.

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Sometimes people are selfish, reckless,

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angry.

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And we just got to see that they're probably going through

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something tough. And we don't want to take it personally.

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Take a deep breath, inhale through your nose

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and exhale through your mouth.

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And what I love to remind myself in those stages,

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phases is that your heart is always on your side. Your lungs

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are always helping you, supporting you to breathe.

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You kidneys are always right there for you like little

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soldiers

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and your liver. detoxing for you all day long.

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Preferably at night.

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Your brain is constantly looking for solutions trying to protect

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you.

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And your mind. A beautiful monkey mind is the one that we

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are constantly I want to say but oftentimes addressing here on

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the podcast.

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Let it rest for a little bit.

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There's nothing to solve right now right here

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can go back to problem solving mode.

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When you're done here.

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Just be with yourself for a moment.

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Be your best friend for a moment.

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And listen to yourself.

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Breathing

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what else you love to do is to go into birds perspective and to

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look down onto myself

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and to send gratitude.

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Thank you for being you. Thank you for being here.

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Thank you for listening to me. Thank you for being present.

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Thank you for having my back.

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Thank you for being

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the best version that you can possibly be.

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And you can go on and on and on with the list

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of unconditional presence and love

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to watch yourself

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Maybe you want to close your eyes and relax the little

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muscles around your eyes

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relax your jaw

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beautiful resting bitchface

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relax the muscles on your forehead

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maybe you can hear the wind in the background here.

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Maybe you're by the sea. And you can hear the waves.

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Maybe you live in a city and you can hear an ambulance in the

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fire

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or nearby.

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cars honking

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shelter children playing.

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Allow it all to be there

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without distracting you.

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Fear it is a thing that we have to learn more and more a muscle

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we need to train,

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how to be with ourselves, how to give ourselves undivided

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presence.

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And then to learn giving that to people around us.

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Because our life is

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filled

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with distractions.

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And to learn to be with yourself with your feelings to value

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yourself

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is such a precious gift.

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Because then we can go out and give this to people

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and create deep, meaningful relationships

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now if you wish to, you can bring your hands to heart

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center. I'm doing it right now with closed eyes.

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And I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart

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for being here.

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If it wasn't for you, this podcast wouldn't exist. If it

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wasn't for you.

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I didn't have a place to go to feel safe and relaxed again

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today.

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You know I meditate at times I do yoga. But sometimes all those

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practices are not enough and to speak with you

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to share this moment of undivided presence and

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relaxation

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really helped me out today.

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And I will be out there very soon again, with more joyful

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vibes.

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Today, I just felt like

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you're worthy of seeing my true face. You're worthy of seeing me

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being not at my best.

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I want to create a space for you here where you feel safe

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to express everything you feel.

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And this is what I'm doing today.

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I'm stepping into that space sharing with you how I feel.

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And I don't feel judged.

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I don't feel that there's conditions set in place on how I

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am supposed to record my episodes.

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Thank you so much for being here.

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I'm sending my love her to you.

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Until very soon. Buh bye, Aurora