Ep.1 Limiting beliefs. I can't. I'm not enough. I feel incapable of [self-worth]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today.

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It is Saturday, July 31.

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So crazy how fast this year is just passing by.

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I only started on January 5 of this year

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to podcast. And today I want to talk about not only self doubt,

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but the stories that we tell ourselves when we start a new

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project, when we make changes in life. And those thoughts

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keep creeping up on us self doubt, and

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stories from the past stories from the present, just stories

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that our mind likes to engage in. And it's usually not a good

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outcome story, it is a story that will make you want to quit

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or

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not engage as much as you could.

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It is really interesting to watch people who are successful

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already and to see them how they perform, how they get better

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with

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every new project that they pump out. And you just think they are

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totally invincible. You think that they never have self

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doubts. They never fear, self criticism, or they never fear

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being rejected. But quite the opposite is the case. In my

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case, for instance, I'm trying something new, something that

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nobody ever has done in my family. And I'm being faced with

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not so much criticism, but

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maybe I would describe it as avoidance.

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And it's very uncomfortable when you live under one roof. And you

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know that people are not on a percent supportive of what you

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believe in. So in my case, my story is I don't receive the

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support from my family. I'm not doing what they want me to do.

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And this is why I cannot give 100% I feel drained, I don't

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feel creative. I feel I'm swimming against a stream. And

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I'm not supporting my family the way they would like me to

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support them.

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With my little project here, I'm very busy in front of my

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computer, oftentimes I schedule interviews, if not on a daily,

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I'm interacting a lot with other people and my family just simply

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feels neglected because they see no point in what I'm doing. And

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this is just my perspective. This is just how I feel and how

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I see the situation. And if you were to ask them, if another

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person would ask, Oh, what is Aurora doing and they would say,

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Oh, she's podcasting. They would actually show pride and be

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happy, you know, but the vibe that I receive is not positive.

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Now I can go and take this as an excuse to not move on to not

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show up. But it's really tough thing to do. And I'm sharing

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this with you today, I'm trying to be as vulnerable as possible

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with you today, to encourage you and to let you know that once

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you start something new, it will feel great. You will feel

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precious and excited and doorway doors will be opening for you.

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But at the same time. On the other side of the coin, there

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will be self doubt there will be resistance they will be fear.

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And I want you to understand that this is totally normal. And

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I'm not some VIP out there. You know, I'm just a regular girl

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who started podcasting a couple months ago. And

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I'm not special in any way

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to say that you can do the exact same thing. You can go out there

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tonight.

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it tomorrow and start a complete new era of your life. And when

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you're going to be faced with self doubt, criticism and people

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rejecting you, people avoiding you,

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people questioning, you just know that you got to push

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through this, and maybe even reach out to people who have

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done it before, and who can relate to how you feel and

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motivate you. But what I want to say today is that you can

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motivate yourself as well, you can learn to push through fear,

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you can learn to see that your mission is so much more

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important than what one person in your life or two might think

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about you. And is that a valid reason to not go out there and

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to shine brightly and to share your mission.

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I reached out

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to a coach, a business coach, life coach. And I'm very excited

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to be working with him in the future, because I know he's

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going to open up possibilities, he's going to make me see my

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weaknesses. And he's going to make me see my strength. And

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I will be able to communicate what I'm struggling most with.

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So this is another thing that I want to encourage you to do is

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that if you feel stuck in life, if you don't feel good about

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your situation,

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don't stay alone with it. And know that there's so many people

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out there, especially now with Facebook, who have the tools to

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help you, we have the tools to empower you, to make you feel

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less stuck to make you feel less lonely with your situation. And

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really, with so many people on this planet, I don't believe

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that you have a problem that cannot be solved with another

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person together, you might be able to solve it by yourself.

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But is it worth all that energy and pain, if you could just

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share it with somebody that is

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professional in what you are struggling with. And this is the

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third thing I want to talk about. So often we think that

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our problems are not possible to be solved.

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And then we have to realize we have to go into Burt's

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perspective, like I love to do it so often. And to see that

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right now. And your situation you feel cornered you fishery

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about yourself.

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You feel afraid, fear driven.

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But you only see the situation from one angle.

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Imagine a cheesecake, and you're cutting out a little piece of

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cheesecake. And this is your angle. Some people have a bigger

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angle on life, some bigger, some smaller.

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But still, it's not the 360 it's not the whole cake.

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And the problem that you might have, might be a piece of cheese

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cake for other people to solve, because they look at your

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problem from another angle.

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And once you open up to them,

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they will invite you into their perspective and you will be open

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to see through their eyes and see your problem that needs to

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be solved from a different angle. And this also can change

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you 180 degrees

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you will be able to feel less burden feel less lost and

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confused

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and less alone. And for the future. You will remember this

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and for the next time you face a problem you will remember oh

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shit when I speak to other people. When I talk to a

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professional to a mentor. I will be able to undock myself and dig

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myself.

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My English is not getting better with time and I know you're

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forgiving. I know. You care about what I share here.

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and don't really judge me and my English

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this is the first episode of season number five, the Borealis

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experience. I'm very, very grateful to have you on board.

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I'm so happy about every new subscriber. I'm incredibly

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excited about reviews on Apple podcast, you have to understand

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that receiving a review on Apple podcast is like a currency for

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podcasters. The more reviews you have, of course positive ones.

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The more listeners you attract, the better you can compete with

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other people out there.

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So if you feel like taking a minute and writing out what you

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think and feel about my podcast here, please don't hold back

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because it would help me tremendously.

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If you need more support, if you have an episode request. Don't

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hesitate to message me on Facebook. Aurora Eggert is my

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name there are on Instagram, the Borealis experience, and they're

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to support you and they're to help you recharge your

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batteries, for you to be more resilient to stress in the

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future. And for you to reconnect with yourself and to make better

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decisions in the future. The better you know yourself, the

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better decisions you're going to make for yourself. And this in

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turn, is going to affect your family, your friends, the people

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around you and society as a whole.

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Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you deeply.

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You are a person with a growth mindset. If you've accompanied

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me so far, and I have so much respect for you because it takes

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a specific kind of person with strong character to be willing

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to live, aware and mindfully.

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I will be out there very soon again, and sending my love

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Thank you