Ep. 38 On your Deathbed [radical awareness]

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Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

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on this beautiful journey content life. I hope you're

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doing well. I hope you feel safe. I hope your heart is

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light.

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I hope you feel free. I hope you can see that you have choices

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and life. But last episode

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was about the choices

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that you make.

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How to Increase your choices and possibilities and to feel free

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whenever you feel stuck.

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Today I want to talk about your death. But my gosh, Aurora.

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Very light topic.

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That's a beautiful spring day. I'm currently on my little

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All right.

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Let's talk about your desperate.

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That is of course, like everything I share here is just

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my experience and what I've learned what helped me to heal

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what helped me grow what helped me to be the person that I am

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today, running a beautiful little business here.

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But I imagined it being very similar for everybody when they

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are on their deathbed. And a couple years ago, I learned this

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was my grandfather who was about to pass away.

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And the interesting thing that I've learned is that

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he was mad at a lot of people. While he was still healthy. He

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always judged people he blamed people

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was angry, resentful towards people.

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That was just his thing.

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But when his death was coming closer when he could really

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smell it and

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yeah, touch it, so to say right in front of him.

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All the regrets came up. All the mistakes came up. All the pain

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came up that he had inflicted on others.

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Let that sink in.

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Imagine that one day you lay there and everything comes back.

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It's a very, very tricky situation to be and because

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maybe right now while you're listening, you are regretting a

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bunch of things already and then you would say but Aurora Why are

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you saying this? Like I made really huge mistakes and I'm

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still suffering from the consequences. Why do you say

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this? How am I going to survive to my death

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with these regrets

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bear with me

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I will ask you to start out on a journey of self forgiveness.

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If that's the case, if you've done mistakes, if you've made

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choices in your past, that are fully hollow or horrible and

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very shitty, especially for other people, but now for you,

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then you can't waste any more time. But you have to forgive

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yourself.

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And this now might sound like wow, forgiving myself, no,

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because that would mean that I accept. And I'm okay with the

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mistake I've made but I'm seriously not.

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I understand. I will say to you, but you have to forgive

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yourself, you have to let this go.

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Down and over with.

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You can't make this mistake.

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hinder you hold you back restrict you any longer.

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You have to start and let go.

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And if you are

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in a situation where you feel okay with yourself, then this

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episode is for you as well. Because Be wise with the choices

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that you're making. And make sure that yes, you follow your

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heart your follow your soul calling.

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But on this path,

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try to the best of your ability to not harm or hurt other

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people.

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Again,

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you will upset people you will piss people off once you engage

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on your own journey.

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And that's okay, you have to follow your heart. But I mean,

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intensely hurting and letting down.

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shutting people out that you're just too lazy to have an honest

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boundary setting conversation with

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to be as clear as possible.

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To express yourself as honestly as possible.

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is one way to live without regrets.

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At the end of your life,

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I have a strong feeling that even if I was to make no

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mistakes, so to say until the rest of my days, my brain would

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still come up with stuff oh my god. But I could have done this,

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I could have said this, I could have you know, accomplish that.

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This is simply how our brain works.

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But the decisions that you're going to make, from now on,

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have not only a deep impact on your future

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and how your life is going to unfold, they have a deep impact

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on others as well.

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The better you know yourself, the better decisions you're

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going to make that affect you the best way possible and the

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people around you that you love and care about.

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So, I think was this episode, I really want to raise awareness

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that you can't waste any time and forgiving yourself forgiving

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others and to set yourself free from regret and resentment

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and to focus on how you can make better choices

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from now on

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in order to not live with regrets and pain.

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What is driving you? What are your core values?

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And do you live in alignment with these core values that you

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have? Is there areas in your life where you are in conflict

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with your values where you feel

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you have to

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compromise

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and if you want me to list the areas of your life that I'm

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talking about here it is your

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personal relationships, your family, your friends, your

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romantic relationships, and most importantly your relationship to

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yourself.

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Can you express yourself freely?

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Let? Do you let people see you for who you are?

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Do you lie to yourself? And why do you lie to yourself to learn?

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Do you lie to others? And why do you lie to others?

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are you silent? When you should be speaking up but you choose

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to? Because you don't want to create drama and conflict?

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How it is when it comes to your job, your work life?

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Are you self employed? Are you employed? What's your relation?

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Like with your boss with your co workers?

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If you're self employed,

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what drives you?

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Are you in alignment with your core values at work?

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Your physical health?

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Are you making the best

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out of your physical health? Or do you compromise? Do you cheat?

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Your mental health?

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How do you nurture your mind? What do you consume on a daily

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basis? Through your eyes through you yours? Is it an alignment

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with your True core values?

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Your financial situation?

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Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel safe Do you feel supported?

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It is really important to live with this awareness with this

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consciousness. Because the last thing I want is for you to

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regret one day that you didn't take enough care of yourself

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that you were not honest with the people around you.

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Alright, take really good care of yourself. And I will be out

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there very soon again. Bye bye