Ep. 13 Wanting to feel fresh and attractive? [self-care]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. And so happy to be

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spending some time with you. And I'm so grateful to have you

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here.

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I hope you feel safe, I hope you feel relaxed outfit you feel

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content. And if you don't, then I hope that this episode will

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bring you peace and value and

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you being able to recharge your batteries.

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Relaxing, being able to relax, is going to become a very, very

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highly prized activity here in the future, I have a feeling

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if you don't know how to relax, if you don't know how to let go,

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you will hold that tension you will build up

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energy inside of you and

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energy has to flow. And if it gets stuck inside of you, if you

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can release it, then sickness can arise, or depression

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or other stuff that you really don't want in your life. So it

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is really important to find out ways on how you can relax best

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in the most nurturing and beneficial way possible.

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Today, I want to talk about you being 100% You feeling

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attractive, you feeling confident, you just simply

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feeling good about yourself.

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All too often I see people and I just think to myself, hey, that

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person really has good potential, hey, that person is

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really attractive.

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Hey, that person must be so confident with everything they

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have accomplished.

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And then you scratch a little bit at the surface and you you

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know, get into a conversation, start asking questions, go

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beyond small talk. And you find out that person is really not

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happy with herself.

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That person is super successful, but he's so judgmental and harsh

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with himself.

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Or this person over there is super attractive and is probably

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super confident. She looks like she has it all and more than I

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have.

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But no, you ask her. And she doesn't feel that way. She

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perceives herself very differently than how the

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external world is perceiving her.

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So this is why I want to talk about this today. And I'm going

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to take a little break here now because the wind is really

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picking up in the background.

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And I want to make sure you can relax and not feel agitated by

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this wind.

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So the first thing I can say

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to like a tool that truly works when it comes to feeling better

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about yourself is to start

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taking genuine care of your body. And what I mean by that is

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that You are mindful and present with what you consume on a daily

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basis.

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Through your mouth, through your eyes, through your ears, through

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sensations like physical touch

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and how you consume it so not only

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what you eat, for example, but how do you eat it. There's so

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many health buffs out there and they talk about Yeah, you having

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to drink more water you having to eat less chocolate, you

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having to eat more greens, blah, blah, blah. We know all this

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already. And if you want to look up health tips, there is so much

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out there that could be the right thing for you. What is

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important for me to talk about with you today is how we consume

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it. So let's stay with food. The example of eating How do you

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eat? How do you prepare the food? are you grateful for the

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food that you eat?

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shoved into your face or face. Or are you very mindful about

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cooking it and preparing it. And then you make it really a

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celebration of gratitude and nourishing experience for all

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senses. You know, even the way I talk about it, now you can feel

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and and hear that it is very different for your body for your

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soul, if you just eat something on the go, or if you make the

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time to sit down

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with yourself or with a loved one, and to then celebrate your

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meal, you will see such beautiful changes. Once you

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become more mindful with how you eat,

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it will affect your confidence, it will affect your health, it

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will affect your relationships. And

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now you can say what it's just about eating Yeah, I know, I

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gotta eat three times a day or two times a day. But the way I

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eat really has such a big impact on my life. Yes, it does. It is

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the little things are the big things that we do on a daily

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basis that will shape our mind that will shape our body that

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truly and shape our relationships. It is from the

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inside out that you want to be confident, right? You don't want

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to be that chick who puts on tons of makeup and is like super

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literate about

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beauty tips and stuff. But on the inside, you feel hollow and

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dead and super ugly. No, you don't want to be that chick. And

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you also don't want to be that guy who runs to the gym five

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times a week to have these awesome muscles and you look

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great in the mirror. But when you go on a date, when you go

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outside your little box

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and mingle with people, you actually feel super awkward and

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weird, and not good about yourself at all, even though you

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look attractive.

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So it is how you make your bed. It is how you brush your teeth.

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It is how you have a shower

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that will shape how you feel inside. You know if we do things

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repetitively in a rash, without big consideration, and it has to

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be done. I have to get this done because otherwise I'm not going

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to function otherwise I'm going to fall apart.

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It is the way we approach things that these things will either

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turn into a must do. Or into a yes, I want to do this for

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myself because I'm Absa fuckin lewdly worth it.

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And again, in the tone of my voice, you can hear that a

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person who is truly attractive truly content with her or

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himself

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is

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feeling worthy.

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Making the time

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making the time to enjoy the little things.

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And other things thing that will make you feel super attractive,

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is if you find a hobby, even better if it's a job, but a

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hobby is

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awesome enough already, that you can totally immerse yourself

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and.

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And it can be everything that you can think of.

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If you put your focus into it, if you have that drive to become

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better if you have that passion, if you you know wake up in the

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morning and it just lights you up to know that you can engage

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in that activity. Again, this is the activity you should actively

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pursue.

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And another thing that I want to add to that is if that active

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activity happened to serve a bigger purpose

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if it happens to serve other people

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right outside of your bubble,

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or even humanity

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if that activity is simply bigger than yourself, you know

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on a day where you just feel like I have a headache or

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today I don't really have a time the time for it.

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But you could do it

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anyways, this is an activity that you should cling on to with

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your life.

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You know, these videos who receive like over millions of

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clicks on YouTube, of, you know, street sweepers or

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people have McDonald's or, you know, jobs that people in

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general look down

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to.

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But you see the people in the videos who are truly enjoying

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themselves, and they, you know, they engage in the activity,

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because they know, it serves a bigger purpose. They love what

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they do so much because they know, it serves a bigger

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purpose. And that is so incredibly attractive.

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Another thing that is so beautiful to see and to watch is

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when someone is in a state of flow, and again, it doesn't

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matter what it is, is it a chess player? Is it a swimmer? Is it a

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tree climber? Is it a tennis player? Is it a musician? Is it

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a magician? Is it a mechanic,

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I think you know what I mean. But

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let's say it differently, that person is describing something

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to you, or demonstrating something to you. And they have

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this spark, they have this

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electricity, they have that, you know, ecstatic feeling that

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sparks over to you.

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When they just talk about it, they're super excited about

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something. And for you, as a listener, you either can totally

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relate and you're like, Yeah, this is how I totally feel about

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it, too. Or no, no, no, I don't fucking get why you can be so

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excited about it. But I just love your energy about this. And

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I want, I want that too, right. So this is super attractive,

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when someone can be a super nerd about something, and so excited.

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And again, if that's something that the person is excited

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about, serves other people can help other people to do the

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same, to heal, to grow to learn whatever it is, it is so

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incredibly attractive.

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So I want you to take a moment now

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and to think about,

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if you can apply what I'm saying here.

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And I want you to close your eyes. Of course not. If you're

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driving or operating machinery, please don't do that. But if

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he's sitting on your couch,

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I want you to think about this. Like,

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do you really think that attractiveness is only how you

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look like?

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Don't you know that you have so much to offer and maybe you're

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just not, you know, quite ready to share it with the world yet.

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One sentence that I absolutely hate to hear

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is you're not living up to your potential, you have so much to

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offer to this world. Yet, you are not living up to your

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potential. This is such

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a crazy mean sentence. And I know people will say that mean

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that good.

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Intentions are awesome.

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But some of the worst paths that people have worked, walked here

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on planet earth were paved with good intentions.

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If you are not ready to shine your light yet, if you have to

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do some healing first, some forgiving first.

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Then acceptance

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is your best friend. And your most attractive tool. You know

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to to know for yourself, hey, this is where I'm at right now.

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I'm broke. I'm addicted. I'm

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not taking good care of my body.

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I'm not making time for my friends. I'm an asshole to my

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relatives. This swim ad right now.

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I see it. I accept it. But I don't want to sit in it for much

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longer. I want to change it. I want to make a difference.

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I want to feel better about myself.

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Then this is so absolutely valid. And then you're going to

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make baby steps.

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towards betterment, you're going to slowly but surely, take

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better care of yourself, because you will start to learn how

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endlessly precious and worthy you are.

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Another thing that is totally attractive

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is boundaries, being able to set boundaries. And if you're the

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absolute people pleaser, it will hurt at the beginning, it will

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feel super awkward because you're so used to serving others

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and pleasing others and all that jazz. But then also I can tell

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you, you're probably that person who gets left for the hassle

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down the street or for a person who is rarely, rarely, you know

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certain about how they feel about themselves. What do you

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communicate when you are an absolute people pleaser? Is that

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Yeah, you are serving other people. But also, yeah, you can

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get trampled all over and you are replaceable. Sorry to say

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that, but this is what people make of it. And I'm sure that

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you can nod

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and say yes to what I just said to that harsh reality.

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So a person

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is being left for an asshole. And then yeah, look at the

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person who left you. Sometimes they confuse someone being

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confident and having boundaries with an asshole, which is their

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problem. But when it comes to you, please know that for a

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person who is getting to know you, or knows you better longer

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to learn what your boundaries are to know what you're no is to

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know what you absolutely yes, is so incredibly sexy.

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Someone who tells you no is not someone who rejects you.

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It is someone who tells you, hey, this is what I want to be.

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And this is how I want to.

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Sorry, not what I want to be, but this is how I want to be

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treated. And I want to be in a relationship with you. But I

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want you to respect this boundary.

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Of course, there's compromises and all of that, but to know

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where your limits are, is incredibly attractive, and is

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going to attract people to you because this means that they

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themselves are also allowed to set boundaries with you, and in

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turn are able to be totally authentic. And this creates

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trustworthiness. And trustworthiness is one of the

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sexiest things that there is on planet Earth.

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I quickly want to dive into a female's experience of life.

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And this is just me and my experience. And it might apply

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to many, many women out there as well. But I don't want to

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generalize too much, although I love doing that.

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A woman wants to feel safe. I want to want a woman wants to

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know that she is with a man that is respected in society.

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So if you can be trustworthy, if you can have you know your edges

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if you can have your own hobby,

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your focus, your determination

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then you have everything to feel attractive for yourself. And

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this will

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shine through your eyes throughout the shine through

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your movement. shine through your words and you can be your

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most attractive version that you want to be that you can be

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alright, I'm very very excited all of a sudden to publish this

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episode and as always, I want to hear what you feel and think and

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page. And yeah, I'm always curious to find out where people

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come from, what your story is, what your experience is, and I

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really hope you feel a little more attractive when you exit

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this episode today.

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Alright, take good care of yourself, and I will be out

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there again on Thursday.

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Bye bye