Ep.28 Feeling triggered! [self-empowerment]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

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with you today. Yeah, the title says it already. Let that shit

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go. Do you pick your fights wisely? Are you always calm and

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kind of contained? When it comes to irritating situations, or

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annoying people or just a little fight with someone you love?

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Well, then you can go ahead with your life and skip that episode.

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If you are like me, easily triggered on some days more than

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others, then this is the exact thing you need to listen to. The

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noise in the background is my three month old puppy wrestling

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with himself. And I'm going to leave him in there because his

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kind of rough housing mentality totally suits my vibe today.

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Yeah, how do you react when something really annoys you when

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a person is being rude? When a person is being? Yeah, just

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simply annoying. Do you talk back? Do you pick a fight? or?

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Yeah, do you corner them? Do you confront them? For the longest

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time I was the person who would pick fights when someone really

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annoys me and confront them and really get verbally, aggressive,

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passive aggressive, and you name it everything above. And I

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learned that not only wasting my time, I'm wasting precious

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energy. Because most of the time, the person who's annoying

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you. Or if they're made a mistake, if they repetitively,

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repetitively do something that is, yeah, triggering you, they

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know, they know it. A few have told them in a calm fashion

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before they know you and know what triggers you. And maybe it

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just happened and was not a big intention behind it. And even if

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there was then let me tell you, I learned so much by just

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letting things go and not talking back. It took me a lot

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of training. And I'm not 100% there yet. That's why it's so

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awesome. I get to talk about it because I today have you

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extremely triggered and irritated and to talk about it

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helps. So if you can just let it go in the moment and just go for

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a walk or drink a cup of water or do something completely

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different. Like calling a friend not talking about that

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incidents. Just moving on with your life and pretending nothing

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happened. But also being honest with yourself and reflecting

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about it later on. It is so so precious advice that I received

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a couple years back and that I'm trying to apply now way

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nowadays. And it's incredible, how much more energized I feel

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at the end of the day, instead of feeling drained because of

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other people or a situation that really really annoyed the crap

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out of me. So when it comes to a person, maybe a person you live

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with a family member, it is very hard to change because those

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people know who you are, how you reacted in the past. And now if

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you react differently, it will be different for them to but not

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necessarily in a bad way. It is for you own sake, that you can

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just let it go and know that life will move on and the world

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keeps spinning. And when you find quiet, more,

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how do you say rest for a state later on, you can address it and

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say, Hey, this made me feel powerless, or this made me feel

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very stupid, or you make me feel inferior. And I know, I'm 100%

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accountable of how I feel. But I felt uncomfortable, they're how

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you talk to me. So take all the emotions and reactions out and

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express yourself in a very calm way. And you'll have set a

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beautiful outcome in the future. And I know, like I'm the first

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to just blow up and to just react and it kind of feels

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awesome too, because you can let that energy out right away. But

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trust me, it makes you feel shitty. The second, you're done

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with your explosion, you blow out, you let that steam out. But

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then it kind of leaves a weird aftertaste. So I want to spare

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you that. And maybe if you're starting out to be a more

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responsive person, instead of reactive person, it will take

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some time and some training. But don't give up know that it is

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really the path to engage in. And it will bring you lots of

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extra energy that you didn't have before. And then when it

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comes to situations in daily life, maybe a rude grocery

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clerk, then I advise to invent a little story. So that grocery

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clerk is super rude and doesn't even say hi, and blah, blah,

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blah, just invent a little story and think, oh, maybe that person

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got dumped today, maybe her mom died, or maybe her dad is in a

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hospital and she is just not able to being friendly today. So

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don't make it about yourself when someone is being rude

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outside of your bubble, try to have compassion and to know that

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we all have struggles. And we all face some times where we

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cannot be happy and engaging with other people. Like they

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want it or expected from us. And when it comes to life situations

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that happen, then I can only say it is stuff that is outside of

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your that cannot be controlled. And we have to learn that life

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is a river life is a flow, nothing is stagnant. Everything

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is changing. And to be most resilient is to have backup

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plans. like of course engaging 100% on a path that you want to

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commit. But also knowing that things can go wrong. And you

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need kind of a support net, let's call it support net

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instead of a backup plan to be more resilient. And this was doe

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they're getting angry at his antlers is here. And you can

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save a lot of energy and not getting upset with the news or

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stuff that you really can control because it's a waste of

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your precious beautiful energy that we need out there. And you

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can't control it anyways. only focus on the stuff that you can

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really influence and maybe control to some degree and give

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your best and when shit goes sideways, know that it is okay

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to have a bad day. It is okay to not be succeeding. Every day.

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There's plateau days, there's days where things go worse than

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others and just sit there reflect about it and know that

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you are in a good place and things will change again for you

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very soon. So, yeah, thank you so much for listening to me

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today about shit that can go wrong fights that can be picked

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or can be chosen to be avoided. And, yeah, my biggest

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mission here is to help you save energy and to feel good with

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yourself and your relationships and your environment around you.

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Take good care of yourself. Until next time, tomorrow. Bye