Ep.18 A curious and loving approach is requested! [attitude]

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Oh, hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today.

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Today I want to talk about discrimination.

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Discrimination is a huge thing right now in our society.

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And, as you know, all too well, I'm all about

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creating a space where you feel safe, where you feel understood

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where you feel, you can recharge your batteries, where we learn

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from each other, where we support each other. And

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here, we do not care where you are coming from, I have a

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project going on here in the future, where I will be

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interviewing ex convicts.

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And this work is very important to me, because I want to cut

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through prejudice, I want to help people understand that we

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all deserve second chances, we need to trust our government,

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that when people are being released back into society, that

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they are deserving of a second chance. And all those shaming

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and guilt tripping is not going to get us anywhere. That person

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that gets out of jail, and is trying to make a life for

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himself or herself again, after traumatizing experiences that

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they might have induced, but also that they have suffered

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from deserves respect, and deserves an honest second

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chance. And what do I mean by that is that we encounter people

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with an open heart with an open mind. And that we can see the

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true potential that we all carry inside of ourselves. And trust

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me, the people that went through hell, that had to rebuild

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themselves, they, most of the time are the biggest servants,

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the biggest and most impactful people in our society for the

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better.

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And nowadays, everybody has an opinion, it is so easy on

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Facebook to Yeah, start discussions and discussions,

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jump in on discussions and have a strong opinion. And some

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conversations slide into very radical speech, if not to say

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hate speech. And it is very sad for me to observe because I know

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these people, if standing in front of each other would never

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talk the same teacher, then how they do when they are on

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Facebook.

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It is really important that we start

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asking more questions, when there's something that we don't

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understand, you know, people.

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Like there's less and less space, there's more and more

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people and people are crammed into spaces with very different

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beliefs with depth, very different views on life. And

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it's not going to change in the near future, it's going to get

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more and more. And how can we manage to not get lost? How can

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we manage to not destroy each other? How can we manage to

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approach each other? With more understanding? I think the only

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way is to ask questions.

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If there's somebody with a complete different view than me,

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I asked questions I want to understand Wait, where are you

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coming from? What what happened to you that you think that way,

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and that you behave that way nowadays, I want to understand I

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want to have compassion with you. I want to really being able

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to relate for with you and maybe even learn from you.

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And then go from there. And if you don't understand if that

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person doesn't want to open up to you if they are becoming

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offensive or defensive or whatever it is then move on. But

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don't make it about yourself. I feel this is what we need more

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of we need more understanding. Because we all have our stories.

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We all have our backgrounds. We all have our grounds. But we are

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being forced to live together and it's a beautiful thing

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because we need each other and I think that's what people

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People keep forgetting when they engage in these hateful speeches

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on Facebook is that they forget that we need each other. Every

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person, if you want it or not, is a resource can be a resource

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for love, a resource for friendship and the resource to

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learn something about life.

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Think about the food you eat on a daily basis, think about the

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water as you drink. If it wasn't for other people

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working so hard.

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You wouldn't have all these things on your table. And we can

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go further and talk about your telephone and talk about

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everything that we consume on a daily basis. It is because of a

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common effort. And do you really care that much of what the what

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the reasons are, why certain people behave one way and others

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in a different way? I think we don't, we don't care enough, we

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just see that a person is not thinking the same way not acting

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the same way. And just just why that is an offence, and that

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person has to be removed from society. I don't think that's

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okay. I think that will create lots of unhappiness and hatred

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and disasters and families, recent traveled like incredible

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what's going on right now, it's hard to put into words.

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But the only thing I want to say today is that we need each

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other, we need to come together with a better understanding of

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each other. And then we can move from there. Hate speech is for

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people that have nothing better to do that want friction,

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because otherwise, they feel useless and lonely.

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It is not getting us anywhere. And I'm so grateful to know that

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the people in my life closest in my life. And my listeners are

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very open minded and are very curious. And if they are not,

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they are sticking to this show, and wanting to become more

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curious and open minded and open hearted. Because in the past,

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they've learned that a shutdown hard shutdown mind, brought them

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nowhere.

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It made them lonely and made them miserable made them create

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fights and separation with people that they actually miss

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now and need in their life. And it is just very unnecessary

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friction that is out there right now. And I'm trying to make

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sense of it. I'm trying to understand what this is all

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about. I have no idea. But all I know is that we have to focus on

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keeping an open heart, we have to focus on being love driven

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and not fear driven. And that means in turn, that we need to

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ask more questions. Maybe some of you remember my interview,

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where we talk about racism, and that the person

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said, he encounters racism with curiosity, he starts a

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conversation when he feels that there is a racist vibe in

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someone and he wants to make sense of it and then love the

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shit out of the person.

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And make them understand that we're all made of the same would

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we have to learn to trust each other again, we have to learn

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that there is more ways than just one way to skin the cat. I

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really don't like that expression. But I think that's

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how you say it. We have to invite different views to the

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table and this is going to make a very complex and very rich

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life and planet. If we start to discriminate, start to

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to cancel people out. It is not going to get us anywhere because

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we are hurting ourselves deep inside when we're trying to

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eliminate a person that we think is living outside of us but we

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are really all connected and we can keep treating each other

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that way.

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Thank you so much for listening to the Borealis experience if

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dark days, it's very motivating to read them. And on good days,

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I just want to go for coffee with you and have a real

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conversation with you. But maybe it's possible one day soon when

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all this craziness is over. Thank you for being here. I

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appreciate you so much. I have such deep respect for you

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because I know my content you can be very true triggering and

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challenging at times. But if you stick to my content, I know that

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you have a growth minded heart

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and a big heart. And yeah, I just wanted to express that.

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Have a wonderful rest of your day, and then we'll be out there

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very soon again. Bye bye.