Ep. 24 The 2 things you should focus on to reach your goals [empowerment]

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Hello,

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and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora, and I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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or a meditation together with me, or you sent me questions,

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you can contact me over my Patreon page where I'm offering

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all kinds of services to support you. If you struggle at the

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moment, I'm not a professional, I'm not a doctor. I'm not a

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licensed therapist. I am a regular woman who went through

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some stuff. And as ready to help people and relate with people

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and make people feel better throughout this tough time. It

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is very hard for me at the moment to not get affected by

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the news. I have contacts all over the world and people ask

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for help and tell me their stories and tell me what the

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things are they want to change in their life and their

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community. And even in my country here in Canada, things

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are, yeah, very weird at the moment. And I keep reminding

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myself of the nurse and the doctor. Because this is the

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position in society that I can most relate to being a nurse,

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some kind of a healer. And if you look at nurses and doctors,

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for instance, who go to war and help soldiers, they don't follow

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the news. They see people coming in with injuries and they have

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their brain totally focused on the task at hand on what has to

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be done. And what I want to say by that is, in my case, if I was

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to get too involved with watching the news right now, and

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to agitate it to anxious to angry to upset, I couldn't do my

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job. Well, I couldn't be here for you the way I am. I'm

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trusting people out there in leadership to make the right

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decisions for all of us. And I'm here for people who are

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struggling anyways, and who need help and support who have lost

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their sense of self and maybe happiness and help them back on

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tracks. But if I don't protect myself from all this horrible

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stuff that's going on out there, I would not be able to sustain

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my little podcast and mission here. So all this to say is that

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sometimes we need to switch off the news. Sometimes we just have

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to focus on the people that are around us, immediately around

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us, your family, your extended family, your friends, your co

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workers, and your neighbors are the most important people that

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influenced your life. And make sure that you're there for them.

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Make sure that you give them a lesson. Make sure that you open

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up to them and are vulnerable because that's the support net

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you really have to be able to count.

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So today's episode is about your self worth and consistency. And

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everything I share here is my experience is how I learned

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things along my journey, and I'm sharing this with you, in order

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to help you understand yourself better. And then for you to, in

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the future, make better decisions for yourself and your

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community. I'm by no means and professional counsellor, or

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doctor, or whatever you can think of. I'm just someone who

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likes to share, and care. So to say. And today, I want to talk

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about consistency and self worth, because this is what I've

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learned to focus on when I wanted to get out of addiction.

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Some of you might know that I was anorexic. So I was battling

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with an eating disorder for a couple years in my teens, and

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was able to pull myself out there. And it was self worth.

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That healed me, I had to start focusing on myself again and

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work on my issues of not feeling enough, not feeling good enough,

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not feeling as if I belong. And not feeling understood, I had to

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work on that in order to let go of my addiction to having to

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control food and wanting to be super skinny. Today, I can say

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I'm healed. But that illness will always be a part of my

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life. And I want to help people out, who are maybe struggling

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with that kind of illness or addiction, to things that are

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very, very close together. And I want to support people who are

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maybe ready to start a business and ready to be successful in

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life, but they don't know how to stay on track, stay motivated.

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So maybe you can relate to this, maybe you have started something

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in the past and you were very excited, you got all the

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equipment that it needs. And then a couple weeks in a couple

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months in maybe you start feeling unmotivated, and doubt

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are starting to creep in. And one step leads to the other and

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you start losing interest, and then all that beautiful

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equipment lands in the corner. Why does that happen? I feel

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that happens. Sometimes when we make too radical of a change, it

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can also be when it comes to weight loss, and you radically

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change your food habits, your exercising habits, and not in a

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way that is sustainable. And then you start making little,

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you know, mistakes, you start being weak a little bit at some

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point. And then from there, the guilt kicks in and self doubt,

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and your self worth issues. Totally take over. So the most

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important thing when you want to start something new, or when you

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want to get out of an addiction is that you learn to focus in on

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yourself with again, there's lots of really good meditations

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out there. And I want to provide you with more meditations of

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that kind here in the future. And they can help you to watch

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your thoughts and to recognize maybe how destructive even your

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thoughts are to awards yourself. And once you notice the thoughts

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and feelings that come up when you sit in meditation with

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yourself, you couldn't work on changing it and kind of building

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new neural pathways. You know, your brain, your mind are two

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different things. And your mind can be trained and reshaped. at

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any age, age is really no excuse. And after how many years

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of struggling with an addiction. You can slowly

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slowly

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learn to replace destructive thoughts with constructive

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thoughts and maneuver yourself in very small baby steps into

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the direction that you want. So when it comes to consistency and

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You start something out, you need to make little steps that

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are sometimes maybe even laughable. So if you want to

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start a business, maybe you start talking to people first

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who've done it before you start reading books, you start

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collecting information about what you want to do. And at

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every end of the week, you sit down for 15 minutes, and you

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write down everything that you've done, to get closer to

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your goal. And then, the most important thing is that you

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reward yourself with something healthy, of course, not with

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alcohol, or sweets, or porn, or anything of that sort.

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But you

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maybe call up a friend, who you have a very good connection

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with. And you share those news with that person, and you tell

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them that you're proud of yourself, or you sit down with

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yourself, and really, tap yourself emotionally and

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mentally on the shoulder and celebrate yourself a little bit.

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I feel in my society I live in here, in the Western society, in

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Europe, even it's the same thing. We tend to relate to

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people on a very negative self image, like, Oh, I'm so fed up.

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And so damn, I've done this mistake again. And then you

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laugh. And then the other person tells their story of how stupid

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and ugly and unsuccessful they are. And we do that in order to

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not intimidate the other person. We do that because we want to

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relate with the other person has something in common. But you

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have to have these people in your life where you can

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celebrate yourself and you celebrate them and you boost

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each other to how do you say that you boost each other to

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levels that you would never have dreamt off? To reach. So I've

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mentioned that in my last episode, it is so important to

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keep track of your limited steps that you make during a week or

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two. And then to keep in contact with people who cheer for you.

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And if you have nobody who cheers for you. And this is how

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most people start, you have to be your own biggest cheerleader,

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you have to know that you're either losing weight, to feel

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better not to look better, to feel better, or you're trying to

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get rid of your disc addiction, because you want to feel better

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about yourself. Or you start a new business because you want to

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have a purpose and society, you found your purpose, and you want

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to act upon it. And you're proud of it. And no one can hold you

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back. Because you know for certain that you bring value to

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people's life with your passion. Another thing that is extremely

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important is that you are aware of into what kind of family

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dynamic Are you born into, because as some people I keep

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repeating myself, are born into families that are not

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necessarily in alignment with the individual's value. Now what

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do you do if you are born an artist and you are born into a

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family of intellectual and bankers. This is awesome

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opportunity for evolution and for growth. Because you can

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learn so much from your family when it comes to intellectual

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stuff and banking stuff. So numbers and stuff. At the same

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time, fiercely go for your mission, to be an artist out

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here in this world and cheer for yourself first. And once you're

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out there and people can see that you're being authentic, and

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that you have your own back. You will gain followers. I promise

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you. This is a natural thing that happens if you are brave

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enough to step up to your needs and your purpose and your

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potential. And you go out there and share yourself with the

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world. So this is the self worth part. your self worth your doubt

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on the other side Will extremely test you on every level once you

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start doing something outside of your comfort zone. And I'm

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telling you this today, because I wanted to be able to take

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shortcuts, I want you to not waste time just like I did it,

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and continue living a life that you don't really want to be

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living and working a job that you don't really want to be

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working. Believe in yourself, believe in your potential to

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touch people's hearts, and to positively influence this

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beautiful planet. And remind yourself, every time rich self

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doubts are creeping in, that I am here for you, to help you

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along your way. And to encourage you to remind you of who you

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are. And to keep you on track, whenever you want to jump off

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because the path is getting a little bit too rough. Every path

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is getting rough, if you're deciding to leave your comfort

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zone is perfectly normal, is just all about how you react to

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it. If you throw the towel in and think that you're not made

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for it, I'm telling you today, you are wrong, you have to keep

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pushing,

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you have to

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keep protecting your dreams and fighting for them, if not on an

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hourly basis, self worth and consistency. Consistency is

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being created. When you organize yourself, when you know that in

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the morning, you get up. And the first thing that you do is not

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jump on your phone and scroll through Facebook. But sit with

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yourself and think about or write out what you want to

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achieve this day. And be as precise as you want to be it

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doesn't matter. It is all about having a routine in the morning,

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and being straight up with yourself of where you want to

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go. And then at the end of the day, the most important thing,

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again, is that you don't beat yourself up if you haven't

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accomplished every single thing on your little morning list. But

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you see what you have done. And I'm sure you have done more to

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reach your goal. Then, if you had not written out those couple

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to do things in the morning, I hope you getting my point here.

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It is about setting a certain tone for yourself in the

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morning, to get yourself ready to get yourself focused. And

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then at the end of the day to see Okay, I got some things of

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the list done. And it is way more as if I didn't write things

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out in the morning. And you will see over time, healthy

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nutrition, good sleeping habits, perfect social interactions. And

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they don't always have to be perfect, of course. But you want

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to aim for the people that are doing good in your life, and

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that are inspiring to you. Keeping your goal in your mind

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and being focused and not being distracted by social media or

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Netflix. Or like some sort of you know recreational drugs that

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help you when you feel depressed. When you keep those

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little steps those advices that I'm providing you here close to

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your heart. I'm promise you, you can make changes, you can get

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closer to your goal. And people are We are all animals, you

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know, we sense people's vibes. And when a person is glowing for

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something, then they gain momentum. They gain followers,

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they gain success, not overnight, but over time. It is

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a process that takes time. But once the ball is rolling, the

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ball is rolling. I hope I was able to provide you with

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valuable tools here. I would love to hear your thoughts. I

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would love to have you reached out to me and start a discussion

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about things that might not resonate with you or resonate

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with you. And I'd love to get to know my listeners and know how I

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can serve you Even more in depth. I want you to feel free.

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I want you to feel authentic. I want you to make decisions in

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the future that serve your highest self that helps you to

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reach your dreams and goals. Thank you for being here with me

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and sending my love out to you. And I will be back there very