Ep. 12 Things that are out of your control [taxes,death,weather]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and loyal companion here on this

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journey. And I'm very, very happy to be spending some time

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with you. Today is such a beautiful sunny day, the snow is

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melting. Feels like spring, although it is only January 13

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very deceiving, but I totally embrace it. I want to talk about

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taxes and the weather today. Yeah, bear with me. I feel like

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as soon as I mentioned the T word. People just want to run

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away and want nothing to do with that. And when it comes to the

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weather, yeah, what do the weather and taxes have in

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common, I was originally going to talk about death as well. But

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that's going to be for another time. But death taxes and the

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weather are things that we cannot escape from. There is no

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running away. There is no avoiding. There is nothing you

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can do about it. Except you can face it gracefully. But most of

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us, me included, we choose to complain and bitch about the

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weather, hate tax season, because it's so annoying to get

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all the paperwork done and to Yeah, realize that said you

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could have worked each month a little bit throughout the year,

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and it would have been easier now. Now you sit there with a

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mess of paper. And every year it's the same thing. And when it

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comes to death, no need to talk about it too much in detail

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here, as I said earlier, but yeah, we can't escape it, we can

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just focus on the present moment. And know that yes, one

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day life will be over. And we want to know that we were able

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to pursue a purpose as best as possible and light people up and

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enjoy the juiciness of life. But death cannot be escaped. Now,

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when it comes to the weather, there's people out there who

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live pretty much in tune with nature and nothing can bother

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them. No weather can dampen their day. But there's people

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out there who have always something to complain about when

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it comes to the weather. And to these people, I want to speak

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today and say, Hey, there's nothing you can do about it,

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except dress warmly, or dress accordingly. And know that

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whatever energy you choose to waste when it comes to the

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weather, it is energy that you could be using to do something

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productive or to Yeah, build something, create something, it

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is energy that is being wasted when we keep complaining about

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stuff that we can't control. And same or similar. It goes for the

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taxes Believe it or not, I was the person who was trying to

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avoid doing my taxes at all cost. And the weird thing is, I

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was employed in Germany back then. And it was always about

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getting money back at the end of the year or after handing in

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your paperwork. This is why the government was not after me

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because I was not owing money but I was actually going and

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getting money back but I had so much resistant resistance to do

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my paperwork that I that it was a pain in the bum to address it

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and to sit down and to get things in order. Or I didn't do

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it at all and was totally okay with not receiving money back.

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But if we know that tax season is going to roll it around any

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ways that you can do anything, especially the people who own my

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own money to the government. Why not make it a little bit more of

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Have a priority to have your ducks in order. Because you save

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yourself so much pain and suffering. In preparing yourself

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for March, April, for some it is June or July. And then you don't

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feel overwhelmed, you don't feel annoyed, you can actually enjoy

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your numbers. You can, yeah, see your numbers see reality. And it

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can be weird and painful at times, if your business was not

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doing well, if the, you know, business a year was was not

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really awesome, especially now during COVID. But it is

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something that is part of your life that you can't avoid, and

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the more you're trying to avoid, the more problems are going to

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accumulate. So what I've done in the last couple years is that

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every time I engaged in business, I had my little diary

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a little journal, and wrote down what happened that day. And

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there I also included my receipts, and took notes. And

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that only takes like two to five minutes. And of course,

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compounding these minutes, it amounts to a little bit of time

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that you putting aside. But it's absolutely worth it to, to know

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what's going on with your business on a monthly on a on a

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bi monthly or at least six months. That way, you also will

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not have to face uncomfortable surprises, you will know what is

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going on with your paperwork with your business. And I don't

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know if I sleep better. Now that I'm a little more organized. And

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now that I know okay, I got my ducks in order. I'm gonna hand

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it in soon and the accountant is going to be happy. And this is

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it. We oftentimes want to procrastinate, because not only

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we are a little bit lazy, but because of the unknown because

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of uncertainty because of limiting beliefs. We feel like

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we're dumb. We feel like Yeah, well, our siblings or parents

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always told us we were disorganized and messy. So we

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kind of have to live up to that statement now. And yeah, there

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is no point in, in becoming a little bit more orderly. But

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this is all in a reactive state, you are still reacting like a

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little child to your past and resisting stuff that is really

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not worth resisting. Don't get me wrong, this stuff worth

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resisting and where it is needed and necessary for you to stand

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up against. But when it comes to death and taxes, and the

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weather, there is not really a big point in trying to resist

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surrendering, and learning. Tax literacy so to say is is what

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you can acquire and then at the end of the day, you will be

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proud of yourself and you will feel like you got your shit

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together. And nothing can buy that feeling for you. You create

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it in yourself in getting a little bit more organized and

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knowing that you can inspire other people to do the same. It

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breaks my heart to see ladies and young gentleman starting a

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business and doing really well and marketing and selling their

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stuff. And then come tax season they have meltdowns and feel

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overwhelmed and want to throw everything into a corner and cry

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and feel like the biggest failure ever. Even though they

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did really well all through the year. So

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sit down, have a look at your numbers. Get your receipts in

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order. Get your paperwork in order. And know that there is

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amazing people out there who can help you and who can teach you

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stuff to make things easier for you to not waste time and

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energy. And it is a big part of our culture and this is why I

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choose to talk about did hear it is part of everybody's life. And

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we can make it an enjoyable experience. If we decide to put

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a little bit of time aside to look at our numbers, and Season

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One of the Borealis experience, I explain how, you know,

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physical health is important. Mental health is important.

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Financial Health is important. And taking care of your money.

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Taking care of your paperwork during tax season is going to

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deeply affect your mental health. And it's gonna make you

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feel good when and if it's not making you feel good. Reach out

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and ask for help. Is awesome accountants out there. That,

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yeah, you pay them a lot of money, and then they have your

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back. Or there's people out there who can teach you. And

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then you have your own back when tax season comes around. All

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right, this was just a little episode here for you today to

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Yeah, remind you that some things we can escape and this,

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there's no point in trying to resist to save your energy to

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save your time. This is what I'm here for. And this is why I

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choose to also talk about the uncomfortable topics that are

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part of our daily life. I want to send a very, very warm thank

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