Ep. 24 Do we need men in our lives? [society]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And today I want to talk about

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men.

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Let's just keep it simple. I'm going to talk about men. And why

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do we need men,

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masculine energy, feminine energy.

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roles that we play in our lives, role models that we have and

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look up to.

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It seems like

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that behavior between men and women in heterosexual

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relationships has shifted over the last couple of years.

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And

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not for the better.

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I feel that a lot of women feel overwhelmed and frustrated.

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And a lot of men feel useless

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and lost.

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Not all, of course. But what I want to talk about today is the

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relationships that keep failing, the conversation that

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go into

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very aggressive, nasty

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directions.

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And the only thing I feel I can do about it,

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to change it is to talk about what I experienced, what I

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observe, and then see and feel of if others can relate or feel.

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It's in alignment with their thoughts and values as well.

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I feel as a woman nowadays, I want to be in control and

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charge, I want to know what's going on at all times.

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And it tires me out.

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And man,

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if you have a true warrior at your side. And it doesn't have

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to be a romantic relationship, it can be a friend, for you

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allow that masculine energy into your life.

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I feel that deep sense of being safe and protected.

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And the masculine energy is also very soothing, when we start

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listening to it and start

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surrender to life and not wanting to control everything at

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all times.

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What I observed and experienced is that

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guys have a very sensitive

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and Tanna, let's say for timing.

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When it comes to relationships, they know exactly what is good

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when,

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of course provided that he has gone through his stuff and lives

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in the present and not in the past anymore and struggling with

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pain and resentment from the past when he's allowed to be his

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true self.

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And this man is in your presence. Then there's that

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feeling of protectiveness and warmth and kindness and wanting

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to serve you.

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But you also have to allow it. You have to be

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still at times and silent and be open to receive it. You have to

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do your work before you enter

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a relationship

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or a friendship with a guy.

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And a little disclaimer here I'm only two

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Talking about heterosexual relationships.

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Because I have no experience with same sex relationships. And

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the friends I have, that are in same sex relationships, they

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seem to have

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different struggles, but not as severe

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as struggles and what I can see between men and women, and also

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in same sex relationships, you have always one part that has

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the masculine role, and the other one, the feminine role,

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and doesn't matter with which body parts you have been born.

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So just to say that from the beginning here.

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So when I talk about masculine and feminine energy, it doesn't

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mean that you have a penis or a vagina necessarily. And I just

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talk from my experience when I was in heterosexual

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relationships.

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So when we allow the man to guide us, and to be curious

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about what he can show us and open us up to,

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then it can

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spark energy inside of us that

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it's very hard to

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reach and experience when you are by yourself.

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And for guys, it must be pretty similar to when you have a woman

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next to you, who is in tune with her body with herself. Who can

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go with her mood swings without beating herself up.

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Then she also can open you up to a completely new world.

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I have my puppy here in the background. He's nine weeks old.

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dozer is his name. And we got him two days ago.

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And my 10 year old Pitbull lady that I introduced already, and

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she's very nasty with other dogs. And ever since we

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introduced this little male puppy into her life, she is

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totally relaxed, and doesn't feel the need to be as alert and

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controlling as she used to be when she was by herself. And

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this is what inspired me to do this episode today because this

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little male

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guy here, dog, have a post a picture of him too, is bringing

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a lot of peace into her life.

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And it's beautiful to observe because she's a very jealous

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dog. And she's always been in charge of protecting the

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chickens here and protecting us people here. And now she has a

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companion who can share the load with her. And it's very, very

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special to watch. So just a little side note to this

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episode. Now. This is also a reason why I sound a little

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exhausted today.

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Because I didn't get much sleep because their puppy is keeping

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me awake at night. And it's a beautiful, beautiful experience.

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But just to explain why my voice is a little lower than usual.

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So if you take that and what I just offered you

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maybe observe your thoughts, your reactions, maybe you

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totally disagree with me. Maybe it gets you're really fired up

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and you just want to send me a message right away because you

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think it's bullshit and we can survive without men and we don't

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need man.

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Please don't hold back and let's talk about it. Let's have that

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conversation because I feel this is exactly the conversation that

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is missing out there. We need men. We need masculine energy if

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we live in our feminine energy and the masculine energy needs

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feminine energy, just as much. And if we can work together, if

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we can flow together, this planet can be so beautiful and

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peaceful and we can build things and get things done.

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But until there's these walls and resentment about the past,

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and between us, it will be very hard for both sides.

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And I think it's beautiful to see

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in the media and, and pretty much everywhere you go that more

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and more women

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claim powerful positions in society. And a lot of those

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women, I look up to, and I'm really proud with.

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On the other side, I also see women that still live in

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resentment and really bring a very toxic

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side

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to this table and

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want to be in power and want to be in charge and want to be

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independent, but not because of the right intentions, but

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because of past pain with men, and disappointments and wounds

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that not have not healed yet. And those women

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seriously harming society, especially if they're raising

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young boys and at a young age, trying to suffocate and suppress

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their masculine traits that are beautiful when you look at a

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little boy. And, again, it can be a little girl that lives more

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and her masculine energy, they are energetic, they're curious,

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they destroy and build and fight and

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want to cuddle and nurses all good.

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Except if you are overwhelmed with that intense energy that

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enters your life and maybe penetrates your energy,

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masculine energy is penetrating. And the feminine energy is kind

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of swirling around and embedding

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the energy of the masculine. So to all women out there, who feel

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that they're still struggling with their past and their

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wounds, and that became aware of it, and are working on that. I

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can just say, huge respect, because I've been there on that

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journey. And it took me quite some time to be at peace with

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men again. And for all women out there who enjoy their life and

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give themselves pleasure and receive pleasure from from their

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partner and can live in tune with nature and don't feel

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threatened by

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the energetic energy of a man also sharpell. And to all the

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men out there, who

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went through pain and disappointment, but are still

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open to this conversation. I want to say, I want to post so

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much more about this topic because I feel this is what we

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need to build a stronger society and to feel healthy and good

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under our skin.

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So you were listening to the Borealis experience today. I

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hope my voice was not too tired.

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I hope I didn't come across as too esoteric.

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If you have questions, shoot me a message. This was not the last

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episode about this topic. As you can hear, I'm definitely not a

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feminist.

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And I will be out there soon again. Take good care of

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yourself. Bye bye