Ep.29 Tame your monkey mind. [ self- discipline ]

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Hello, hello, you beautiful people. This is the

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Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm so happy to

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be spending some time with you today. It's been a busy couple

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of days. I had my first interview here yesterday with

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Sean Dustin. His podcast is called nowhere to go but up now,

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check him out. He's awesome. And we have had a lovely

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conversation about Yeah, being abusive partners in our past,

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not physically but mentally and emotionally, which doesn't make

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it better. We're not proud of it. But we wanted to have that

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conversation. And yeah, provide you with these episodes. And if

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you feel inclined to come on to our show, then shoot us a

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message. You can reach me Aurora Eggert on Facebook, I also have

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a Facebook page called the Borealis experience. And you can

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read Sean over nowhere to go but up now@gmail.com. Today's

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episode is for you, if you are struggling with insomnia, or in

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general, being too much in your mind and not enough in your

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heart space. How do we notice when we are too much in our head

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and not enough in our heart? Well, it's very easy. Every time

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you're sitting still doing nothing. You either feel guilty,

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or shame. Or you feel your mind racing, pushing you to

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accomplish more to do lists. And yeah, judging you harshly,

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having very harsh opinions about yourself of how you're supposed

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to operate and function and be in society. And whenever you

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feel like doing something else, it will come and creep up on you

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and make you feel very shitty. So how do we deal with a mind

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that is too active? One thing is going for walks in nature and

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really being present with what is going on out there. Like at

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the beginning, I felt very pathetic doing it. But fake it

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until you make it. You look at the trees. You look at the

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birds, you hear the birds, you hear the sound of the snow

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underneath your boots, or the gravel underneath your shoes. So

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being 100% present with what is around you is such an awesome

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tool to get out of your mind into the present moment. And

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then when you interact with people, presence is also key. So

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actively listening, passively listening, and really like being

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in tune with that person making eye contact and asking

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questions. And doing nothing but enjoying being with that person.

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Of course, you will pick someone that you like and not someone

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you don't like. Needless to say, but yeah, being present, being

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right there in the moment, is the best way to reconnect to

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your heart and to enjoy life on a deeper level as well. So,

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meditation, of course, is a very good point. This was very

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annoying. I'm very sorry, I'm sitting outdoors today and

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Bonnie is being very protective. So yeah, meditation is also a

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wonderful tool because there you can guide your thoughts and come

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out of To Do List problem solving mode into being

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relaxing, enjoying yourself mode. So when you wake up at

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night,

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try to convince your mind that you need the rest that you don't

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need to brainstorm right now. But only focus on resting and

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relaxing. So whenever your mind We'll come up with all while

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this is what I have to do tomorrow. And I have to

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accomplish this and I have to problem solve this. Come back to

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your breath. And know that it is not a waste of time, it is very

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precious recharging of your batteries, because you don't

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serve anybody and especially not yourself if you are a hard

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working person, but you are running low on energy and being

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more and more impatient or making more and more mistakes

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because of not having enough sleep. Of course, if you are on

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any kind of medication prescribed by your doctors don't

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make any changes. Because I'm not a health professional. You

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talk to your doctor first and then change. But you can apply

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these little thought tools that I'm providing you here, already.

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So you wake up at night and think about all the stuff that

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you want to have to do the next day. Come back to your breath,

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come back to I feel warm and save. My blanket is keeping me

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safe. And I have a roof over my head. I'm so grateful that I

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have food in my fridge and fresh water to drink. So maybe you

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notice already what I'm doing here, you kind of tame that

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monkey mind. You treat it like a misbehaved little child and

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bring it to gratefulness and presence. And that way you can

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very easily fall asleep again, it works awesome for me, like

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when I think of the people that I miss, and I want to be close

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to. I really imagine their faces, I imagine them hugging

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me. I imagine talking to them that tone of their voice. And

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really go as much into detail as you want. And you will see it

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will let you fall asleep as soon as possible. Just go away from

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trying to problem solve and trying to schedule and trying to

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organize because this is what is gonna keep your mind active and

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not going to let you sleep. Come back to what am i grateful for

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precious connections that I have in my life and things that I

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want to experience right now it is deep, calm, soothing, feeling

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in my chest, relaxed feeling in my legs, maybe a heavy feeling

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in my chest and my head is falling to the side. So as if

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you were to hipness, hypnotize yourself back into sleep. And

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you can learn to do that during the day. For a couple minutes.

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When you have a break. Just tune into your breath. If you go for

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a walk, tune into nature and notice how it feels to have the

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wind touching your face, the sun warming your hands, and your

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walk, how fast or how slow you walk. And then you can train

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yourself already to have a more steady and calm mind. And

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whenever you need it switched on, you will be able to switch

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it on. Don't worry if you have an overactive mind, it will

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always be ready to be switched on. But it is very very

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important to find the balance between being in your head and

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living from the heart. Awesome. Thank you so much for listening

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to this episode, I will also post a meditation for you that

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you can just listen to for whenever you can sleep or you

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need deep relaxation. I have one episode for insomnia already in

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season one so you can just search it up. And yeah, I have

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an announcement to make. I will be upgrading my podcasting

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performance here and have a website for you up and running

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soon. Which will take me a lot of editing and working on my

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computer. So tomorrow I'll be posting the interview, which I

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would love you to listen to. And the next day I will take a day

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two just focus on upgrading my podcast here for you, to provide

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you with more in depth Yeah content, but also ways to

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contact me or to research about my content here.

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Thank you so much for listening. take really good care of

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yourself. Until next time

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bye bye