Ep. 26 The importance of cheering for yourself [embodied self]

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora.

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And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. Today I want to talk about the importance of

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celebrating yourself. Many of you know that it was my birthday

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yesterday, it was a lovely day,

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I watched a soccer game with my family, Germany against England,

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Germany lost to zero. And then afterwards, we went to the lake

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and enjoyed some cooling water in this hot temperature. And I

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received so many messages, maybe over 200 messages to praise me

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to congratulate me and make me feel loved. And what I noticed

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was that, at first, I had a hard time to receive it. I had a hard

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time to receive thank you for my work.

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Thank you for being there and a precious light for others. There

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was a part of me that totally wanted to reject

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it and not read it. And this is what I want to talk about today.

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with you. I feel in our society here and northern American

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Europe, even it is a bad thing. To be proud of yourself, it is a

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bad thing to celebrate yourself. You're right away, seen as a

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narcissistic, selfish, vain person. And not to say that it

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doesn't exist out there. But I feel we're doing quite the

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opposite. We feel that most of the time, we can only relate to

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other people and bringing ourselves down, making ourselves

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small. on a physical level, I know totally exists in

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conversation with women, maybe with guys too. But we're always

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trying to make the other person feel good in expressing how

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unhappy and sarcastic

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we feel with our body. And when it comes to a job, or romantic

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relationships or friendships, it is also usually negative things

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that we share. Because maybe we feel if we express that we're so

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happy and content. In reality, that people will be jealous,

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people will feel small

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and inferior. And we'd rather share the shitty parts of our

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relationships and our jobs. Then the good parts. And don't get me

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wrong. Like sometimes it's fun to just purge out vent and say

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everything that is negative. But I want to emphasize that it is

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so important to focus on the things that are good. And if you

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share those good things with people, yes, they will be the

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people who are jealous and insecure, not confident with

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what they have. But you will also inspire them to step up

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their game. And this is so important. Just as important as

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being brutally honest with your loved ones and your friends

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because you help them grow.

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It is very important. To share your authentic journey, and to

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not boil it down, to not dim your light. Because you do that,

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to your own detriment. You have to shine bright, you have to be

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proud of yourself and feel good with everything you have

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accomplished. If you constantly feel that you cannot share your

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successes, you cannot share your happiness, you have to radically

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change your surroundings, especially the people you are

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interacting with. You cannot run around and always express the

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negatives in order to make another person feel more

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comfortable. You have to express yourself authentically, of

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course, not fake playing of goodness, but authentically. And

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then others might feel inferior for a little bit might feel

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challenged for a little bit. But that is okay. You can be an

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inspiration to them. You don't need to be an asshole. And

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purpose fully make them feel shitty. You help them to get

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unstuck you help them to look into the mirror, you help them

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to become their best version. And most importantly, you allow

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yourself to be authentic. Because it is not being

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authentic, to hide good things from others and to Yeah, hide

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the fact that you might have made really good money that you

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might have failed, made, met your soulmate. And you're so

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incredibly rich and happy with your life. So in German, we say

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throw some confetti at yourself. Be happy with where you're at,

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appreciate yourself fully. and express this, show this to other

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people too. Chances are you will live a more authentic life when

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you do that. Because the people that are not good for you are

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going to fall off and swim and bitterness and self pity. And

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the people that are meant to be in your life, you're

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automatically gonna magnetize into your life and from your

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heart, you will feel so real and so authentic. That words can

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really explain. Thank you so much for listening to this

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little episode here. I hope you understand what I mean. And I

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hope you receive the message. Well, if he liked this podcast

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out there very soon again. In the meantime, think and ponder a

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little bit about all the good things that you have and learn

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to express it learn to appreciate it and embrace it.

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expressing the goodness is appreciating the goodness which

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will attract more goodness. Thank you for listening. Bye bye