Ep. 38 What is your NORMAL [self-awareness]

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Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, certified life coach and companion on this

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beautiful journey called life. Thank you so much for being here

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and spending some time with me. I love

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being here. And hopefully, I can bring value into your life and

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hope and love reflection inside and help you to connect to

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yourself on a deeper level. Because the better we know

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ourselves, the better decisions we're going to make in the

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future, the happier with becoming. And happy, strong and

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the video is a person who enlightens and inspires others.

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And I feel we all have that kind of potential. So if I can be a

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little stepping stone on supporting you on your journey

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and helping you become your strongest version, then yeah, I

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would feel totally honored. Today I'm going to talk about

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your normal.

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What is your normal?

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And once we know what our normal is, I feel it is incredibly

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important to do an inventory check. So to say to question, Is

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that normal? Are those habits, the way we think the way we

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engage with others? The way we go about our life in general?

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Is that serving us on our path? Or could we make little

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adjustments and changes, sometimes little changes,

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sometimes radical changes. But it is very important to hold on

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at times to make some space and time. And to check in with

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yourself. And this is what I'm here to do for myself but also

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with you today. It is fall season. The days are getting

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shorter, it is cold and windy outside at least here. And

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nature gives us basically the time to reflect and to slow down

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a little bit right now before the Christmas craze.

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I'm not very enthused about the Christmas craziness. It's part

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of our lives here in the Western world. And I feel if you are

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very,

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you know engaged and active during Christmas, it is even

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more important to make some time right now and to see if your

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compass is calibrated for you to become your strongest version

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and your happiest self.

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So if you look at your daily life, if you look at your little

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habits, you probably got really used to brushing your teeth a

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certain way you got used to drinking a certain amount of

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water maybe or eating certain foods, playing games and

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hobbies, going to work

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having very specific

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interactions with people. Maybe it's always the same people that

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you interact with.

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Maybe it's always the similar conversations that you have with

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these people.

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What about your sleeping pattern? What is normal to you

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when you sleep? Are five to six hours normal to you? Is that

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eight to nine hours? Is it interrupted sleep? Or do you

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sleep through the night?

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How do you interact with your pets?

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What about your children if you have any?

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Right we we are animals of habit. We love our little

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habits. We love our rituals.

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But it is really important to question them at times because

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if we engage in these rituals and habits because of the wrong

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reasons, because our parents have done and grandparents are

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because we because we have done them for so long.

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That's not a good enough reason. So question your little habits?

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What is your normal? What is the box you live in? And when I say

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the box, I'm gonna say,

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your identity, right? We all perceive ourselves a certain way

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and behave a certain way.

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And if we could just sit there and drop the walls of that box

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for a second and see, what do we want our identity to be made up?

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What kind of person do we want to be in this world?

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What kind of thoughts do we want to sink? What kind of feelings

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do we want to feel?

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I know a couple of people who got so used to a very stressful,

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fast paced life,

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that their nervous system is so used to stress

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and speed that when they go on a holiday, when they allow

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themselves to relax, they get sick.

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Because their body is not used to

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being relaxed.

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What kind of pace Do you like?

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What kind of pace is actually true or to yourself?

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I use spreading yourself thin when it comes to socializing.

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When it comes to social gatherings when it comes to

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interacting with your friends, maybe acquaintances?

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What about your household?

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Is there a certain messiness that is normal to you?

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And is your space full of clutter? That is normal to you?

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Or could you actually let go a little bit more of stuff? And

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yeah, you got used to that stuff. But can you also see that

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if you were to make space

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that you would make room for novelty.

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Our physical space and environment deeply affects our

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mental health,

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or my emotional health.

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And sometimes, if we go through old pictures, old stuff.

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We realize we're clinging on to these things because of some

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emotional reasons, but they don't really make us feel good

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anymore.

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When it comes to your conversations, what is normal

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there?

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A very, very interesting thing I have observed in recent years

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is, the more I work on myself, the more I become true and real

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with myself,

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the more my interaction with people change. And even to a

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point that a couple years ago, I was the one running after

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people, you know, always playing the active part of getting

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together and organizing trips or events, or whatever it is. And I

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realized I was doing that for the wrong reasons I was doing

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that because I thought otherwise I'm not worthy. Otherwise,

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people wouldn't reach out to me because

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I have to run after people to stay in touch.

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And with becoming more at peace with who I am, and embracing my

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winners and my goodness and my darkness as a whole.

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I, in very unconscious ways started to communicating

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differently.

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And the people around me would notice that and also

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unconsciously start to behave differently as well and

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communicate differently.

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So it's very interesting to notice like, why are you doing

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the things you're doing?

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Why are you reaching out to that friend? Why are you not reaching

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out to one of your parents? What is behind what can be resolved

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what can be the possible maybe

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At first uncomfortable conversations, you could have to

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change our relationship dynamic. Because maybe the normal you

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living in right now, is not that great. It's a compromise. It's

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you avoiding, it's you still being resentful.

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It is important to ask yourself these questions.

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Because I don't want you to lay on your deathbed and

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to feel regret.

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I want you to have your best life possible. And to have that,

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I believe, we have to ask these questions. And we have to get

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out of autopilot mode and

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check in with ourselves with our relationships.

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And you'd be surprised that once you make changes that involve

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other people, every change, no matter if it involves other

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people or not, will affect other people. But the changes you make

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that directly instantly affect other people

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are going to be for the most part beautiful changes.

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You will be able to release anger or resentment you will be

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able to communicate clearly

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to resolve

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to have insights about another party's stance.

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And this is how we can hear relationships or let them

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further goal but with being at peace with ourselves and the

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other person.

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All right. I'm gonna leave you with that.

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Stay connected.

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And reach out if you have questions or if you have any

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requests when it comes to Episode topics. And if you feel

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you are ready to engage in a journey,

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a feeling of growth if you want to explore your full potential.

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Don't hold back and message me and we could set up a 20 minute

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sync up call for instance and see how I could help you.

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Alright, I'm gonna leave you with that. take really good care