Ep.5 Jealous AF, when feelings of jealousy eat you up from the inside. [self-awareness]

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well. Thank you so much for listening. Here we go. Today I

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want to talk about comparing and jealousy and insecurities. a

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dear friend of mine I will not mention his name because maybe

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he doesn't want that. He lives in California and grows avocados

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posted a picture of himself on Instagram a couple of days ago.

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And it was very, very, like awesome to see him and to read

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his comment. And it was a very vulnerable comment. And he was

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very open about how and secure he used to feel about his body

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and stuff. And it just blew me off my chair. Because this guy's

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so yeah, handsome and comes across as very secure. And then

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to know that he's struggling with not feeling perfect and not

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feeling. Yeah, as handsome as he looks like. It's just very, very

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astonishing to me. And this happens all the time. Like as

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soon as I scratch a little more on the surface. The people I

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know. And the people are very handsome and beautiful and video

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strong individuals. And you find out they don't really like

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themselves. They don't really cheer for themselves. And they

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Yeah, don't enjoy how they look. And locks are so important

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nowadays. It's incredible. It's it's, yeah, even very sad how

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locks become important in our society. When you look at

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Instagram and Facebook and Hollywood and magazines and

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everything. And there's this all the time. Like your ego can feel

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at threat, if you say that in English can feel threatened and

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wants to compare itself. And as I said just now it is your ego,

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your part of yourself that is always in competition with

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others that is always protecting and trying to serve you as best

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as it can. But it usually fails because comparison and jealousy

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drives us apart instead of bringing us together. So we end

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up being lonely with our jealousy and our comparisons and

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insecurities because we don't share it with people. And we

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start believing them and it's kind of a vicious cycle. That

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was that's why it was so incredibly beautiful to read

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this about my friend because I had no idea about this and it

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just

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yeah, makes me wonder how much how many more people out there.

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So be Beautiful during such awesome things, and not knowing

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how amazing and important they are in our community on our

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planet. So what is it about comparing and, and jealousy? I

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think it's a natural thing that we do. But I think we can also

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learn to guide our monkey mind or ego into more quieter, calmer

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waters. So next time you notice you being jealous, I want you to

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sink. So let's think it's another person, right? I want

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you to think that, yeah, this other person might be more

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successful on uncertain levels might look pretty, my hat might

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have a little more money and stuff. And now observe your

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monkey mind, observe what it says it says right away, or

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she's got an easy and her life. And she probably inherited all

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the money from her parents. She's probably a lazy one, and

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has all the time and this world to take care of her physical

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appearance, blah, blah, blah, you probably know how that goes.

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So next time you catch yourself doing that, I want you to know

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that you can change that story about that other person, and it

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will not only make the relationship between you and

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that other person better. Like even though we sometimes don't

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have a relationship with people, we're not what people were

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jealous about. But it doesn't matter, we're all connected. And

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if we can start sending good energy to people that we are

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even feeling a little jealous about, it will change the way

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you feel about yourself, too. So next time you see that

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beautiful, successful person, I want you to know, I want you to

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tell yourself that that person had to struggle so hard and

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focus so hard to get where he or she is right now. And that

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beauty, yeah, you will always see the external features that

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you might not have. But the real beauty, the radiation, the

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radiant part of the beauty, I mean, is the comfort and the

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confidence and the goodness that they feel, because they might be

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doing good out there and supporting other people. And

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they might feel awesome and healthy, because they take the

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time to invest in their health. And being healthy will result in

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looking beautiful. Now when it comes to weight loss, I also

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want you to know that if you are a person that is more anxious,

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regretful cleany attached, lives more in the past than in the

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moment or in the future, then those people and I include

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myself to those people tend to gain more weight, or have a

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harder time to lose weight. Because on an emotional level,

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your body is in protection mode, you want to experience pain in

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the past, you still regret stuff. And for the future for

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the present, your soul or your being wants to protect you from

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that because you're such an intense feeler.

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So of course, on a physical level, then you will have more

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fat, storing around your hips, around your chest, around your

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thighs, because on an energetic level, you are trying to protect

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yourself and clinging on to old past situations that are still

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influencing you to this day. Resentment maybe towards a

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parent or a friend or an ex partner. Those emotional states

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those mental states will not allow you to lose weight easily.

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Again, because on an energetical level, your body your chemistry

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is being told. We need to protect ourselves. So those

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people that we look at and they're so beautiful and so

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healthy. Trust me, those people put a lot of energy in their

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health. And of course there's people who go Under and have

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surgery and stuff, but I don't talk about those people. I talk

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about the other beautiful people I talk about the people who are

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able to let go of resentment of regret, who are in full

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acceptance of themselves and embrace their flaws are aware of

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their communication. Those people are the people that we

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look at and feel so beautiful and so successful. But they had

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to work so hard to get there. They didn't get it for free. And

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you can get there too, you can do the work and be that

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beautiful, successful person out there. We all can be, we just

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have to believe in us and ourselves. By English really

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sucks today. Excuse the MA. And we have to be aware of the work

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that we want to do in order to liberate ourselves and to get

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rid of those extra pounds. So, next time you're jealous, please

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know that this person is good. It will make you aware of your

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monkey mind. And it will maybe make you aware that you could do

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a little more for your health. Or you could do a little more

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for your mental health and meditate a little more. listen

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more to my podcast here and come back to your center come back to

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your heart. And then you will feel better about yourself and

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less jealous about others and he will tend to compare yourself

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less to other people and just enjoy other people's success and

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see it as inspiration instead of a threat.

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Thank you so so much for listening to the Borealis

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experience today. I'm your host Aurora and I will be back out

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there for you very soon again. Take care. Also today's World

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