Ep. 26 Love starved society [Intimacy, Society]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

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As promised today. I want to talk about love starvation. Why

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do I want to talk about it, because this is what I feel. I

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feel that we are all on so many levels starved. We're so hungry

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for love. physical touch, healing touch, deep connection,

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intimacy, warmth, feeling understood, feeling seen feeling

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heard. And all I can say is I want to help that I want to

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alleviate these feelings. And now my dog is feeding on

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something that I have to take out of his mouth. I will be

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right back. Now we got everything sorted. So we feel

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disconnected. We feel we see people through a plexiglass and

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we literally like we actually do at the grocery store, at least

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here in Canada. We see each other but we don't really

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connect deeply. We are craving physical touch. yet. We're so

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scared because what if the person rejects me? What if

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society says this is harassment? What if

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it's so crazy. Like physical touches, something so natural.

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Yet right now. This, how these weird mixed messages around it.

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And we don't really know how to behave with each other anymore.

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And this whole virus talk this whole virus dominating our

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societies is not making it better. Because now we're being

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told now we believe now we live in fear of the other being in

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contact with another person might kill you might kill

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another person that you love and have contact with. And I'm not

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here to say this is wrong, the news are bad blah, blah, blah.

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I'm never gonna engage in that conversation. But all I'm seeing

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is people being lonely and pain because we're being love

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starved. So what can we do about this? What can we do to feel

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better to be more connected to ourselves to feel more loving,

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accepting towards yourself and then to bring that to the

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outside world. I use this time of isolation, too deeply

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reconnect to myself. And I'm doing it the very basic way.

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Yeah, I went through a yoga teacher training and I'm very

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interested in meditation and such. But what I'm doing, I feel

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is like the real basic of being a human being, breathing, tuning

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into your breath. Is my breath shallow? Or do I allow my entire

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lungs to breathe in an exhale? I put one hand onto my heart, and

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feel my heartbeat. Can you imagine there's people out there

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I once worked with a client. And he said, he cannot have earbuds

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in his ears. Because sometimes that makes him hear his pulse,

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his heartbeat, and that freaks him out. And I just thought, oh

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my god, like he can't even hear your own heartbeat. That's so

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crazy. That is you that is what keeping what keeps your life

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laying down on the floor. closing your eyes, you know,

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being on a hard surface and feeling your lungs expanding and

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then retracting again, expanding and retracting. Maybe hover

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above yourself, and look down on yourself. And look at your body.

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Look how magnificent it is. It is not only protecting you, but

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it is keeping your life it is constantly there for you.

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And then you go further and maybe you have a mirror and can

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look yourself in the eyes or maybe you just can look out the

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window and you see that your eyes are consuming. What are

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your eyes consuming? Are they consuming? Good nurturing

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energy? Or is it fast food? Do you see the beauty of life out

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there? I do you see gray shades and darkness and fear and

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hatred. Now you go to your ears. What are your ears consuming?

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Said beautiful soothing music is it a soothing voice of someone

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you love is it content that makes you feel good. When it

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comes to physical touch, when you have a shower Do you just go

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through your quick routine of scrubbing off all the parts and

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then Off you go. But you deeply appreciate a little bit of self

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love there. Not in a sexual way. But just touching your skin.

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Thanking your body for being there for you each second of

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your life.

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When you wash your hair when you massage your head a little bit.

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You can see that you can give yourself warmth, love and

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shelter and nurturing with your bare hands without any expensive

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creams or whatever is out there that people are trying to sell

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to you.

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Your hands can be very healing not only on other bodies but you

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can touch your skin. You can massage your head or your

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shoulders, your neck, you can put your hands onto your belly

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onto your heart as a couple mu dress from yoga that you can put

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your fingers in, and certain positions that I still like

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haven't understood it fully. But I can certainly feel it when you

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bring your index and your thumb together, and your three other

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fingers are kind of stretched away a little bit. It's kind of

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a closed circle, now, you can massage your temples. Next time

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you eat, you can send gratefulness

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off to all the people out there

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who have helped you to have that food on your plate. Matching,

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matching the chain of all the people helping out. And then you

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taste that food. And you're deeply appreciate what you're

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eating there. You know, that what you eat is what you become.

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Right? you ingest your food, and you not only poop it out again,

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your body actually takes it in, takes the nutrients out and

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keeps it in your body supports your nervous system, your

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organs, your heart. Everything you eat will affect your health,

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and the way you feel mentally and emotionally. So you sit

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there, you appreciate your food. You appreciate everybody who has

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helped you to get it onto your plate. And then you imagine your

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body absorbing all the good nutrients. And you know what the

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funny thing is with people who want to lose weight, once they

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do this little exercise, they realize Holy shit, like I don't

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need that extra chocolate. I don't need that extra fries that

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I just ordered. My body is soaking all of this in. I have

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to scrub my pants and my plates and my cutlery with so much

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soap. Because it is so greasy and all caked in. But this is

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what is happening inside of your body now. So all I'm saying here

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is that deep appreciation for your body will change the way

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you see yourself and feel about yourself. And you don't need

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anything for it. Just your presence. Just a little bit of

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imagination. And the more aware you will become of how you treat

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your body, the more aware you will be with what you put into

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your body. Your body is like I want to say that entity that

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makes you feel all these things read the feelings and the pain,

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the suffering the love. So if you treat that body Well, you

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will be more receptive to love as well. And that in return can

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be seen by other people. They can see the self acceptance, the

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self respect, they can see that glow and they will be so

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magnetized by you. being present with yourself and taking deep

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care of yourself. They want to connect to that because that is

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something they are missing. And then you can teach them what I'm

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teaching you here. And then if people are open for it, you can

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start a conversation, a deep connection. And we can start to

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talk about physical touch again. I feel like I said at the

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beginning there's so many mixed messages out there when it comes

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to physical touch and sexuality and consent and harassment and

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blah blah blah if we learn to properly communicate with each

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other again We will open up to each other, like flowers to the

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bee. And then you can be the bee again, or you can be the flower

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and receive. And we can all connect on deeper levels to each

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other again. But we have to gain trust again, there's so much

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distrust and fear out there. We have to gain trust in ourselves

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and our bodies. Trust that we can strengthen our immune system

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with these self love practices. And maybe additionally, taking

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vitamins, going for walks, drinking enough water. And

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sleeping.

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Sleep is so incredibly important. And I'm also

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providing you with meditations here. So when you go onto my

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website, the Borealis experience.com and put in the

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search bar meditation, it should spit you out a couple episodes

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on meditation, and that can very well help you on finding a

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deeper sleep. So I see and feel the love starvation in our

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society. And my vision is to give people these tools. And the

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funny thing is that I know we each have these tools, we just

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have to be remembered. I'm not teaching you something new here,

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I'm just remembering you have the power you have and not only

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the power, but the connection to yourself that you have. And I

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remind you, sorry, I don't say I remember you I remind you. I

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remind you of the huge love that you're carrying inside of

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yourself. And that love wants to be expressed towards yourself.

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And then through that towards others. Deep trust deep love, go

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hand in hand and can dissolve hatred and fear. conversations,

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raw conversations, asking questions, being curious,

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instead of making assumptions will spark raw and beautiful,

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connecting, nurturing conversations again. and that in

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turn will make us feel less lonely and more connected. That

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is my vision for the next couple of months and years to come. To

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remind you of the deep connection that you can have to

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yourself and then to others. Thank you so much for listening

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to this episode here. leave you for now that you're on your own.

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You know where you can find me always on Instagram, the

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Borealis experience on Facebook, Aurora Eggert. I'm so grateful

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to be on this journey with you. Until next time, bye bye