Ep.21 Emotionally drained. Emotional healing. [emotional health]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today. Today I want to talk

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about emotional exhaustion, feeling drained, not knowing

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where to get energy from, I feel a lot of people go through that

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in the last couple months in the year last year.

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And

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it's very bizarre because you would think that we're working

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less, maybe we got laid off, we sit at home, we can do with our

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time, whatever we want. Of course, we can go outside, we

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watch TV, we are on our phones, we can talk with friends on the

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phone. Yet, there comes a point where it is very tough on us to

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feel powerless. And to see other people struggle. I feel that

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there's a lot of people out there who are in a good

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situation. But to watch the news, and to hear how poorly

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other people are doing is affecting all of us. It's really

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a weird day for me to where I feel inspired. I want to be out

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there. But my energy is very low. And maybe you can relate. I

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guess if you clicked on this episode, you can relate. So what

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do we do on those days where everything is too much? Where

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every person who was asking us for a favor is just a plain

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nuisance? Do you know these moments where your phone rings

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and you know, it's a person who might ask for advice or for

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help, and you just think oh my god for Fox eggs, can I please,

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please be left alone for a moment and just not interact

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with anything or anybody. I also see how social media can drain

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us, and the biggest fan of Instagram and Facebook. But our

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brain is constantly bombarded with information. And it is a

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very natural thing to compare yourself to others and to feel a

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certain way about others. When you see what they post.

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comparing yourself to others can be very draining when you have

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that judgmental, opinionated, mindset even more when you're

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very competitive, even more, and to listen to the news is also

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very draining. Like constantly, we're being faced with panic and

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struggles and people suffering. And, to a certain point, it can

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really numb us out where when we switch off the TV or put away a

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phone and go out into the real world that we can be there for

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the other. We feel so drained already, that we can show no

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compassion, we can show no empathy. And if someone wants

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something from us, it's just pure irritation. Maybe I'm the

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only person on this planet who feels that way at times. And

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then this is really the most ridiculous episode I ever

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posted. But I had to talk about it because I feel like this. And

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if you've Yeah, just in the slightest can relate to that

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know that you're not alone in this. And you're not an asshole

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and you're not a bad person. It just means that you were

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mishandling your energy reserves that you got drained along the

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way. And now you find yourself without energy, all you want to

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do is sit on a couch, eat chips, maybe drink, maybe smoke

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consume. Just something that helps you numb even more out.

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And except taking a shower or a bath, which helps me a lot. I

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like to just sit there and enjoy the sunshine, if there is some

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sunshine on that day, or to just lay on the floor, and put my

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hand on my heart, the other hand on my belly and just breathe.

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And just know that the day after I will feel better. And maybe

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even after getting up from this many meditation, I can feel

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better and a little more energized already. Sometimes

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it's good to take a break from everything from all at once.

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Don't answer the phone. Don't be on your phone, for scrolling or

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researching. Don't brainstorm, just be in the moment and maybe

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look out the window and see the trees. Or just close your eyes.

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And focus on a soft gaze and relaxed muscles around your

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eyes. And really tune in to your breath. And know that everything

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that your body does for you is towards life and balance and

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health and goodness. And you have to trust that life force,

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that magical life force that you don't have to do anything, it

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will guide you back to your core, if you just allow it.

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Don't try to fight it. Don't try to distract from it. Don't

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resist it. And just be there with yourself for a moment. He

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can maybe listen to soft music, something that you know, Sue

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this uso and makes you feel good. Or just pure silence can

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be really good too. If you have children, I really beg you that

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you take these couple minutes a day, even though you feel good,

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especially on the days that you feel good. When you learn to

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switch off everything around you for a moment, then on the days

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where it seems very hard and where we don't know how to help

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ourselves. We know where to come back to. And now I have a little

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three months old puppy sitting in front of the door and

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scratching and wanting to come in but I'm not going to open the

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door today. I'm going to stay here with you for a couple more

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minutes. And just enjoy the peace. And I will see soon How

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many people clicked on that episode. So I'll see how many

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people can relate to it will make me feel better about my

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state of absolute non compassion. close to being

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reckless and selfish. Take a deep breath in and a big exhale.

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And a lot of the times

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it's the people who care the most about other people's

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feelings and well being that reached that burnout point where

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they have to completely shut out everybody because they reach a

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point where it's just too much. So chances are if you feel that

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way at times, you are a very sensitive intuitive person

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fields. Other people's energy and fields drained when other

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people suffer on not doing well. So don't beat yourself up. Just

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know that you need some alone time

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and everything will float back to normal. Maybe to a more

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stable, good, normal, resilient, normal. Again, relax the muscles

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around your eyes. Take a deep breath in and exhale. staying

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engaged with people you live with. And always being

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considerate, as

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exhausting, when we don't take care of our own well being

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first. So may you go out there today and feel good about

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yourself a little bit about yourself. Just 10% maybe you're

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not alone in this. You're not a bad person. You just needed a

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little bit of rest. Thank you so much for being here with me

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today. It was maybe a tough day for you to know that you're not

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alone out there. And I'll be back out there tomorrow for you.

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