Ep.20 Your truth. Your perspective. [self awareness and communication]

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Hello, and welcome to the Warriors experience. I'm

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your host Aurora. And I'm so happy to be spending some time

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with you today. It's just going to be 10 minutes, 15 minutes,

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maybe a little longer. But it's time where you can just focus in

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on yourself and relax. disconnect from a busy life. I

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really like that new little entry years. So I'm really

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excited to post this episode. I hope you like it too, by the

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way. So yeah, the other day I was talking about playfulness

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and how you should try out new things that excites you, or

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where you know, you're going to fail. But eventually we'll get

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better at it and learn. I just went skiing today on like

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backcountry skis. And it's a very weird new thing to try out

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because I'm only alpine skiing otherwise. And I fell pretty

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hard and hurt myself pretty badly. But in the end, I can

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just, yeah, laugh about it and be excited to try it again and

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know that Yeah, I might get hurt. But I'm going to do it

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differently next time. So, so much to trying out new things,

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and really being playful and stuff. Today, I want to talk

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about your truth. Yes. Do you live your truth? Do you speak

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your truth? Do you live an honest life? I think that's a

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very uncomfortable topic to talk about for some. And for others.

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It's very inspiring, energizing and mind opening. So I will try

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and talk to both today. What is your truth? And how honest Can

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you be with the people around you? especially if you live in a

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committed relationship? monogamous, committed

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relationship? If you live with roommates, or if you are in

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really good contact with your family? How about your friends?

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How much do they know about you? And how truthful Can you be with

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them? It is hardest, I think to have these conversations where

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you know, you're gonna speak your truth. And the person who's

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listening, the person who's sending a sorry, sitting in

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front of you might not receive it well might not accept you

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respect to. After you spoke your truth, they might see you

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differently. A relationship might change after you spoke

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your truth out. But what can we do about it? Should we just

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suppress our truth and try and figure it out on our own? I

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don't know. Some people have to some people are way too scared

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to open up and share the truth is a lot of cases out there of

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people who are craving a same sex relationship and they just

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can't make that leap because they are still too scared of

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what the judgment of others is going to feel like and the sharp

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opinions of society. So they decide to live in a closet and

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not come out. And is that good for their soul and for their

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health? Not only mental health, but physical health? Of course

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not. But they still see the price is too high to come out.

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And they prefer to keep it a secret what they're desiring.

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What if you are in a partnership where you all of a sudden don't

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know if you want to have kits? You get along so well. You both

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have jobs, you're happy together. And initially when he

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met he talked about having kids but now you changed your mind.

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What about these big topics? What if we don't talk about

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them? And what if we talk about them? I think the most Important

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thing I learned is that you have to talk about it. And you have

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to stick to your guns.

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And you also have to communicate it in a way that the person

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really understands and sees you and maybe can see how hard it is

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for you to talk about it. And at the same time, being very

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vulnerable, I think it's very important to also know exactly

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where you stand, and then stick to it. Because a lot of people,

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when they hear something they don't want to hear, they're

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gonna distract away from the topic, maybe, or they will

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attack you, or they will be defensive about it. Have a

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strong reaction. And sometimes we don't expect that. But if you

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can anticipate it, and know, okay, there might be a strong

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reaction coming up from the other part. But I know what I

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want, I know what is best for me, I know what brings me joy.

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And I will not move away. Step away from that path I'm on, or

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different direction I want to take on. So let's take your

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parents, maybe your parents see working in a specific job, maybe

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your dad has a company. And ever since you little he can see you

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working in that company. But ever since you're little, you

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can see that he doesn't really support your artistic side, he

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doesn't really understand that becoming a movie director is one

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of your biggest dreams and would make you feel so fulfilled and

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awesome. So what do you do about that? Do you have to submit to

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your parents wishes? Or can you go out there and live your truth

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and be proud of yourself at the same time, and not wait for

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them? To give you approval, or to be proud of you that will

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come eventually that will come as soon as they see that you're

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happy, and really shining out there. But you can wait for it.

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Because people sometimes can't give you that approval because

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they didn't receive it. And what you're trying to do out there is

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so far off that they just can't give that thing to you. And I

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said that before when it came to approval? How is evolution

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possible if you don't step out of the box of your family? A

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couple people out there I know are born into families where

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they have to make that first step into a new world.

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Otherwise, it's just going to be a continuous circle of a good

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little mediocre life, that this person was not born to live,

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that person has to break out and risk to maybe be rejected for a

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certain time. But trust that it's only going to be for a

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certain time and those people will turn around if they truly

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love you and see your happiness, and that you're living your

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truth. It is really so inspiring. When you see someone

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and their flow, when you see someone speaking their truth,

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and that's something that is so admirable, someone who knows how

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to set boundaries and knows how to say yes, but also to say no.

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So what I want you to do today or maybe over the next couple of

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days is reflect reflecting about your relationship. And how

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truthful Can you be with those people around you? How do they

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react when you speak your truth? And can you speak your truth in

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a kind way, in a very confident way so that the other doesn't

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feel attacked or rejected. Of course if you're in a committed

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relationship, mana gammas What's your guy's style so far, and now

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all of a sudden, you feel like Oh shit, I want to be with

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different people, I still love that one person. But I also want

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to be with different people. That's a very scary conversation

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to have, because you guys might not be on the same page. But can

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you trust that there's a way to be truthful, but still

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respectful with the other person? And yeah, maybe it means

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that you guys have to break up and you have to find someone who

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is okay with open relationships. But you can't just go out there

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and start cheating and start living a double life that's

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gonna hurt your soul and your health way more than if you

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decide to have that very deep and honest conversation. I feel

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a lot of times when you talk with people who went through a

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divorce, you can also see there that communication was not

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always open and honest. Like the guy who is the provider and does

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all the money making work. And instead of talking to his wife,

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his partner, and telling her that he's overwhelmed, and that

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he needs support and all that jazz, you know, if she truly

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loves them, then they're going to find a way that he feels more

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supported. But if he decides to start drinking, instead smoking,

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going out to the bars, maybe committing adultery, having sex

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with others, that it's not going to make it better, it's going to

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temporarily make him feel better, and make him feel

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supported and understood. And help him to cope with that

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stress.

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But long term, it's totally going to ruin himself and the

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relationship. So I think if we learn to, from the start, be so

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honest, and also realistic about what we need and want. There'd

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be less breakups, less divorces out there.

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Yeah.

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I think that's it. That's my message for today. You can't be

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radically truthful. from one day to the other if you see yourself

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now living a lie or not being completely honest. But you can

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slowly steer your steering wheel into that direction and start

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being more honest, more transparent with people. And you

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will see it will change your relationship in such a beautiful

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way. They will be able to relate with you on a deeper level. All

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the people who don't like your truth are gonna fade out and

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move away and that's okay too, because you're gonna attract new

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people into your life that are more in alignment with

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you. So

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now, I want to thank you for listening to this. I hope it was

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not too much of a swallow bitter pill to swallow. I will heal my

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wounds now from my little accident today. take really good

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care of yourself. If you want to connect with me, and then

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Instagram, the Borealis experience or on Facebook,

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Aurora Eggert and yeah, I'll be out there tomorrow again. Thanks

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for letting me be very raw, genuine and truthful here. I

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never have to put on a smiley face, or happy face. I enjoy

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that deeply. The way