Ep. 13 Reclaiming your masculinity / are your intentions pure ?

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Welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

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Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

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today.

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Today I

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want to talk about masculinity, power,

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leadership,

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reclaiming your masculinity. Is this episode only for

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men?

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Absolutely not. We all have both energies roaming inside of us.

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And before I continue, I want to remind you to

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into your life. Thank you so much. And now enjoy the rest of

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the episode. I feel we have a huge problem with masculinity. I

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feel a lot of men out there struggle with what, what is

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masculinity, really what do women want? What is our role in

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society, and the same goes for women as well. But I want to

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focus on the masculinity today. And the women who express their

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feminine, a little more than the masculine, still have that

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masculine part and side of themselves. And if they're not

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okay, with masculinity in the x journal, they will also not

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accept and embrace their internal masculinity. So what

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are the little steps that we can take? In order to make peace?

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Again, I think we have to look back in time First, we have to

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look at patriarchy that was ruling the world for so long.

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And that was shaping our society so strongly. And you will see

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that, yeah, there were a couple men in power. And most

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households, it was the guy who was earning the money. But what

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about the guys who suffered from that as well? It was not only

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women. Some of them enjoyed it thoroughly. But some women

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suffered enormously under the patriarchy. But what about the

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guys who suffered under it? It was crippling to their soul. It

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was restrictive, it was violent, it was not good for most men.

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And we have to see this, we can't put every man into that

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box of patriarchy and assume that every man is longing for

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that structure of society. Because it is not the case. I

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invite us all, to ask more questions, to go more into depth

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into what we really need, and what we really want. And at the

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same time, we have to become more authentic, we have to

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authentically, fearlessly express what we need and want.

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And in order to do that, or surprise or surprise, we have to

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know who we really are. Are you the son of your father and your

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mother? Are you the boyfriend of such and such? Are you the

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friend of such and such and such? Or are you your individual

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self and you make your decisions based on what you feel is inside

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of you and has to be expressed to the outside? And same goes

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for you. If you are expressing your feminine on this planet?

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Are you the daughter of your father or your mother? You such

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and such? wife, mother, sister, who are you and what is it that

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you want to express in this world because as soon as you

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express who you truly are and show up authentic To be as who

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you are, you will live such a fulfilled life, you will be able

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to enrich and encourage, and inspire others. And you will

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attract people that are meant to be on your journey in your life.

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I feel we all struggle with the word, power, and leadership, we

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all have a very twisted feeling. When it comes to power, and

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leadership, we think it's a bad thing to claim power, it's a bad

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thing to be powerful. Well, what will happen if you believe

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that it is bad to express a longing for leadership and

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entrepreneurship, in very subtle ways, this suppressed energy

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will find a way to manipulate your way through life, to

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manipulate your relationships, and to play tricks on you.

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Right, yes, suppressing and energy that wants to be

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expressed, that wants to be out there to support others and lead

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others, yet you decide to suppress it. And what is going

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to happen with that energy, it's going to turn into depression,

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into bitterness, into manipulation, and lots of

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suffering. Instead of waking up and living your truth, you

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decide to stay in that closet, you decide to dim your light,

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and to not share with people with what you identify with,

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truly with who you are. In this world. When it comes to

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masculinity, masculine energy is forward is penetrating is

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sometimes maybe a little bit forceful, but it doesn't have to

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be threatening. If we women learn to stand are a woman and

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to be empowered, we will not be intimidated of that energy

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anymore. And feel that need to castrate and to humiliate and to

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blame and shame, we will take that energy and receive it. If

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we feel this is the right person to do it with, we will receive

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that energy and we will in turn, become this super magical power

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of feminine energy who wants to nurture and who wants to create

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and who wants to be dancing and singing? Yeah, we will be

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receiving the masculine energy instead of trying to manipulate

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and control it. Blaming and shaming and overly telling how

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we want things to be and and need things to look like which

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is controlling. We will appreciate and trust the

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masculine again, trust that the masculine energy that we all

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carry inside of ourselves is good. It wants to come out. It

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wants to be expressed the right way. If you're struggling with

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porn addiction, let's say as a guy, and you feel you want to go

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out there and date women, but you only want sex, you don't

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want any relationships. Chances are you doing it for the wrong

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reasons. You watched porn for too long. And you want to get

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that energy out. You want that experience you want to be inside

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of a woman's body as fast as possible. And then you're going

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to make mistakes. If you have the wrong intentions. to

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approach women, you will pay the price. You have to have the raw,

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very vulnerable, strong intention to connect with a

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woman and to wanting to meet up with her and to get to know her

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and to feel out her energy and then become intimate with her.

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You don't want to scare her

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off.

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You don't want to violate her. You want to listen to your

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instincts, but not to any sick like extension of your

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addiction. So you have to be brutally honest with with

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yourself with how you project yourself, and how you present

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yourself. And the deep intention you have, when you want to unite

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with a woman. All too often, we go out there and want a date and

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have the wrong intentions. And this is where women become very

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angry and upset and fearful and then end up rejecting you.

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Because maybe you are not aware of this weird intention that you

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actually have in meeting up with a woman, you have to become

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brutally honest with yourself that you want a deep connection,

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that you want to feel understood and supported, that you want to

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feel uplifted sometimes.

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And at the same time, you want to do exactly this, for the

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other part, for the feminine, and the masculine part that you

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want to unite with. And as a woman, you have to be brutally

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honest, when you go out and date, what do you want? Are you

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still thinking that you can trick a guy into a relationship

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with sex? Are you still thinking that it is not a good thing to

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be upfront with a guy and telling him what you are

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available for and what not, we have to learn to empower

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ourselves again, we have to learn to be confident again,

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with what we want, and what we need. We cannot shy away from

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this because it is bringing too much drama into this world. That

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is unnecessary suffering. So if you are a woman living in your

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feminine energy in a beautiful, feminine aura, then at times,

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you have to be confident, and you have to trust your masculine

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energy to clearly express what you need and want. So I hope it

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was not too confusing. With all those energy talks. I hope you

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can make sense of this. My main point is that we have to come

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together again, we have to ask more questions. We have to make

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less assumptions. And trust that we want the same from each

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other. We want to feel understood. We want to feel

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nurtured, we want to feel uplifted, and maybe even create

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a business or a family build something together. But first,

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we have to trust ourselves. We have to trust our intentions.

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Second, we have to know ourselves better. And thirdly,

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we have to not be scared of

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clearly

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expressing our desires, not your fears. Stop feeling and being

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caught in what you don't want and blaming and shaming other

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people. But start expressing what you want. Thank you so much

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for listening to the Borealis experience. If you resonate with

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