Ep.22 Ranting about 'Women's circle' experience. [what a joke]

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Hello, and welcome to Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. Thank you so much for being here. And this one is for

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the ladies. But I'm also welcoming the guys who decided

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to join today. It is not exclusively for ladies, and is

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more feminine energy than usual. And this one, and this is why I

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dedicated to the ladies. Hey girl, do you feel pretty? Do you

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feel ugly? Most of the girls I know, feel not really

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attractive, or not as attractive, as you would think.

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You see them walking on the street, minding her own

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business. And just think to yourself, Wow, that girl is

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probably so full of herself. She's confident she's pretty.

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She knows what she wants. But most of my girlfriends don't

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really feel that way about themselves. And why is that? I

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think it is. First of all, because we're way too harsh.

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With ourselves. We compare ourselves way too much to the

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outside world social media, how Hollywood and magazines, we do

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it unconsciously. And then maybe if we look into the mirror, we

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see our pain, our past regrets and mistakes that we've done.

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And we just can't allow ourselves to feel pretty well,

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now let's let's talk about this. Let me break you the news here.

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You are incredibly beautiful, especially if you're listening

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to my podcast. And it's not because my podcast is so

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awesome. But because it is about growth and self improvement. And

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chances are if you're listening to me here on a regular basis,

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then you want to forgive you want to ask for forgiveness, you

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want to let go of regret. You want to let go of stuff that is

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weighing you down. You want to be a better person, and does not

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that make you a wonderful human being. Of course you want to be

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attractive and sexy. But I think you really are you just don't

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see it. The way you look into people's eyes when you listen to

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them. The way you look when you share something very vulnerable.

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When you share shame story, guilt story. The way that you

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cry when something makes you sad. The way that you get upset

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when maybe a friend is being attacked, and you're being all

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protective and supportive. The way your energy fields, all

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those things are probably things that you're not aware of

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anymore. I don't know how your childhood has been. But I feel

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when we are children. We are just there. We're just there in

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the moment. We don't ask many questions. But then bit by bit,

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we realize that oh that other person is more successful or I

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made a mistake here and have to punish myself for the rest of my

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life. So we carry stuff with us. That makes us feel ugly and Not

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at all attractive. But you know what? I learned that people are

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like animals. And people can sense when you feel insecure

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about yourself. And they can also sense when you feel very

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good about yourself. And that is what is attractive. They can

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feel your energy. And external attractiveness is just one

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little thing that makes you feel good about yourself. But there's

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so many other things that you should consider your voice the

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way you talk. And listen, the way you make people feel is so

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much more important than how you look. Also, chances are if

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you're super pretty, that you have a lot of fake friends, and

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a lot of jealous people around you, even though you might not

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have it easier than them, but you just are a threat to them.

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Which doesn't mean you should run around and not make yourself

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feel pretty and look attractive. But beautiful, people don't

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really have it easy either. And they carry on around their pain,

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and their misery and just don't show it to the world, right. But

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it is not about making other people feel small. Now it is

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about you feeling who you really are and who you can be in this

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world. Four years ago, I've been to a women's circle and Burning

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Man. It's like a community, let's say that gets together

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once a year in the desert. And it was such an incredible

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experience. Like the guide there was a woman who just appeared so

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powerful and happy with her femininity. And she said we all

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need to embrace our femininity way more often on a constant and

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our sensuality and be happy with our body and experience.

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Pleasure if not on a daily, we forget about pleasure and

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sensuality in this world because it's all about sex and power

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games and, and stuff like that. And it was a really, really

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awesome experience. And you got to imagine about 50 women and

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ascend and attend that can hold maybe 60 people. We will all

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laying there and masturbating at the end of the session. And then

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I joined another women's circle A couple years later in a little

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town here in Alberta. And I was so disappointed afterwards

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because yeah, it was about opening up and feeling

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vulnerable and stuff. But at the end, it was all about how men

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are dominating us and treating us badly and making us feel

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shitty and being abusive and blah, blah, blah. And I think

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that was totally missing the point of a men's women's circle.

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I think a women's circle should celebrate the feminine energy

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and also invite the masculine like men to experience their

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feminine energy. And it shouldn't be about hating men

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and rejecting men and like hate speech behind man's back. I

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drifted off there a little bit but what I've learned along my

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journey is that for too long, I rejected my femininity and you

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don't have to do it out in public. You can do it with you

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at home. When you have a shower that you just put on some music

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and dance. And maybe if you don't use lotion or oil after

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you had a shower, you just start using that and give yourself

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like a little massage every time you have a shower and you really

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celebrate your healthy body and it will totally set a different

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tone for the day and and your hair will be shining and your

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eyes will be glowing. And that little bit of more self care

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every day can make you feel so powerful and so beautiful. And

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this is what you will be radiating and what people will

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sense and also see and that is true attractiveness. That is

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true beauty when you feel beautiful from the inside when

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you accept every little bit of your story, and can laugh about

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it, or be okay with it and just let go of shame and regret. I

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know it is easier said than done. But if that's the

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direction you want to go, if you want to feel more attractive,

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then that's what you're going to do. Feel more pleasure in life

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and giving your body healing touch. And sorry, I got

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distracted here for a moment because of my dogs as usual. And

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forgive yourself, accept yourself and be on the receiving

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end. When it comes to relationships. At times. I feel

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women sometimes are too caught up and giving and doing and

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accomplishing and are living in their masculine. Try to lean

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back at times and try to receive the other's energy. If you are

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in a committed relationship with a man receive the penis, don't

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take the penis. Yeah, do everything. They can get him

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going. But don't be the driving force when it comes to sex and

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you will be in a different role. Maybe it will feel different at

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the beginning. But you will also see that your man will feel more

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masculine and you can just sink into your feminine and relax

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into the sensual energy there. So this was for the girls out

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there. And for the guys out there who listen till the end.

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Chapeau I'm glad you were here. And yeah, I will post more stuff

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for you girls out there. And of course every episode is for you.

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But that was that one was especially for you. I hope you

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feel good. I think you are a pretty very special being out

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there. And yeah, if I don't know you yet, sent me a friend

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request. Follow me on Instagram. I'd love to see your face and

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sent you more compliments. And if you are my girlfriend

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already, then just know that I'm so proud of you and so happy to

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have you in my life. And I can't wait to go for sushi with you

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sometime soon. All right. Take care. And until next time,

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Aurora