Ep.27 Is your inner critic driving you crazy?

Unknown: 00:00:11

Hello, hello,

Unknown: 00:00:12

and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Unknown: 00:00:15

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

Unknown: 00:00:19

today. I hope you're doing well, I hope you're in a good place.

Unknown: 00:00:24

And if you're not in a good place, I hope I can give you.

Unknown: 00:00:30

Yeah, hope and make you feel better about yourself. And the

Unknown: 00:00:36

situation you might be in today's topic is your inner

Unknown: 00:00:43

critic, and Outer Critics. I feel that when we choose to get

Unknown: 00:00:51

rid of our bad behaviors, patterns, habits that are not

Unknown: 00:00:58

serving us anymore. When we choose to walk on a new path, a

Unknown: 00:01:05

path that maybe no one ever walked on in our family, then we

Unknown: 00:01:15

will not be left alone, or how do you say spared being tested?

Unknown: 00:01:27

I posted her episode about that recently. And I felt it's really

Unknown: 00:01:33

important to talk about it again, that sometimes the

Unknown: 00:01:38

challenges will come from the inside, from your monkey mind

Unknown: 00:01:44

from your head. It is your inner critic that will jump in and

Unknown: 00:01:51

question what you're doing is that really what you want to do

Unknown: 00:01:55

is this way you see us going, are you sure you want to be

Unknown: 00:02:00

walking on that new path, you're not worth it. You don't deserve

Unknown: 00:02:06

to be free and happy. You need to struggle and work hard. So

Unknown: 00:02:14

sometimes we expect the test to come from the outside. But what

Unknown: 00:02:19

I learned painfully is that the monkey mind, the inner critic

Unknown: 00:02:27

will be your biggest challenge. And on the one side, sorry, on

Unknown: 00:02:33

the one side, it's a good thing. Because you can learn to be in

Unknown: 00:02:39

control of that monkey mind and put it in a corner, turn the

Unknown: 00:02:44

volume down. But on the other side, it's also very, very tough

Unknown: 00:02:51

because it's deeply ingrained thoughts, things that we

Unknown: 00:02:56

sometimes copy and pasted from our parents to not say inherited

Unknown: 00:03:02

from our ancestors. See, when you look at my grandma, for

Unknown: 00:03:08

instance, she went through war and Europe. And so she was

Unknown: 00:03:13

conceived during war and was born into war and then grew up

Unknown: 00:03:19

after the war was done. But the stress that her mom had to go

Unknown: 00:03:24

through during her pregnancy, and during the young years of my

Unknown: 00:03:29

grandma deeply affected my grandma too. So all this to say

Unknown: 00:03:35

is you your parents probably went through some stuff at some

Unknown: 00:03:43

point in their lives. And that deeply influenced their behavior

Unknown: 00:03:50

now, or even their DNA. And that will influence you. Which

Unknown: 00:03:56

doesn't mean that this is a stamp a tattoo that you will

Unknown: 00:04:00

never get rid of. But you have to get aware of it first. And

Unknown: 00:04:06

you have to see that certain behaviors, certain thought

Unknown: 00:04:12

patterns are not serving you anymore. And to then go out

Unknown: 00:04:18

there and question and, and let go of those thought patterns and

Unknown: 00:04:23

replace them with positive thought patterns is a very tough

Unknown: 00:04:30

job to do.

Unknown: 00:04:33

But I tell you what, it's so worth it and you might feel

Unknown: 00:04:38

you're distancing yourself from your family, you might be losing

Unknown: 00:04:42

contact for a while because you need a little bit of more

Unknown: 00:04:47

distance, because you realize certain behaviors were truly

Unknown: 00:04:52

abusive and way too aggressive and you don't want to continue

Unknown: 00:04:58

that chain Have behavior let's, let's say, but there will come a

Unknown: 00:05:04

point where you can forgive and forget. And where your family

Unknown: 00:05:10

can see that you're doing well, and you are on a new path and

Unknown: 00:05:15

you are creating, or getting ready for the evolution of the

Unknown: 00:05:24

human species. Right? So, if we were all to copy our parents

Unknown: 00:05:30

behavior, if they were to copy their parents behavior, like one

Unknown: 00:05:35

on one, never question anything, there wouldn't be any evolution

Unknown: 00:05:40

possible. We have to learn and adapt, we have to get rid of

Unknown: 00:05:45

things that were given to us, that are not serving us or

Unknown: 00:05:50

humanity, and be okay, and know that our parents are still

Unknown: 00:05:55

heroes, they still awesome. We don't have to blame and shame

Unknown: 00:05:59

them. But what I want to say here today is that your inner

Unknown: 00:06:04

critic, the way you feel about yourself, was shaped and molded

Unknown: 00:06:09

in a very young youth, the way your dad treated you highly

Unknown: 00:06:16

influenced your confidence, your self esteem, the way your mom

Unknown: 00:06:22

treated, you highly influences how you treat other people. And

Unknown: 00:06:28

again, how you feel about yourself. And our parents are no

Unknown: 00:06:33

saints. They are wonderful people who gave them all their

Unknown: 00:06:38

everything, to raise us with everything we need it. But

Unknown: 00:06:43

remember, you were not born with a manual, you will not born with

Unknown: 00:06:48

a little piece of paper where it says Justin will be awesome at

Unknown: 00:06:54

playing the piano, and is awesome at learning English, and

Unknown: 00:07:00

will be a highly intuitive person and a good doctor one

Unknown: 00:07:04

day, they don't know those things. So sometimes you're

Unknown: 00:07:09

being influenced in a different direction. First, a direction

Unknown: 00:07:14

that your family sees as best for you. But then you realize

Unknown: 00:07:18

quickly, this is not what I wanted to do here. This is not

Unknown: 00:07:23

what I came here for. And I want to break loose and find my

Unknown: 00:07:28

purpose and be on my path. And that's a scary path to be on.

Unknown: 00:07:34

But truly the only one that is healthy and good for you. And

Unknown: 00:07:42

yeah, you might have to have a couple conversations with your

Unknown: 00:07:45

family, the people that are close to you. But you have to

Unknown: 00:07:52

follow your purpose, you have to follow your inner voice. So your

Unknown: 00:07:58

inner critic is going to question you and make you

Unknown: 00:08:02

question makes you doubt what you're doing there. It's gonna,

Unknown: 00:08:07

depending on how confident you are with yourself, pull you back

Unknown: 00:08:11

in a very low self esteem and make you ask yourself, yeah, why

Unknown: 00:08:19

do I think people need what I got to offer? Why do I think

Unknown: 00:08:23

people will listen to what I say. And when you hear that

Unknown: 00:08:28

little voice, I'm hoping with this episode here, to remember

Unknown: 00:08:33

my voice and to remember that it is perfectly normal, that this

Unknown: 00:08:38

voice will come up. It will question you, it will doubt you

Unknown: 00:08:43

it will bring you down. It will maybe haunt you in your dreams.

Unknown: 00:08:48

But you have to turn the volume down or that little voice and

Unknown: 00:08:52

you have to keep walking that walk and know that if your

Unknown: 00:08:57

intentions are good, if you're here to serve people, if you

Unknown: 00:09:03

here to express your soul to express yourself, then this path

Unknown: 00:09:10

will always be the right one for you. And that little voice will

Unknown: 00:09:14

throw tantrums and get loud and very destructive. But you have

Unknown: 00:09:21

to feel and know that you're just being tested and you may

Unknown: 00:09:27

continue on your beautiful new path

Unknown: 00:09:31

that you are on. This episode maybe you heard it in my voice

Unknown: 00:09:38

is very very dear to my heart because it took me a long time

Unknown: 00:09:42

to put that inner critic into the corner. And to smile at it

Unknown: 00:09:46

and just know that this is a little part of myself that I

Unknown: 00:09:51

don't want to give too much importance. And I'm hoping so

Unknown: 00:09:56

much that in listening to this episode here He will identify

Unknown: 00:10:02

this little voice quickly. And you will be able to take

Unknown: 00:10:05

shortcuts or Yeah, take less time to totally blossom and

Unknown: 00:10:12

unfold your potential and sending my love out to you. I

Unknown: 00:10:18

hope you're doing well. And I will be out there very soon

Unknown: 00:10:23

again. Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis

Unknown: 00:10:27

experience. Please share, or review my podcast here. It will

Unknown: 00:10:32

mean the world to me. And yeah, you can always connect with me

Unknown: 00:10:38

on Facebook. I'm glad to answer questions, more receive requests

Unknown: 00:10:44

from you. Until next time, bye bye,