Ep.17 Playfulness. The key to deep connection, love, aliveness.

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Hello, and

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welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today. Thank you so much for being here. It really means a

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lot to me to connect with people through my podcast from all over

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the world. And knowing that I can bring you peace and joy and

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just relaxation. That is so so precious to me. Today I want to

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talk about playfulness. Maybe you are very playful individual,

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you're very out there trying new things not scared of failing, or

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judgments of others. But maybe you're a little bit more like

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me. A couple years back, I remember I met friends who kept

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organizing game nights where we played card games or Cards

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Against Humanity, or board games. And the cynical inside of

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me was always like, no, that's not how I want to relate to

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people, I want to go for a hike, I want to go do yoga, I want to

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go to the bar, and dance and drink board game nights. That's

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nothing for me. But they convinced me to come that one

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night. And it was really fun. And it was really, really nice

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to meet people on a different level. And to be in an

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environment where it is okay to be a beginner again, and they

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can teach you tricks. It can help you to become a better

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player. It was a really cool experience. And then I moved to

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a different city and there was disc golf. It was actually

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golfing with frisbees. Actually, it's called frisbee golf. Sorry.

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And that was again something new to me very cool game where you

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just try yourself out and can be a kid again and I feel for

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romantic relationships but also for you as an individual if you

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are a single person right now. It is so so important to not

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forget about the play, playfulness. And as soon as you

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are more relaxed, when it comes to learning new things when it

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comes to be a little more adventurous and out there you

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will see on other levels, you'll be more confident and playful

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too. And that is a huge plus when it comes to your workplace

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when it comes to getting to know new people when it comes to

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relationships, that you have that kind of relaxed, confident,

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playful attitude. Because it makes you enjoy things so much

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more. I don't know you well enough, maybe you are a person

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who when you're invited to someone's place and they cook

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for you. You have to know every ingredient that is in there and

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not for dietary reasons but because you want to cook that

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same meal again at home and you keep asking questions about what

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is the recipe like what ingredients are in there? How

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did you cook this? Instead of just sitting there and enjoying

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the meal with your tastebuds. I feel we are way too often caught

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in our mind and rational mode. And we have to come back to a

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more sensual, playful way of living. It makes you enjoy life

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way more. And it makes the other people around you and joy you

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way more. So it is a win win on every level. All it needs is you

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being okay, failing and starting something new, where you suck at

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bye Everything that we try out is difficult for everybody. And

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the more you try it out, the better you get. And maybe you

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discover new talents, maybe you totally discover a new side and

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you that you never knew existed and so do people around you. So

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you will change internally if you go out there and are more

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playful, and that will affect your environment. So you'll have

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different outcomes, if that makes sense.

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playfulness is also a very good teacher, because you can see and

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get to know people in different ways. Maybe they are very

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competitive, maybe they're very caring about others and want you

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to succeed. Maybe you are very competitive. Or maybe you care

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about new people joining the group and helping them out how

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to practice that new game or new sport. So on a social level, it

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is also so important because it is not only children and puppies

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that play it is also adults. And when you know how to play when

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you know how to play fair, when you know how to reach your goal

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as a team is so enriching, it is incredibly enriching. So the

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message I'm sending out today is have a look at your life and see

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where you could try out new things. Is it music? Is it

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singing? Is it painting? Is it writing poems? Is it learning

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how to ride a bicycle or swimming or motorcycle? Try to

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do something that is outside of your box and be okay with

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failing at first and know that there's always someone out there

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who will support you and cheer for you and help you out. And if

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there's not, then there's always me. You can connect with me on

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Instagram On Facebook. Aurora Eggert does my name. And yeah,

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we can chat about it. If you have any requests for future

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episodes, also, don't be shy. And yeah, for this weekend or

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whenever you listen to that episode. If you have children,

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go play with them go raffles with them. If you have friends,

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then I don't know be the person who encourages a new activity.

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And if you have a partner, go get a card game a board game at

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the grocery store. Or try out a new hobby and see how it's

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awesome to get to know your partner on a new level. Thank

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you so much for listening to the Borealis experience. I'm your

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host Aurora and I'll be out there tomorrow again. Take care