Ep. 22 What does your sexuality has to do with your mental health ? [healing]

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Today, I want to talk about your sexuality.

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Yes, I'm not shy

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about talking

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about sexuality and intimacy, sensuality, it's such a big part

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of our lives. And when we talk about self care when we talk

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about

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a healing, when we talk about getting to know ourselves better

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when we talk about wanting to improve the relationships

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in our lives. We cannot exclude sexuality because it makes us us

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to know what you desire to know what you need to know what your

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preferences are, give you a deep sense of self. And the more

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clear you are with yourself about what you need, and want,

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the more confident you're going to be, the more clear you're

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going to be with the people around you. And the easier those

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relationships are gonna be flowing.

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So

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If you are still listening, if you are interested in this

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episode, then hello, hello and welcome.

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So when we first explore our bodies, we usually in our teens,

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some people are younger, some are a little bit older. But we

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find out that we can give ourselves pleasure and that is

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so incredibly powerful, exciting, and healthy. I'm all

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for

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self exploration and finding out what is best for you. Again, the

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more you know what gives you pleasure, what makes you feel

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great, the better connected you are to yourself and the more

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confident you can be.

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There's a lot of people out there who are feeling shame for

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what they desire for what they feel. And that is a shame.

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For people to feel shame, that is a shame because then they

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start suppressing it and start feeling weird about it and start

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hiding and start not being honest with people around them.

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And this is when all the BS starts. And depression can even

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start by you suppressing a very important side of yourself.

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Of course, no one is getting harmed. You are also not harming

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yourself. And there's consent

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with the practices that you desire, right and cannot be.

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Yeah, let's say too far.

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are off, where people are getting hurt, animals are

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getting hurt, or you are getting hurt.

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In that case, seek out help. But find a way to talk about us

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there is groups out there

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where you can meet and talk about your preferences. And if

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they're not totally socially acceptable, that at least you

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can talk about them and find people who can listen. So there

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is ways to channel that energy out.

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If you are

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very sexual, and you have to suppress it, because maybe you

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are with a partner who is not, or maybe you grew up in an

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environment, where it's totally not okay to express sexuality to

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even talk about it, you are suffering internally, and you

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might not even

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be aware of it, you are shutting out a big part of yourself, you

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are trying to tame and suppress that

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strong energy that is inside of you. But it will come out and

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weird ways it will come out and you know, weird.

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It can be pretty much everything when we when we suppress our

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sexuality, sexuality, you can become sick from it, you can

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become a very awkward person around the people that you are

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attracted to, you can live in total isolation because you feel

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so much shame.

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So it is really important to be curious about it. And to, to

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find out what is it that you like, and then how to

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communicate that to your potential partner, or to your

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partner right now. And those relationships don't have to be

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rigid relationships are meant to flow and change and move. And

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sometimes when we open up to a partner world something, it

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changes the whole relationship for the better. Yes, sometimes

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you might

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face rejection. But you have to have that willingness to face

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rejection, you have to have that bravery, that courage to face

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react, rejection, to, to stand up for yourself and to know,

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yes, this is what I like, this is what I'm into. And this is

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what I'm going to communicate to you if the other person is not

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into it. Of course, you will not be able to live it so to say,

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but at least you have expressed it then. And that alone is so

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incredibly powerful. And with most partners will increase

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trustworthiness, when they know what you're all about, what

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gives you pleasure, what is good for your body, then they can

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either choose to engage in it and help you out. Or they can

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say no, this is absolutely not for me and yeah, we will have to

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find a solution here to to reconnect on a different level.

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So what I want to encourage with this episode is

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become curious about your sensuality, your sexuality,

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again, explore, read, watch little videos, there's tons of

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information online and find out what it is that brings you joy

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and pleasure. It is an area in your life that is

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or can be very nurturing, very healing. And yeah, it can deepen

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the relationships with yourself and with the people around you.

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And to start, I would say,

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enjoy and accept your body fully, just like it is when you

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have a shower. Be grateful for your beautiful and healthy body.

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Be comfortable walking around naked in your house. Be

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comfortable

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showing up in front of a mirror and looking at yourself and

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laughing at the parts that you don't really like.

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The more we accept ourselves the more we will be accepting with

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others and help others to be accepting of their bodies to and

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that is so incredibly powerful. It

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If you get to help somebody to like their body better, my God,

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it is a huge

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bonding, it is a huge trust that can spark between two people.

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So try to live in full acceptance with your first self

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first. And then maybe you can help your partner to do the

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same. If you are single, focus only on yourself and give it all

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to you enjoy yourself and really explore what feels nice.

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You need to let that energy out, you need to, yeah, find a

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channel on how to express it. And you know, I've talked about

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it.

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And season two or three, I think, where I was observing

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Mick Jagger, for instance, or

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prints, or other musicians that are out there, where you can

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clearly see that they pour all their energy into their

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instrument or into singing, it is their sexual energy that they

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learn to use to create. So this is another thing that you can

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learn to do when you're single, but also when you're in a

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committed relationship is that you find ways to channel that

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beautiful energy into something creative, and authentic and

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something that reflects you 100%.

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Sometimes people say yeah, when you masturbate a little bit too

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much, then you waste energy. Yes, you reach climax, you reach

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your orgasm, and it gives you pleasure, but only for a short

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amount of time. Sometimes

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giving yourself pleasure and not reaching an orgasm. And instead

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channeling that energy into a creative project, something that

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you want to build something that you want to.

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Yeah, gift to others. So to say it can be art, it can be music,

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it can be something that you

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build out of wood and metal and stones, whatever it is, people

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can sense that it is very genuine, it is very pure. It is

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very unique to you.

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So I think all I want to say today is that.

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Be curious. And if you were suppressing it, find ways to

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channel it out. As always, feel free to reach out to me and if

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you want to,

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like request another episode about this topic, too, for me to

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go a little bit more into depth. Don't hold back. I just wanted

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to let you know that yes, this topic is extremely important

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when it comes to our mental and physical health. And it is very

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exciting to explore. That's a good thing.

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Stop suppressing. Stop feeling shame and guilt and learn to

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talk about it with like minded people, with people that you

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trust.

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This is me for now. I have a guest here soon where we will be

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talking about masculine sexuality. He is a coach. He is

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a facilitator for man circle for man's work. And I'm so

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incredibly blessed to be connected with him because I

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learned so much from him and I invited him onto the show for

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you to learn from him as well. All right, take really good care

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of yourself. Don't forget to subscribe. Don't forget to leave

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that. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye