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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. And with my podcast here,

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I'm hoping to bring your piece and insights about yourself that

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you haven't known about yourself yet. Today, I want to talk about

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productivity, how to be super productive, less burned out,

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more kind to yourself and others. In my coaching, I offer

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one on one sessions, to people that are entrepreneurs, young

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mothers, young dads, young individuals who want to tap into

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their true potential. And oftentimes we talk about

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productivity because we want to accomplish more, but feel less

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stressed, less scattered, more focused. So that's what I

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noticed in my coaching is that everybody benefits from talking

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and learning about productivity, no matter where you come from,

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no matter what you're struggling with, or no matter what your

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superpower is, productivity is key. This is why we're also

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going to talk about quit shooting on your self shooting

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like in should. What I noticed, not only in men, but also in

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women is that we put extra pressure onto ourselves. And we

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don't do that because we want to harm ourselves, we want to do

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that, because we feel that is going to make us more

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productive. So we add that little bit of extra pressure, a

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little bit of extra guilt. And then we think we can fully

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function and be productive and accomplish things and be the

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awesome vibrant person that we want to be in our community. But

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what does that do to your self esteem to your over all, mental

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and physical and emotional? Let's call it environment, it

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creates tension. And tension to some degree is awesome. Tension

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is what pushes us forward is what brings us closer to a goal

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gets us out of bed in the morning. But if there's too much

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tension, we are blocking ourselves off and restricting

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ourselves. So let me give you an example. Let's take woman 35

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years old, she is running a successful business. And

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whenever she gets home, she feels like she has to do more.

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She cannot relax. She has to think about the next day she has

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to think about her employees how to make make them work harder

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and smarter and be careful that they don't burn out. She also

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wants to be a good wife and she also wants to be a fun friend to

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be around. Doesn't that sound very exhausting already? And

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does it really make her more productive that when she gets

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home and could be relaxing and taking real good care of

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herself? She keeps brainstorming about stuff that she could do

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better?

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I don't think so. I think that this woman is going to sooner or

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later burn out because she is punishing herself into success

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in stead of thriving and relaxing into her success and

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appreciating every baby step that she's making towards a set

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goal. She is pushing further and further and further. And chances

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are that she is struggling with insomnia that she has no time

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for her husband and his life and his roblems to listen him out.

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And she has a hard time to relax when she is with her friends,

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because she never relaxes. And when she is with her friends,

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she is expected to be fun and light. So she kind of puts on a

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show to be that persona. So that sounds very exhausting to me

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already. And the thing is that if she was to come home and

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just, you know, lay down on the couch, read a book that is non

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related to her job and give herself a break. She could not

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only be a better partner, but a friend, she could also be way

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more productive, because it is not sustainable. For anybody to

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push through and to overwork and to be stressed out all the time.

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And your body is so intelligent and so awesome, it's going to

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adjust to the stress, and we're going to make you more

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resilient. But if you keep burning your candle from both

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sides, you are going to pay the bill at some point. And if not,

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in your youngster years, you're going to pay a heavy bill in the

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years to come when you are in your 60s 70s 80s maybe even

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earlier already in your 50s with heart attack with Bernard with

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depression with what ever you can invent whatever your body is

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going to do to force you to stop to finally have a break. So what

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I love to do is to help people prevent these states to help

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people relax before it is too late. And to make people realize

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that they are way more valuable to society, when they are

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productive and relaxed. At the same time. It is really, really

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important to take breaks to be in silence to reflect to look

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back. And there's this famous man, he's a multimillionaire,

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I'm not going to drop his name here. But I've learned a couple

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months ago that he takes a week of holiday each month, sometimes

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every two months. And during that week, he has no contact

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with anybody. He has no cell phone, he has no laptop, he has

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nothing except a pen and a piece of paper. And he says he needs

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that break, he needs to turn off the volume around him like the

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noise, the volume of the noise around him. To be clear in his

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mind to find out, hey, is my company and I still on the right

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path is my employee, my assistant doing the right thing

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for us to be most productive. So he goes through his life

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reflects about everything, his personal relationships, his

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friendships. And after he comes back, he's extremely clear and

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what he wants. And this is helping him to be super

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successful and productive, also relaxed, and clarity. And my

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mind is relaxation. And when you have clarity, your mind can

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relax because your mind is not going into survival mode and

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trying to problem solve. Right, left and center. It can relax

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because there's structure and clarity and you can not

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underestimate the value. Another thing I want to talk about that

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I think it was in the 70s or even earlier that it was

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glorified to not sleep. Read people would say oh yeah, last

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night i i worked until 2am. And this morning, I got up at 5am

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and started working out and started brainstorming and people

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would just be like, Holy shit, that person is serious with

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their business and the swell they are successful. And those

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exact people now are struggling with hard to you know arrhythmia

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with heart attacks with severe health problems and the research

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is being done right now. And it's all coming out, that you

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cannot underestimate the importance of sleep. I'd rather

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you take a nap 20 to 30 minutes in the afternoon, instead of

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cramming in another coffee, I'd rather have you sleep nine

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hours, right seven or six to nine hours, instead of telling

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me that you had another sleepless nights of being

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productive, because that's going to cost you severely. And,

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again, those studies are only coming out. Now. There's a lot

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of research being done around sleeping patterns, and how

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important it is not only for your body to recuperate, but

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especially for your brain, your brain needs to detox needs to be

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in a state of full relaxation. And, yeah, I find that very

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beautiful and so awesome that people are coming out now and

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talking about their sleep patterns and their insomnia

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problems, and it's not stigmatized anymore, but we're

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finding solutions to that problem that is affecting us

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severely. So stop shooting on yourself, stop telling your self

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that you should be doing the next thing and you should be and

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you should be achieving this by age 35. Or you should be this

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specific person at 65. That's not gonna, it's not going to

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make the journey better. And it's not going to make you

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achieve your goals faster. If you achieve your goals, you'll

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be exhausted, resentful. And what's the point if we can relax

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a little more and be just as productive and I feel a lot of

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people in their 30s 40s, especially men, but also women

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now more and more women, we have to learn to step back to trust

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that everything will fall into place, and to take a break to

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allow playfulness and love. Because without that we're just

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going to be bitter. And people How do I want to say that? I

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don't want to swear too much here on my pockets. But people

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are not fun to be around. And what's the point then of being

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successful? If nobody wants to hang out with you? All right, my

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dear. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you so much for

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making the time and leaving me a review on Apple podcast. You

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don't know how much it means to me, and how much it helps in the

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podcast community to rank higher to have more listeners

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benefiting from my free content here without any advertisement.

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So if you want to take a minute and share with me your thoughts

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and how much you appreciate my content. Yeah, that would mean

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the world to me. All right. take really good care of yourself.

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And I will be out there very soon again. Bye.