Ep.24 Do this and it'll change you and your environment.

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today. It is Friday. And yeah, I

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hope you have a good weekend ahead of you. I know. For some

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people, it's the weekend, no work all week long. But maybe by

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now you find a hobby.

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Sorry, found a hobby, or

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are okay with the COVID situation. It's very tough on

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all of us, no matter where you're at. So just a reminder

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that you're not alone in this. We're in this together.

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Yeah, I hope you enjoyed my little intro here. Today's

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episode is about appreciation. Do you truly appreciate

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things live, everything you have.

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A friend of mine contacted me today, and said she really tries

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to appreciate drinking water now. And when she has a shower,

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then she really appreciates the water and

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uses a lotion or oil afterwards.

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To feel good and her skin. And I really encourage people to do

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that more and more because it's not always on your partner to

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apply physical touch nonsexual physical touch. And if you're

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single, then it's especially important that you know how to

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take really good care of your body.

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So drinking water on a regular and then not just chucking it

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around, and not just doing it because the doctor told you to

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drink those three liters a day. But to really

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see that this is a precious material.

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Do you say material, maybe not an English

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and it is going to nourish your body, it's going to make your

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heart function, your lungs function, your kidneys function,

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and your body is going to make beautiful cells out of that

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water and keep you healthy and in balance.

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And when it comes to the shower, I just got reminded today that

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so often we just during the day, wash our hands, have a shower,

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rub soap on, wash it off. Maybe anon COVID times get a hug from

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a friend or a partner. You have sex with your partner. But do

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you really take care of your skin and really feel and touch

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your body at times. I think we all don't do that enough in a

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non sexual way. And maybe you can think of it more often and

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really appreciate your beautiful hands, your forearms, your

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biceps, your triceps and your back. Give yourself a little bag

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right up there with some oil, some

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body lotion.

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And then, of course going for walks and inhaling fresh air and

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really filling up your lungs with that beautiful oxygen that

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is also nourishing your air every being.

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And then when it comes to our relationships, do you really

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truly appreciate the people that are in your life that you love?

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Do you make eye contact with them? Do you ask them questions

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that go beyond how was your day? And can you do this or that for

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me? Do you listen to them? Maybe do you

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treat them with a massage or beautiful music or something?

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Like when we think about the five senses, whatever you can do

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to I don't want to say stimulate the other senses but to

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To

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bring something good to your partners or friends,

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life,

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then think about the five senses, maybe you can cook well,

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and you're awesome at preparing meals, maybe you are a musician,

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and you can play beautiful music, and you totally

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underestimate how touching it is to play music for another

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person.

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Maybe you are an artist, or you are totally handsome, pretty

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lady, and you can just

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Yeah, stimulate their visual sense.

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And then physical touch is also very powerful. You can give a

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hand rub a foot rub

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a bad group.

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And,

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yeah, so sometimes we're so caught up in trying to make

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ourselves good. And we forget that doing someone, somebody

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else something good, does us good, as well, because we're

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herd animals, and we need each other. And when the other is

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doing well, it usually positively affects us as well.

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And then we have the fifth sense, the scent.

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I've only discovered that recently. Actually, I know

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perfumes are awesome and make you feel great after a shower.

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But to have essential oils,

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do you different kinds of sense to when you eat, really eat with

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all your senses and really smell your food, really smell that

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orange before you bite into it, that pineapple.

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It really changes your whole experience. So if you have like

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a favorite scent, like let's say mint, eucalyptus or oregano, go

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and get yourself a little bottle of that essential oil, and

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stimulate laid your

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scent sense at times. And it's really, really a beautiful way

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to connect with yourself and, and to feel good.

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What I really

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want to emphasize here is that appreciation is so much more

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important than dissecting and analyzing with the mind. What I

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find most annoying is when you sit at the table and you cook

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something and all the person is interested in is the recipe and

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what ingredients are in there. And we have to dissect

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everything to the to the ends degree. And those people usually

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don't know me because I cook and bake pretty much everything

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without recipe, I take it as a guideline and then throw it into

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a corner. When I eat when I want to taste something, then I do it

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with all my senses with my fingers, and so on. And I truly

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enjoy the moment and I feel too much were distracted

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with our phones or really want to know into the details. What

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was going on with that food before we eat it instead of just

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trusting us from for me it's a trust issue when someone has to

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know every little detail about the food that I put on the

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table.

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Except when it comes to dietary needs that I know beforehand if

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you're gluten free or lactose free or vegan or whatever. But

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as soon as I know that just shut up and enjoy.

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And the same goes for your partner. Sometimes we fatigue or

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partners with questions and we want to know and we want them to

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talk and think that that is listening and taking care of a

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partner. But sometimes we just have to feel like does that

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person really want to talk right now? Do they want to open up to

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me? Or do they just enjoy my company and want to be quiet?

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Because being able to be quiet with someone to appreciate

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silence

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to gaze into each other's eyes. Without it being awkward, is so

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so precious and very, very intimate. It is a beautiful way

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to connect. And to be silent at times is way more powerful than

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to wanting to analyze

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No and wanting and desiring and expecting and nagging.

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Yes. So appreciation is usually silent and involves all senses.

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So what I encourage you to do now is to go out into this world

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or to stay at home and to observe yourself how much you

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were appreciating stuff up until now, and how much of a beautiful

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experience you can add to your life now, with those simple

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little life hacks. Thank you so much for listening to the

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Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'll be out

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there for you tomorrow again, thanks for being here.