Ep.27 Why always me?? why is life so tough at times? [self empowerment]

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Hello,

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and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora

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And I'm very happy to b spending some time with yo

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today. I hope you're doing well I hope you are in a good place

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And if you're not, I hope tha by the end of this episode

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you're gonna feel a little bi better, feel empowered, hopefu

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for the future. And, yeah, jus good about yourself. The bette

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you know yourself, the bette you feel about yourself. th

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happier you are, the bette decisions you will make in th

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future, for yourself, and fo others. You will not mak

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decisions for others, but you decisions will deeply affec

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would appreciate so much. Toda I want to talk about life. Jus

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a small side topic. Why doe life seems so unfair at times

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Why are we being phased wit decisions that are impossible t

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make in order to make everybod involved happy? Why is it tha

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so many people live in poverty Other people live in craz

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richness? Why is it that yo keep trying so hard? But i

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seems like you keep failing What is it that makes life s

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unbearable at times? Well, m friend the sad The sad thing is

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and maybe the good thing at th same time is that it is part o

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life. You know the people wh seem successful, always contend

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always happy. They go throug intense stuff as well. An

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they're maybe only successfu because they went through s

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much stressful pain, that the just got tired of it and kep

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fighting and just are livin their best self right now an

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enjoying their life. When yo look at rich people, successfu

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people, please never think tha they had an easy path. They wer

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able to overcome adversity an have a mindset that allows the

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to be successful. So why is i though that we face situation

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where we feel that life i totally unfair? I feel we fee

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that way. When we give powe away. When we feel we are

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victim of circumstances. When w feel life is unfair

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unpredictably. And don't get m wrong, there's things tha

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happen that nobody can explai and pain that people have to g

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through. And you just think whe is it gonna stop? Like didn'

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that person get enough? Like didn't that person have enoug

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on their plate already? But want to tell you a little secre

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today on how I learned t approach situations that see

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hopeless situations where I' like, holy shit, like, Why me

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Why do I have to go through thi did not go through enoug

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already. I learned to se difficult situations as a

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opportunity to grow and t learn. Because again, successfu

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people don't have an easy life Don't have never failed, neve

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making mistakes, life and eas path. They fail many, man

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times. They get rejected many many times. But they don't coun

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the failures. They count thei little successes. They look a

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their failure and see, what ca I learn from it

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Can I learn from it? Yes or no? If no, move on? If yes. What am

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I supposed to learn from it? Now, if you are faced with a

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situation where you feel like oh my god, like, what am I going to

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do?

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Why is it happening to me? Just go inwards. And try to ask

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yourself, What is the secret message here? What am I supposed

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to learn? I had a friend reaching out to me the other

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day, and he said, Ah, I've been so lonely during COVID. And now

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I met this girl, and she's so sweet. We expressed our feelings

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the other day. But now I'm going to be leaving here for in the

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next 10 days for a year, I think he said, to live far, far away

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from her. Why is the universe God, whatever you believe in?

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Why is it testing me? He asked me. And the only answer I could

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really give him there was, I feel you need to find out what

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is best for you. And this little love story that starts to

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blossom here is going to be tested, every love story is

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going to be tested, there is no deep, meaningful love story that

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went through and was not tested. So I think your story there was

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this beautiful girl is being tested. And you're supposed to

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make a right decision. Maybe in the past, you were that kind of

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person who is always pleasing everybody. You make decisions to

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make other people feel comfortable. And maybe this time

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around, you're supposed to learn to feel what is right for

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yourself. Do you want to take that job and explore new

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territories? At the same time, keep in touch with this girl and

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have long distance relationship, you know, it's just for one

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year? Or do you want to reject that job and stay in your

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comfort zone and start a serious relationship with that girl. I

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want you at the end of the day to be proud of yourself. I want

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you to feel secure and want it in your relationships. So I'm

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more for a move outside of your comfort zone. Because when we do

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these moves, we not only test our little relationships that we

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have around ourselves, we test ourselves and we put ourselves

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in a situation where we will grow and blossom. And yeah, we

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might go through failure. But we also might as well succeed very

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well. And to miss out on that experience on that opportunity

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is a big thing. But of course you're going to find out for

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yourself. This is just my little advice. Some people lose

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everything overnight. Gambling, a house fire. Your wife has

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cheated on you. And you know, there's no way out you will have

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to separate. You get fired, you lose your job. And you just sit

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there for a while and think Why me? Why is this all happening to

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me? And you put yourself into that victim mentality again, you

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you are the victim of life. You are the victim of society. You

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are the victim of circumstances. And I'm here to tell you that

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yes, you can sit in that victim mentality for a little bit. But

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you can also after a little while, get up and see what are

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the trying to teach me here. And I know some situations are so

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hopeless and so painful and devastating that you will not

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feel like standing up and asking yourself that question. But for

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me, it proved to be the only way to get out of it. And to know,

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okay, I'm supposed to be learning to be independent, I'm

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supposed to be feeling my worth, my beauty, my preciousness

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outside of this relationship

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that I was so dependent on. I'm supposed to learn to, if I

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attach to my money, and all my belongings, and it's all been

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taken away from me overnight, that I'm still endlessly worthy,

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and beautiful. And an important member of society. I feel, you

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know what I'm trying to say here, there will be situations

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until you die, that feel hopeless, that feel crazy

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painful. But at the end of the day, you can see them as

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liberation from something old. And if you have the right

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mindset, if you can focus on what am I supposed to learn?

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Where can I go to find support? And where can I go to move on

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from all this mess, then you can not only grow and be so proud of

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yourself in the end, but also feel empowered, and not as a

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victim anymore. There's women out there who keep getting

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abused by their husbands, and there's husbands out there keep

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getting abused by their wives. And they keep staying in this

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situation, because sometimes they feel they deserve it.

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They've been bad in the past, and now they deserve that shitty

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treatment. But you deserve so much goodness, so much

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appreciation. You deserve to be heard and seen and felt. And you

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have to stand up for yourself, you have to learn to set

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boundaries. And you have to learn that you are not a victim

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of situations. Sometimes you are an abler. Sometimes you are

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allowing people to treat you the way they treat you. And you have

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to speak up, you have to leave a situation. And you have to do

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everything in your power to put yourself in a safe, empowered

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situation again, sometimes with help of others, sometimes all by

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yourself, but never feel too shy, too ashamed to reach out

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for help. Thank you for listening to this episode here.

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I hope you know how endlessly precious you are. And we need

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you to be out there shining your light, we need you to set clear

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boundaries. In order for people to know how to treat you. We

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need you to express yourself because your light is so

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incredibly precious out here on planet Earth. Thank you so much

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you so much from the bottom of my heart and I will be out there