Ep.27 Post Covid Stress - feeling triggered all the time [self-care]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I know life is not always

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beautiful, life can get pretty messy and dark and

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unpredictable. And all of us suffered to some degree How

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would I put it into words? with uncertainty? What does the

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future hold for us? What is certain? What can we believe in?

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Who can we trust? It's really, really tough times. And this is

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why today I want to talk about post COVID stress.

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Let's all hope this, this mess is coming to an end. And that we

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can start a new normal a life after the pandemic. We all come

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out of this with some kind of damage.

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You know, the people who got really scared because they were

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scared to death, they were scared for themselves or a loved

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one because of the virus. And then there's others who felt

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ostracized, excluded, pushed to the side of like to the outside

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of society. So whichever path you went down during those last

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two years, it was stressful. It was scary. It took a lot of

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energy. And we all were in some kind of Yeah, survival mode,

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let's call it. So I really hope that you made it out of this,

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okay? And that you're not too damaged, that you can see the

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light that you can see hope. And I also hope if you don't feel

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good if you struggle with anxiety, mental health, physical

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illnesses, that you know that you can reach out to people that

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there is professionals out there waiting to help you. And

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sometimes it's easy to find people you can trust sometimes

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not so much. Just know that if ever you have a question, and I

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right, enough of the housekeeping. Do you feel that

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tension in the air? Do you feel tends to do you feel agitated

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way more easily than before the pandemic? Do you feel anxious? A

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lot of people describe panic attacks as being part of their

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life No. And it's really really tough to stay cool. I get it. I

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mean you probably hear the fan in the background here. We got

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34 degrees here in Alberta, Canada. But when you watch the

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news or when you just interact with people on the street, or

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with family and friends and you will probably notice that people

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are struggling. And we can blame it, like part on it on feeling

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isolated and disconnected more than ever. As I usually say on

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my podcast, we are herd animals, we need each other, we need a

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small little, but strong community around us at least.

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And during the pandemic that was stripped away. And maybe you

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even found out that the people that you used to call your

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friends, the people that you used to trust, were not really

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your friends anymore, and you can really open up to them

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anymore because maybe they had different views than you and you

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guys just couldn't be on the same page. It's it's due to that

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isolation and the disconnection that we can also feel

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aggression, boiling in our veins. I noticed that and

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myself, I'm going to be quite blunt with you that, yeah, I can

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get pretty angry over stuff. But after the pandemic, I can feel

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my whole chemistry

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changing now, when I get enraged about something, and I really

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have to put lots of effort and energy into keeping my cool and

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making sense of my emotions and channeling, channeling into

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creative, you know, projects or go for a bike ride without being

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angry, but kind of visualizing a deep release of my strong

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emotions there. So maybe it is the same for you. Maybe it is

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anger and irritation with other people right now that we can all

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socialize again, it might take us some time to get used to

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people again. And maybe we were able to dig so deeply when we

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were alone during the pandemic, and, and face and being face to

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face with our staff. And being face to face with the people

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that we live with that we have a whole different perspective on

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the world in a way that we are way more sensitive. Now. When it

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comes to bullshit, we can cut through the bullshit and you

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know, get to the meat, which is a great thing. But if you start

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socializing again and you realize Holy shit, I'm

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surrounded with bullshitters 360. Around, then it is tough to

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keep your cool. It is really tough to stay centered. So

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today, I want to invite you to sit with those emotions, as I

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learned to do it, and I'm still learning to do it. And to

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visualize that energy that comes up, and to really ask yourself,

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whenever stuff comes up, hey isn't really worth looking at?

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Or am I being triggered? And I react to a situation. And I'm

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overly emotional about it. So to simply ask yourself, Hey, is it

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valid to react here? Or is it just my little ego that feels

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triggered? And actually, I shouldn't give it too much

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importance because, honestly, if you feel triggered by the small

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stuff in life, you will be annoyed fairly quickly by

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anybody and everybody, and so many things that you can really

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enjoy life on a deeper level anymore. So stay connected with

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the people don't withdraw, but express how they make you feel.

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And it will take time to master this practice. And as I say

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right now, I'm learning it as I speak to instead of reacting

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fighting back, avoiding shutting down. I tell the person who's

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irritating me. Hey, you make me feel very uncomfortable. Right

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now, hey, I feel attacked. Hey, I feel you don't understand me,

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hey, I feel we are on a different page. And by saying

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this, do you not only value how you feel, and stand up for

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yourself, but you also open up a door for the other person to

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connect with you one way, deeper and honest level. And this is

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how you can connect with people, and learn to trust people again,

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in showing up authentically, and expressing how you feel, being

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assertive, and emotionally intelligent enough to know that

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the person who wants to connect with you but stepped on your

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toes wants to know that information about you, because

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they want to understand you deep down a person who wants to stay

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connected with you. They want to know who you are. Always. So

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instead of overreacting and falling back into old patterns,

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like I said earlier, avoiding raging, you know becoming

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insulting. Swear wording swearing, I mean, of course, you

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can learn this new skill and make the time and before

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reacting. Find a word how you feel. And then say it out loud.

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It works wonders. It takes time. But it works wonders because as

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soon as you're able to put it into words, the energy that was

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built up the tension that was built up in your body drops

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drastically. And you can be calm and you can stand your ground.

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And that is so incredibly empowering. And well sometimes

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even surprise the people in standing in front of you. Same

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goes with anxiety. If you've been very anxious lately, you

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know in social settings, or if you are by yourself because your

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nervous system is paranoid, of being alone after the pandemic.

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Ask your anxiety what its purpose is and know. You're not

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sure it's a phrenic if you address that part inside of you,

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you don't have to speak out loud. But I want you to start

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being curious about your anxiety because your anxiety has a

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purpose it is there. For some reason, you can run away from

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it. You can sleep it away, you can drink it away, you can sex

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it away. It is there and it's going to come back if you don't

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address it. So why not being curious about your anxiety? And

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to really dig deep there. Hey, why do I feel nervous all of a

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sudden? Why is my body tensing up other people that I'm

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socializing with? Not good for me and my purpose and my energy

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and my whole being? Or am I scared to feel judged to I feel

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shame it is really interesting to to go deep and to ask what

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it's all about. The way you feel the way you behave. Become a

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little detective and allow these gaps before reacting and how we

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like to say it and the coaching community do not react, respond.

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Alright, I think I want to leave you with that. Thank you so much

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for being patient with me. I'm trying out a new thing I will

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show up as often as I can for you hear through my podcast. But

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I will not stick to a rigid LAN of posting my episodes anymore

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because it wasn't serving me that well in the last couple of

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weeks. On days that I don't feel well, I don't feel inspired. I'd

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rather take care of myself than forcing out a podcast episode

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and then you would feel and hear that's inauthentic anyways. So I

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will show up for you. Rest assured, and I will show up for

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you in my most authentic and real way. But I will not show up

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for you no matter what. So, thank you for trusting me, thank

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you for being here. I deeply appreciate you. I deeply respect

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you because if you listen to my podcast, I know you have a

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growth mindset. You want to get out of your comfort zone and get

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something done in life. You want to let go of stuff that doesn't

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serve you anymore, and those are the most amazing people to have

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around. So yeah, I really, really love to connect with you

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and love spending time like this with you. take really good care

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of yourself and I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye