Ep.18 Do you set yourself up for failure or success? [Dating and Entrepreneurship]

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hello hello and welcome to the borealis experience i

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mean host aurora and i'm so happy to be spending some time

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with you today it's just a couple of 10 minutes or 15

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minutes that my episodes last and it's really good to know

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that so many people benefit from that little break in between to

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do list points or yeah in general in their busy life i

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don't know if you're riding a bicycle if you are on a bus on a

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train on an airplane on the way to work or at home on your couch

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and to be honest i don't care where you bring me it is just

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yeah very exciting to me that you listen to me here today i

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want to talk about how should we call it failure on happiness

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yeah do you set yourself up for unhappiness or do you live a

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pretty content life i'm just drying off my nail polish i just

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polished my nails because i realized oh during recording

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here no one is gonna disturb me and my nail polish can dry

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usually with good intent between yeah doing something else and

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then i have to help my dogs i have to go clean something or

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have to go do something and that ruins my nail polish so how do i

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set myself up for a successful nail polish session i do it when

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i know nothing is going to interrupt me and that's my

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question for you today do you set yourself up for success in

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life or for failure if you look at your state of contentment how

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contend are you and how unhappy are you there's people out there

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who have it all they have a house they have a relationship

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they have a dog or some kind of pet they have always a full

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fresh fridge full of food they have money in their bank account

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they can travel they have lots of friends yet they still seem

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unhappy and it's very fascinating because there's

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people out there in india and africa and third world countries

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who live on the streets and maybe never possessed a car or

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something that you think brings so much joy and yet those people

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are the happiest and most content and grateful for what

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they have and why is that i think it happens early on that

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we get programmed into what is happiness how is happiness

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supposed to look like and what is unhappiness and it is not

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that unhappy people want to be unhappy but sometimes when

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unhappy people are in the same room with a happy person there's

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like this dissonance i don't know if you say that in english

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but it's like two nodes when you play the piano that absolutely

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don't go together the happy person is like talking talking

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talking and radiating and the unhappy person just sits there

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and is judgmental and listens but as more opinionated than

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anything else and why is that i believe strongly that a state of

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happiness is like a radio wave that you tune yourself into or

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like if you look at chemistry your body is in a very specific

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chemical

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composition. And people who constantly want to be in that

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state of happiness know exactly how it feels, know exactly how

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it gets disrupted. And they do everything to stay in that

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state. And they're successful at it. And so they attract even

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more goodness and more success and more wealth into their life.

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And if there's people out there who went through depression, or

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a phase of disappointments, and hurt, and wounds, not healing

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properly or fast enough, then that person too, is vibrating on

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a certain radio wave, and has that certain chemical

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composition in their blood in their system, that kind of keeps

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them in that state, their thoughts are more dark and

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negative. And as I said earlier, when they see a person that is

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vibrating at a higher energy, they kind of look down to them

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and see them living in a Mickey Mouse Disneyland world instead

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of reality. And those people have it extremely hard to get

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out of that state, because they keep attracting people in that

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vibrate at that same state, and then kind of confirmed to them

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that life is hard, and life will always break your neck. And

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yeah, you will be happy. But every two years on happiness

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will come over you and destroy everything again. So if you find

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yourself being a person who is tending to be more negative, and

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attracting more shady situations in your life, meditation is

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really something that can help you out there and can get you

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out of that chemistry state or that radio wave, you will begin

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to observe yourself, observe your thoughts especially and you

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will see how in some situations you will be negative right away,

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you will slide into a depressive mode or into a self destructive

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mode. And if you become aware of that, then you can make a choice

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and next time, see it as two pathway or kind of a junction

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where you decide to not go the regular road but to decide to go

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and more clear and happy road than you used to. So meditation

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is all about observing and knowing yourself. And can you

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imagine if you were to know yourself 100% would you not make

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better decisions? Would you not be with a partner that totally

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matches you? Would you not be happy at work and happy with

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your friendships and everything you have? I believe so. The more

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we know ourselves, the better person we can be out there, the

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better we can support others to do the same. It is so easy to

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blame the outside it is so so easy to blame your partner, your

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children, your circumstances even. But if you start to look

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at yourself and see what decisions you make, on a daily

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basis, you can very quickly see that you can correct it and

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change it and start navigating into a new direction a direction

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that is good for you. And that brings you peace, happiness. I'm

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getting really emotional about that topic because for the

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longest time I've been in a dark place and I know exactly how it

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feels and how hopeless and powerless

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we can feel at times. But really when you see your thoughts

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floating by and don't engage in the usual blah, blah blah and

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make it a choice that you want to be happy that you want to see

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good and people that you want to trust that you want to be

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successful that you want to go out there and radiate goodness

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so that people come and support you and want to be surround you

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instead of whining and like living and discontentment and

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pushing people away because they don't understand you anyway if

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you really learn to understand yourself you will also

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communicate differently you will know your limits you will know

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your boundaries and you will know how to communicate them so

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that other people understand them and in doing so people will

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start to treat you differently it is such a beautiful beautiful

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thing to observe when people start knowing themselves and

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really tell people to eff off and to stand up for themselves

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and i said yeah eff off not meaning to be rude and using

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swear words now but to be very clear what you need in your life

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and what you don't can imagine a life like that yeah i hope that

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episode was not too chaotic i felt a huge need to talk about

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it today and it will only be the first episode about that topic

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because i have more to say about this but for now i just want you

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to look at yourself and see with everything you have at night do

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you go to bed and can be grateful for every single thing

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person circumstance you have in your life or do you go to bed

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with a discontent mind and then wake up in the morning with a

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discontent mind it all starts in the mind and if we can achieve

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that you go to bed at night with a grateful soul and mind then a

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huge positive change can be brought into your life very very

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soon thank you so much for listening to the borealis

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experience here i'm your host aurora and i'll be out there for