Ep. 15 Empty your mind [Bruce Lee inspiration]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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adventure called life.

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aware of how precious and unique and beautiful you are, and how

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much we need you to shine your light here on planet Earth.

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Today, I want to talk about your mind.

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And the episode

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one, or in season one, I talk about how

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everything is affecting our mind, our environment, our

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relationships,

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our shelter, our clothing, our body,

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everything, provides information and nurtures our mind or pulls

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our mind into weird directions.

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Today, I want to talk about the importance of emptying your

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mind.

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And this expression comes from

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the one and only Bruce Lee. I'm a huge Bruce Lee fan for people

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who know me.

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You know this about me, but maybe you're just a first time I

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hear. And yeah, Bruce Lee, martial artist. And what he left

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behind is

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a legacy and so many beautiful quotes that

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are incredibly nurturing. And they make so much sense and are

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so poetic at times. And one of his quotes is Be water my

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friend.

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And empty your mind at times completely. Empty yourself out.

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I want you to notice over the next

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couple of days, if not weeks,

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how much you consume on a daily basis. And I don't mean food

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when I talk about consuming. But what do you stimulate your brain

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with? What do you listen to what do you see? Who do you interact

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with?

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Everything

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is being

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sucked in through your mind.

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And put through filters. You generalize you distort, you

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delete, because it's so much information that bombards you,

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on a on an hourly basis, we can say even today.

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And your brain learns to distinguish what is important

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and what not. Sometimes we cut important stuff out.

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Because it's new information and it is just too much.

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And sometimes we let information in because we think yeah, that's

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what we're used to. That's what we think is right that's in

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alignment with our values from years ago. And

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at the end of the day, it is not serving you 100%. So what I want

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to say is that you bring tons of stuff into your mind and some of

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the stuff is not really good.

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Salsa stuff is really good. But maybe you could make more space

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for the good stuff.

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So the importance of emptying your mind is what I want to

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emphasize today. And we can only reach that when we allow

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stillness when we allow nothingness. Right. We are so

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caught up and having to do things and conquer projects and

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accomplish and achieve and run around and look busy even though

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we're not busy, but it's good to be busy because that's what

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society wants to see.

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And from the early morning hours on from the moment on you wake

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up, I want you to observe what is it that you consume first? Do

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you look at your phone first

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Do you talk to your partner first? To your children?

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To your neighbor, to your dog to your cat to any kind of animal,

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any kind of pet?

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And then where does your mind go?

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Imagine yourself laying in bed and just waking up.

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Maybe you need an alarm clock, maybe you don't?

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What is the first sensation that you feel? Is it? The blanket on

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top of you? Is it your pillow?

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Do you think about breakfast? Do you think about drinking water?

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Do you think about your to do list

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that you

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have, like ready to

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conquer?

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Do you think about an argument that you've had not long ago?

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You think about your relationships? Do you think

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about yourself? Do you see yourself in the mirror? Maybe

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when you get up and go to the bathroom?

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And then what do you start consuming? Is it the news on

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television as a newspaper or is it a podcast.

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And what I started doing is that

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I take a moment every morning to myself.

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I get up I drink water, lots of water, I usually feel dehydrated

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in the morning.

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And then I go to my little room. I call it my yoga room, my my

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little office. And then I spend some time there with myself.

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And I wake up, I give myself time to wake up.

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And then I usually do a yoga stretch. Sometimes I sit there

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and just

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meditate or I'm grateful.

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But allow I allow this

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very sweet stillness.

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Maybe everything around you is sleeping stolen and it's dark.

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Maybe you want to do that little practice in the evening. Maybe

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you are a trained yogi or meditation master.

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And this is like old news to you.

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But even then I invite you to,

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to ask okay, and here just follow a routine. Do you think

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you?

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Yeah.

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Really give yourself a break and stillness?

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Or do you think about the perfect position?

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The perfect breathing, perfect look.

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So to just be there and to observe your thoughts and to

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know that you're not your thoughts, you're not what's

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going on in your head? What's going on in your head is an

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accumulation of stuff that you have consumed not only over a

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week, but over the years, over decades, over centuries.

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If you are

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hundreds

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and then you can

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notice, okay, what are the thoughts you actually want to

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engage in? What is it that you want to drop once and for all?

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You see, so often, we run around and we feel exhausted, we feel

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tired, we feel irritated, agitated, and we blame it on the

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world outside of us.

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But all along, we don't see what's going on inside of us.

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And we don't realize that if we would take care of what's going

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on inside of us, it would also hugely affect

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our outside.

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Did you ever notice how when you are calm and joyous?

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Yes, you still might encounter people that are irritated and

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angry and aggressive. But you have an effect on the people

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around you. If you keep your cool if you keep your sweetness

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and I believe that the secret of the people who can keep their

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cool.

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They engage in that practice

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They empty their mind. They completely detached from

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everything for a moment.

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And it is really important to do when you have a busy life, let's

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look at the mom who raises her children and tries to make her

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husband's life as comfortable and joyous as possible.

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But even if you're single and you live alone, it is important

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because I feel the more we are alone, the more weird thoughts

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creep up upon us. With self doubt and

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self criticism, old stuff might come up or new, anxious

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thoughts, depending how you're wired. I feel when we live with

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people together, then.

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Yeah, we accumulate stuff inside of us. But we're also kind of

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involved with with other people's needs, and

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what's important to them. So it's, it's important. What I

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mean, yeah, that it's important to,

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to practice this, no matter how you lifestyles and how busy you

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are, or lonely you are.

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And it is going to affect your relationships, it is going to

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affect the people around you.

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It is going to help you maintain a sense of self.

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And I find that so incredibly important, especially when you

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are in a relationship. But also when you are single, and you

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feel like ah should I

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don't really enjoy myself like myself, I need to change.

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I need to look at beautiful Instagram pictures and get

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inspired and blah, blah, blah, we're trying to, to add on,

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because we don't feel enough. But I feel we need to strip

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away.

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To feel better, we don't need to add on, I think we have

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everything inside of ourselves

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to be successful in any way we want. We are so resourceful. Yet

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we don't see it at times. And when you allow stillness when

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you allow

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your thoughts to float by, and to really pick and choose which

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thoughts are beneficial, which habits which behaviors are going

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to get you closer to your dreams and your goals,

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then you can make very, very wise decisions for yourself.

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I'm still here.

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I'm just silent for a moment. Because I want you to

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have a taste.

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And sometimes doing it with another person.

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It's a little bit easier than just starting out by yourself

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doesn't have to be long, you can set an alarm for two minutes.

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And then you can tell your monkey brain, your monkey mind

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sorry

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that you're just emptying your mind for a moment.

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And then you can get back to where you left off.

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And then you can increase the minutes

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my body usually eggs for a deep breath. As soon as I start that

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little practice my body is like ah, this is the part where I

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actually get to breathe deeply. Because all day long I breathe

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in a shallow way. And now I can breathe deeply.

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So it is not only going to affect your mind and your

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relationships but it's gonna hugely impact your body, your

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physique as well.

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You're gonna become more resilient to the BS out there

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and all the stress all the change, you will feel more okay

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with yourself

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more grounded,

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more confident.

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You can close your eyes

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while you can keep them open. Of course you don't do that while

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operating machinery or driving around

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and another

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The thing that is important to mention why you do that

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exercise?

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If there is something going on outside of you outside, like

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children screaming or people having a conversation or you

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know sounds just turn the volume down, just know that the world

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is spinning.

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Even though you are taking a little break.

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Of course, if there is an emergency, then

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you act upon it. You know what I mean?

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And to notice, if there is sounds, how your mind reacts? Do

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you get irritated right away? Do you kind of roll your eyes and

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I'm like, fuck, I never get a second to myself.

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I said so loud.

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Was that just the start the irritation?

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It will go away with time.

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And you will notice that, yeah, stuff can go out on outside of

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you. But it doesn't need to bug you. You could change the story

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about it.

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If it is children screaming and playing just

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think to yourself, yeah, you were a child at some point. So

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okay.

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They are enjoying themselves. And maybe we can learn to be a

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little bit more playful on the future. So instead of getting

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irritated with

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disruptions,

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interruptions, try to

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make a beautiful story about it. And know that we're all

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connected. We're all together in this.

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We all feel the feelings from others.

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And this is why it's so important to take a break at

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times and to allow silence. To be in stillness.

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To be with yourself to stop running away from yourself.

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Because you can't escape yourself. Yes, you can distract

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yourself you can add and distort and you know be really loud and

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active about running away from yourself. But you can never

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escape yourself.

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So why not set with yourself

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and see

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what's coming up.

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befriend

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your inner child,

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your inner self.

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Thank you so much for sharing some time with me today.

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Thank you so much for being there. I appreciate you so much.

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take really good care of yourself and I will be out there

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very soon again.

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Bye bye