Ep. 1 Are you at war with the women in your life? [relations]

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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

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spending some time with you today.

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episode one of season six. Wow, I'm so excited

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to be launching this new season every season has, yeah, its own

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touch. And let's see what the season is going to be about and

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how it's going to serve you. Help you heal, recover, let go.

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Move on.

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Yes, all of the above.

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I want to create a space for you where you can rest and recharge

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your batteries and reconnect to yourself and be stronger, more

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resilient. In the video, a person that is driven by love

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and compassion

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with an open mind and open heart,

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men and women

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all together in this.

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And I must say my main focus is actually to

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better the relationship between men and women and to address the

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tensions that I can feel

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in society right now.

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Today, I want to talk about how you can heal your relationship

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to women.

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And you don't necessarily have to be a man who was heartbroken.

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Like disappointed by a woman once you can be a girl who was

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heard by girlfriends or disappointed by their mom or

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grandma.

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It doesn't actually matter which gender you are,

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how you identify because we both

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not we both but we have both energies within us and bear with

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me, I'm not gonna get too spiritual. But

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this is for me, the easiest way to describe it, there is a

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driven force of force that longs for structure that pushes

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forward

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roaming within us. And then there is a force that is very

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nurturing and receptive, intuitive.

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And I just like to describe, or to label these energies as

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masculine and feminine.

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And again, it doesn't matter

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in which body you were born, we have both energies

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and lots of more energies

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roaming inside of us, but those two energies is what I want to

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talk about today. So you will see women and society who are

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very driven very heavy, very

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you know, elbow II

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they are

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yeah, sometimes even aggressive. Is it

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active aggression or passive aggression.

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And these women, I want to say have learned that they have to

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adapt to the masculine in order to survive and society in order

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to get shit done.

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But those women aren't necessarily happier than other

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women who choose to stay in their feminine and choose to

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live a life of nurturing and receiving and creating. And I'll

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get don't get me wrong, these power driven people also get

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lots done. But I want to talk about the people who are out of

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balance who neglect their feminine side, and I pulled out

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this first example because it happens in both in men and then

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women and more and more. We drift into, yeah, this masculine

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energy, where we're only pushing forward

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And we're proud of being exhausted, we're proud of

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hitting burnout, we're proud of achieving and accomplishing so

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much. And to be emotional, to be intuitive, to be quiet, is not

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as valued as you would think it is.

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When we feel our emotions when we have our mood swings,

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especially as women who are

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on their natural cycle, we see that as inconvenience.

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And same goes for men, when men are

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reacting in an emotional way.

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When men are expressing themselves.

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Like on a more feely level, we see it as a weakness instead of

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strength. And there is a beautiful shift happening right

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now. And I just want to keep pushing for that beautiful

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shift.

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Because I feel it is very important for all of us, to come

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back to our intuition and to feel what is right and to learn

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to distinguish what is not so good for us and what is good for

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us. And that is what your intuitive side is here for.

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Now, when we want to talk about how to heal your relationship

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with women,

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it's not a surprise for you, maybe if you have listened to my

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podcast, for a little while now, it starts with you

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know, how does it start with you because those women are outside

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of yourself. They might be even not really in your life at the

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moment because you still resent them, you cut them out of your

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life and you don't want nothing to do with them.

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But what I mean by

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when I say

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it starts with you

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is that you have to start to forgive yourself. You have to

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start and sit with your emotions, when you feel

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something, nobody else is gonna do it for you. You have to do it

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for yourself.

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Because if you live a life of constant masculinity, you know

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pushy energy, chances are that your relationships with women

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with really feminine women is difficult as well because you're

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not going to accept their femininity, if they start

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expressing themselves as if they start to be intuitive,

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sensitive,

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you know, very sensual,

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you will want to abuse that you will want to suppress it,

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because it is something that you not allowing in yourself.

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So how can we become

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more at peace with a feminine energy?

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I think

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we just have to learn and take ourselves more seriously.

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And what I mean by that is that we look at ourselves and start

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accepting all parts.

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We stop rejecting ourselves.

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When we look into the mirror, for instance, or when we feel

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emotions come up and it's an inconvenient point in life.

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We started accepting that life is like the ocean you know it

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comes and goes there's tidal waves, there's the tide.

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There is all kinds of movements and change and adaptation.

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Life is a flow

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and not a stagnant pond.

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You know life is like clouds. Like a river it floats by and

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changes.

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It's never the same from one second to the other. There's

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always change happening and the feminine energy is very moody

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and changes and that's why it also needs

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The masculine to keep each other in check. And this is what I

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emphasize in my podcast in my videos is that we need each

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other. Of course you can all of a sudden become these super

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emotional,

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intuitive moods, swingy

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personality, you need to keep yourself in check, but I feel

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most of us, we keep ourselves too much and check. And we don't

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allow playfulness, intuition.

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Feelings to arise, we don't like this, we want to function we

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want to be productive, we want to be effective. But it comes

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with a cost, your soul will become sick of that.

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If you take too much to an extreme.

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You see, when I have my personal training clients or my coaching

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clients,

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I often realize that they're a little bit stuck

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in the accomplishment, go goal driven energy. And I just need

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to pull them a little bit further to the self care corner

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to the corner where we allow flowing in movement and thoughts

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and perception

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and playfulness.

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And most of the time, if not all of the time, those people are

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being helped a lot already.

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Yeah. So once you learn to accept yourself, and embrace

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all the little bits that back in the day, you would have seen as

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failures, you are making peace with your internal feminine.

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And in doing so you will heal your relationships with the

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women in your life.

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Now, of course, if the women in your life are very heavy, and

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masculine driven,

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it will be tough because now all of a sudden you gotta be

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challenging them. But that challenge is a good one for

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them, I believe because it's going to inspire them to go a

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similar path.

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And when I say making peace with the women in your life, I don't

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mean that you might get back with your ex or completely heal

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your relationships with them. Because it is still their choice

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and their decision. But for yourself for your own sake. You

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will find peace

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and your chest within yourself

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you Yeah.

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I think that was it for today.

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I was at war with my feminine for the longest time. Many of

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you know that I was raped when I was in my 20s and after that

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I excessively worked out I was yeah, in relationships with men

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but always managed to manipulate myself out to not really show up

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as myself because

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I was hurt back then I was abused and I was

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now scared and felt I had to defend myself or it was all of

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the time.

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And that thinking

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turned me into this more than necessary masculine woman.

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And I kept driving my partner's away instead of towards me.

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And once I've learned to embrace my feminine side, again, my

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sensitive side and to be vulnerable again.

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To respect my

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intuition, to allow feelings to come up.

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To know that I don't have to be strong all the time. I can be

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soft and playful.

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That was the time when I started healing.

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And not only started healing from the inside, but I healed my

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relay

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ships with my girlfriends

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and with the men in my life, my dad, my brother,

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my guy friends.

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And I was then able to start a beautiful nurturing relationship

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with my boyfriend I have today.

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So it is a really

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valuable journey to address and to be on.

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Because it's going to make your life

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so much easier. In the end, it will be tough at times to be

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vulnerable again, and to be sensitive and to show up as your

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true self. Don't get me wrong, it's it's a lot of time you're

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like, oh my god, what is this shit. So I thought it was an

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easy path to surrender and to heal. But it is not. But it is

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so worth it.

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So I hope I was able to deliver this episode in a way that was

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easy to understand and broad lots of

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value to your life. Maybe a little bit of a new perspective

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on on healing and approaching self care.

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I would love to hear your comments. I would love to hear

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what you think and where are you add I

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am on your journey to recovery and healing.

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Healing Your relationship with women.

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Thank you so much for listening. I appreciate you so much.

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And yeah, I'm very excited to be with you on this journey. If

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ever you feel the need to. Yeah, talk to me personally and to

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have someone hear you out and ask for advice or

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have a different like perspective given then never

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hesitate to contact me and we'll have a 60 minute coach call,

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which is entirely free.

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The first session is on me. And I bow down to your courage and

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your willingness to change and to look at yourself and see what

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potential is in there that we together can bring out.

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Alright, until next time. Bye bye