Ep.39 Do you feel stuck? [self-care]

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Hello,

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and welcome to the Borealis experience. My name is Aurora.

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I'm so happy to have you. Today I want to talk about feeling

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stuck. I think the COVID situation, wherever you live has

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affected you. And I think we all felt pretty much stuck at one

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point or the other. How did it make you feel? How did you cope

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with it? Did you come up with creative aterna artists? Or was

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depression creeping up? Surely but surely would surely. Yes,

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COVID COVID 2020, we will not forget. So what do we do when we

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feel stuck, we can feel stuck during COVID confinement just in

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general in life can feel stuck in a job that we don't like. We

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can feel stuck in a situation with a friend, again, is stuck

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in a romantic relationship. And what are the things we can do?

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When we feel stuck? I feel we first have to explore what we

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might not be doing. And the consequences to feel stuck. I

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feel that we're not living with our five senses. When we feel

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stuck, we're focused so much on the thing that we don't like

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that we forget to appreciate things with our whole body and

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soul, and attention. Because if we would, it is less likely to

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feel bored and stuck. I feel that if we feel stuck, we're not

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100% honest with ourselves and not 100% expressing ourselves

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expressing what we need. Because if we were to express full

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heartedly, honestly, what we need, we wouldn't feel bored or

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stuck. So what is it now that doesn't allow us to experience

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life with our full senses. And that makes us feel as if we're

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not being heard and understood. I think it is deep rooted

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beliefs that hold us back in those moments. And it is an

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attitude shift that we need in order to appreciate again, or

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get out of the situation that we feel stuck in. So let's have a

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look at an example here. Let's see a person who is in a job

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working a job and is really not enjoying himself. He picked this

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job because he got out of school and he has to make money. Plus,

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he wants to be independent from his parents. And money just has

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to come in order to have money to pay rent. So if you can hear

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maybe in the tone of my voice already, he's making decisions.

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And the intentions are how do you say practical? It makes

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sense to an outsider. Yeah, of course. Well, you have to work

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to make money and then pay your bills and blah, blah, blah. But

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he's not making the decisions from the heart. He's making them

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from the head from a rational space. If you were to make the

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decision from the heart, he would work a job that doesn't

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feel like a job, he gets up in the morning and loves going to

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see his co workers and to get shit done. He loves what he's

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doing. So that person is less likely to feel stuck, right?

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Because he made a decision from the heart. He followed his

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passion, and is radiating that beautiful energy. And this

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attracts people. So people want to spend money on that person.

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And that person is not going to feel stuck. It is the person who

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makes rational decisions, practical decisions that are

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only mind

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driven.

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Let's have a look at a relationship.

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The

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Flower Power, how do you say the lovey dovey I meant the lovey

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dovey beginnings are over. And now you moved in together. And,

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yeah, both have their routines, they're working routines. They

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might have a little bit of a weekend routine there. Maybe

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they share friends, maybe they'll keep the friends

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separate.

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And they're starting to feel stuck, or one of the two is

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starting to feel stuck. So what would be an example for a person

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who feels stuck in a relationship? Well, chances are,

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that you chose your partner for the wrong reasons. It shows your

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partner because you guys share similar problems, you guys share

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similar pain, you guys share that you don't like to be alone.

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You guys share that. We all have physical needs, and you just

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happen to be able to get your physical needs done with each

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other. But there's no real passion, there's no real love

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there. There's no real understanding and supporting of

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each other. It is kind of like a contract. And he lived together

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because you got used to each other. And that's really it. And

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to leave that person is going to be too painful because you share

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so much, yet so little. But enough to make it very, very

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uncomfortable to separate. So you still decide to stay in that

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relationship and feel stuck. Is there a chance to revive if that

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words exist in English. That relationship, I'm sure there's

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options like you can totally have an attitude shift. If you

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both want it, but you have to want it 100% if it's just one

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person changing their attitude, then it's quickly going to get

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boring again and very, very frustrating. Let's have a look

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at the COVID confinement. You were a very social person,

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social butterfly. So to say you had a job that was okay, helps

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you to pay the bills, and you're like going and now all of a

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sudden you're stuck at home and you're stuck with your thoughts.

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You're stuck with your partner with your kids, maybe even just

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gonna change my position here and move outside for some fresh

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air. And yeah, now your thoughts keep racing now. You're trying

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to compensate, you try to fill that void with something that

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feels kind of good. So you're not flexing, you're maybe eating

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a little more, maybe you start exercising, get really good at

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exercising. But it's really, really annoying for you that you

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can't go back to your social life and what you had before.

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And there again, it is the mind that drives you crazy because if

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you were living from the heart, you'd be okay with yourself. You

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would come up with creative stuff that makes you feel good

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and helps others to maybe you would be able to create stuff

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that makes you feel purposeful and supports others at the same

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time. You wouldn't be stuck in that thought pattern and that

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frustrated of not being able to follow your daily life, how it

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was before COVID I watched puppy a couple of weeks ago, a very,

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very good movie on Netflix, a prison, prison life movie, so to

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say. And it really, really made it so crystal clear for me that

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if you manage to stay sane in your mind, if you manage to keep

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yourself occupied and good with yourself and make meaningful

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connections, then you can get through such harsh environment

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situations. And I think COVID was perfect, perfect thing for

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all of us to learn to be good with ourselves and to rethink

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our lives and to reflect about our decision making. And to be

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careful with our partners. Like before, we were maybe even kind

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of avoiding each other. And now you're stuck with a person in

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one house or one apartment. And you have to get along, you can't

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just have a fight and then let it sit there, you have to

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resolve it right away because you live together and you want

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to have a good life. So maybe I drifted off a little bit here.

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But I think you got my point when you live from the heart,

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then it is less likely to feel bored and stuck. Because you

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will always feel stimulated and good, you will always have

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something to do and something to be excited about. When you live

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from the head from the ego from your monkey mind. It will come

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up with boredom, it will come up with very, very shitty decision

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making, that you will regret one day just for the short term

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excitement and distraction. So what I want to do here with my

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blood podcast is to bring you back to your heart to live from

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the heart. So that if ever there's another COVID or

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something similar or something else very annoying, that you're

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ready and more resilient. Thank you so much for listening to the

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yourself. I'll be out there for you tomorrow.