Ep. 23 The #1 killer of your drive/ambition [empowerment, awareness]

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would mean the world to me. Today I want to talk about the

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number one killer of your ambition. What is it that

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cripples your self esteem that makes you feel small? That makes

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you feel unimportant? That makes you think these sorts of what

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message do I have to tell the world? Why do I think I should

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be doing this? I feel the number one killer is comparing yourself

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to others. If you look at social media, I love social media, you

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know that I love it so much. Because they're I get to connect

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with you, I get to post videos. And yeah, I interact with with

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all you lovely people out there. But there's days where I peek

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into other people's success paths and see everything they

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are doing and I'm not doing and yeah, start comparing myself.

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And it all happens very unconsciously. You just click on

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somebody and then you go through their feed and you just think

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holy, what am I doing? Why do I think I should keep doing what

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I'm doing. And these awful thoughts come up.

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And I'm sure

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it is very relatable. To many people out there doesn't have to

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be Facebook, it doesn't have to be social media, or podcasting,

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it can be anything that you would like to start and then you

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kind of get going a little bit, but then you start looking left

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and right. And you think oh my god, like I'm so far from being

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as good as others here. And this is very important to notice. And

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to stop. Immediately. When these thoughts come up, when these

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ugly feelings come up and start consuming your energy and your

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positivity and your drive. You have to stop it right away. And

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have tools have things in place that you can do right away in

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order to feel better and to keep in your

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tracks.

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What I like to do is, call a friend, talk to a friend, and

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then not whine about how I feel but ask about their day. And ask

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about how they're doing and on which journey they are on. And

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usually that's very inspiring already. And if they asked me

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how I'm feeling, then I will be open and transparent and tell

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them what was going on in my brain just recently. And they

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will help you to get back on tracks.

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Another thing that

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you should really learn to do is that when you start doing

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something that you trust, your intention and your motivation,

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you want to be good at something. You want to express

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yourself. You want to show to the world what you have to offer

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and you're offering something that serves other people that

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causes no harm to other people, but only brings value to other

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people's lives. And when you start focusing on that mission

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and intention only When you face a dark day, when you face a

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moment of comparing yourself to another person, you will be able

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to remind yourself of your mission. And to know that, if

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you only help one person out there, you are successful

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already. And if it is to person, you can count yourself lucky.

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And other people might be very successful too. And try to see

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them as an inspiration, instead of an intimidation, try to see

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that there might be focusing a little bit more, they might be

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engaging in distractions a little bit less, they might take

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a little bit better care of their physical body and their

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emotional body, they might be surrounding themselves with

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people that inspire them and uplift them on a daily basis. It

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is very important to see who you surround yourself with, and to

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seek approval from the right people and to seek approval in a

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healthy way. I think it is wrong to say that we shouldn't seek

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approval because I feel it is a very human thing to do. It's

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happening automatic, we want to feel like we belong, we want to

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feel like we're doing good, we want to feel that we're enough.

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And we want to even feel sometimes that we are

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influencing people in a very good and healthy way. But you

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have to seek that approval from a trusted source from a person

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that you might be even looking up to never seek approval from a

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person that you don't want to trade places with, if you know

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what I mean. And the sad part about this is that sometimes the

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people we love most, sometimes our parents or siblings are on a

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very different path are in a very different stage of their

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healing and process and living and everything. And sometimes we

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cannot ask for help or approval from those people that are

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closest to us. Because they're not there yet. Maybe they don't

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really understand what you're trying to do. And they will try

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to hold you back, they will limit you with their limiting

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beliefs. And you will just end up frustrated and confused and

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lost and not knowing should I be pursuing my passion, or should I

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just let it go and become a banker after all, and becoming a

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banker is not a bad thing. But it is a bad thing, if you were

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meant to become an artist or an actor, or a creative

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personality. So the number one killer, I believe is comparing

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yourself to others. Try to schedule time away from social

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media. Try to use social media as a tool to boost your

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confidence and to inspire you and never to compare yourself.

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Try to consume a little less and create a little more. And again,

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it doesn't have to be on Facebook. But on a daily basis.

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Ask yourself, Am I consuming more than I'm creating? Am I

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expressing more then just soaking in information and

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letting it sit on my little lazy shelf inside of my brain? If you

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know what I mean? Am I just you know with your eyes you consume

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with your mouth you consume with your ears you consume, what kind

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of quality of stuff are you consuming? And what kind of

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stuff are you putting out there in the world. So, catch yourself

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next time when you feel you're comparing yourself. catch

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yourself when you feel you're seeking approval from someone

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who has no credibility to give you any kind Have critique or

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comment on what you're trying to do. And surround yourself with

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people that are good for your soul and that are pushing you to

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become better, and not making you feel as if you're not

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enough. Another thing that I want to mention here when it

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comes to your ambition, it is very important to I want to say

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schedule.

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But

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maybe scheduling is not a good thing for you. But let's try it

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out to schedule, maybe weekly. You sitting down at your desk,

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and writing down all the little steps that you've done over the

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week, to get closer to your goal to your dream. And I want you to

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go back to all my episodes that I record it for you so far about

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your dreams, and your goals. If you go onto my website, the

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Borealis experienced.com you can at the very top, put in

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keywords, and then it spits you out the episode yet that you

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need for your specific mood or questions. And I want you to

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listen to the episodes about your dreams. Because if you keep

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track of the little steps that you took over a week, you will

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see over time that this is very motivating and that you will

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keep that beautiful new habit.

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And this in turn will get you closer to your goals and dreams.

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And it doesn't really matter how you approach like how you take

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those little tech

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steps.

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It can be talking to someone who has done it already who is

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successful already. It can be reading a book about what you're

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passionate about and about the goal you want to reach. It can

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be meeting up with people, strangers, on Facebook, in

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Facebook groups, and bombarding them with questions. It can be

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all sorts of things, but small little steps that you can track

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and know that at the end of the week, you have become closer to

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your goal and your dream. And those levels step will compound

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over time and will transform into big steps. And one day you

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can look back and see Yeah, you've done it, you are there.

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And it only took a little bit of discipline, a little bit of self

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awareness. And now you got to where you want it to be. The

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better you know yourself. The more confident decisions you can

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make, and the happier person you will be. And the happier person

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you can be to others here, and society and communities on

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planet Earth. I'm always there for you, you can always reach

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out to me on Facebook, I launched my patreon profile here

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recently, where you can connect with me directly we can have a

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little zoom session, you can pour

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out your

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heart to me and then we can find constructive ways to get

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yourself out of your mess. We can also meditate together if

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that is something you would like to

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try.

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I'm sending my love out to you. Thank you from the bottom of my

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heart to listen and to share these episodes with people that

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you love and respect. And I will be out there very soon again.