Ep. 12 Being terrified of making decisions, the sense of false security [self awareness]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you're doing well I

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hope you feel safe and understood, loved, supported,

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empowered, inspired. And if you are not feeling all these good

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feelings, I hope my episode here helps you to find a space where

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you can recharge your batteries and get back to yourself. I want

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to take a deep breath. It's been a crazy busy day. And winding

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down is really, really important. So whatever you do

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right now, if you're not driving, if you're not riding a

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bicycle or operating machinery, maybe you want to take a moment

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and just close your eyes and breathe in through your nose,

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exhale through your mouth. And I'll keep keep to a deep breath.

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And you will see how positively it can affect your mind and your

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body. I will try and stick to my deep breathing, I usually have a

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more shallow breath. Alright, so today, I want to talk about

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decision making. But I want to reflect on the other side of

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decision making. So let's say a couple of weeks ago, I talked

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about decision making. And you making decisions today I want to

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talk about the decisions that you are not making the choices

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that you are not chasing after you not making a decision is

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also a decision right? Not rising. raising your voice

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excuse me, is also a statement when it comes to voting, for

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instance, not going out there to vote will give you a vote to

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another person. You deciding to stay in a relationship that is

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mediocre, that is not really awesome. But also not too

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terrible. is a statement. You saying yes to everybody. And

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never being able to set a boundary to say no, also is a

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statement. So whatever we do, everything has an impact. And I

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feel and for the longest time, I thought that if I feel

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conflicted, and I don't make a decision, then I'm at peace,

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then I will have this sense of security that will make me feel

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good. But what I was not realizing is that this sense of

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security is false. Not making a decision because of wanting to

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avoid drama, conflict, or whatever it is you want to avoid

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is also going to have an impact on your life. And to come to

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that realization, it made me feel very uncomfortable because

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I realized that I was doing that for many, many years. Instead of

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making a decision and regretting it in the future, I decided to

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not take action and to stay in certain situations thinking that

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this would be the safe way out. Well, my darling, this is what

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I've learned. There is no safe way out. If you don't take

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action if You don't make a decision it will impact your

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life in a way that you really, really don't want. So, taking

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action, sometimes a taking a risk might be better than

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staying stuck voluntarily, not changing anything. And thinking

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that this is the safe way out.

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So if that is news to you like it was to me,

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it is scary, right? Because all of a sudden you realize, oh my

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god, I'm responsible for my actions. I'm responsible for my

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happiness right now. If I'm not happy right now, I can't blame

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anybody else outside of me. It is all on me, I have to take

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100% ownership when it comes to my life, when it comes to my

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happiness, contentment when it comes to my relationship

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satisfaction, my job satisfaction. So I will keep

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this episode fairly short today and invite you to think about

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the decisions in the future that you want to be making. Knowing

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that taking action is going to benefit you. And not taking

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action is not going to make you be safe. And it's not going to

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get you closer to your goals and dreams, your goals and dreams

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you cannot reach by not making decisions. And there's always

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you know, something to be lost when you make a decisions, but

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there's always something to be one as well. So if you will make

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a decision that you regret down the road, there will always be

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something positive about it, even though you didn't like the

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outcome. You have the balls to take action, you failed. You're

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gonna make a new decision soon and you will succeed eventually,

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but staying stuck, not making decisions is not gonna get you

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anywhere. So I'm gonna leave you with that. And yeah, share your

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comments with me. Share your experience with choice making

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decision making with me, and I will be out there very soon

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again. Take care. Bye bye