Ep.10 The mysterious powers of human connection [relationships]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. I'm so happy to be here with you.

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I'm so excited to connect with you. And yeah,

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So this is me blabbing on for the intro. And I'll dive into

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today's episode right away talking about the magic of human

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connections, I had to stop here because I wanted to say the

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mysterious and very powerful magic of human connections. I

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want to talk about how blown away I am today by how one

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person that barely knows me, has one conversation with me. And

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after this conversation, I felt so led up. So empowered. So

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liberated, so authentic. It is a feeling that I can't ever

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forget. It's something that is Yeah, memorized in my brain

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forever. And I sure hope that you had these moments in your

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life, before listening to this episode, and maybe after this

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episode, you will have your

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radars, your compass calibrated to

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it so that you can experience it in the future. And

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it's just so

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incredibly underestimated how when we open up, when we

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connect, genuinely connect with people on how a simple

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connection can help us grow and heal. I always had a problem

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with the quote, time will heal all wounds. Because they were

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always said in moments where I can see any healing happening.

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And I think yeah, time is one factor of healing. But you got

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to be willing to heal, you gotta have the resources to heal, and

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the openness, you have to have the right connections around you

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for healing. And there's so much that plays into a journey of

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healing. But I believe one of the most powerful healing tools

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we have out there and in here in our heart is the connection with

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other people. I'm actually dedicating this episode to the

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lady that was able to create that shift inside of myself. I'm

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not going to share her name

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because I don't know if she wanted that. She also doesn't

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know that I'm recording this right now. I'll

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tell her afterwards. But this lady went to school with me over

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20 years ago. And I must say we were not best friends.

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To say it lightly. If she was

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a rebellious cat, I was an anxious Now Eve Leila square.

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And I could see that we could connect on some level but back

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then was puberty kicking in and You know, all the school stuff

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that goes on and stress here trauma there. Like it wasn't

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really possible to create a friendship between us too. And

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fast forward.

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We never had contact, we parted. And yeah, never saw each other

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again. Now she reaches out to me, and is curious about my life

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and very open hearted and kind, and I write back to her. And we

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start talking, and she shares where she has with her life, and

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I share where I'm at with my life. And there comes a point

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where she expresses slight regret of who she behaved when

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she was in her teenage years, and that she must have, or that

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she knows she had heard people in the past. And it was not

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directed towards me, but I kind of felt that yeah, she included

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me in this feeling of regret as well. And for me, that little

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sentence just shifted. So much, I had not realized how, back in

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my school days,

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I was, you know, stressed out anxious, nervous.

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Maybe, yeah, I don't want to say anything too negative about

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myself here. And how a person coming up to me now 20 plus

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years after and saying, Hey, I think I wasn't really fair back

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then. releases so much healing powers inside of me that I

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didn't even know

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existed,

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I have a hard time to put it in two words, as you can hear

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clearly, I don't have to pretend here. But just her simply

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expressing regret. And me being on the receiving end, there was

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a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders all of a sudden, and I

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don't think it was only because of her realizing what had

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happened back then. Which wasn't, again, not dearly

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traumatic. But for me to see that people evolve that people

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are such loving beings and such unique creators of the universe.

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And that they go through times of you know, intense ego, and

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maybe pain and trauma, and then they take that pain out on

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others. And now they can turn around and say shit, I need to

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apologize or shit, I need to reach out to that person and see

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how she or he is doing. And that one ad is. It just makes me so

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happy. It makes me believe in humanity so much. That healing

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is possible that forgiveness is possible. And that changing is

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possible. And again, she wasn't an awful person. She was maybe

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just lost in her own ways. And I was lost in my ways. And yeah,

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we couldn't connect back then. And now it's this beautiful,

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genuine connection. And I can't wait to take out for coffee next

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time. I'm in Germany in Munich. And thank her for this. And so

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I'm sharing this with you. Because maybe you were on the

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receiving side of pain in the past and you want to forgive and

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let go a little bit more of resentment and pain that you're

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still carrying around with you. And maybe you don't know how to

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do this when the person is not present. Because it's hard to do

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by yourself. Maybe you have been a sender. Maybe you have sent

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out pain inflicted pain onto others to which I certainly

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can't myself in as well. And you can reach out and apply pologize

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to the people. And you can also do it on your own and send

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people loving energy, and asking for forgiveness, in meditation.

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So we don't always have to reach out that's only for the

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hardcore, courageous people, I get that. And sometimes the

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person has passed or you can contact them. But if you have

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the possibility to contact somebody in the near future, to

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extend an apology, or to resolve an unresolved conflict, please

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do this. And don't wait for your last last breath to come upon

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you. Because it will help you. It will not only liberate the

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other person, but it will help you. And I believe if we do

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these courageous steps in our lives, to heal ourselves, we do

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tremendous work to help others here as well. And this way we

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build a stronger community this way we have a healthier

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relationship with the environment. And yeah, this is

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what I want to create. With my podcast with my years of

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experience with my coaching, I want to create more resilient,

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stronger communities and have people be happier with

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themselves and their relationships. All right.

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I'm gonna send you out with so much love and a big warm hug.

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