Ep.33 Your ego and your monkey mind. [self awareness]

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called the ego, or the monkey mind, who is the monkey mind

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what is the monkey mind. And whereas the monkey mind,

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I will post a couple of videos to illustrate. But for you, I

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want to

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Yeah, put it into words, your ego is part of your mind that

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identifies and attaches to things that is very opinionated

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and judgmental. We need our ego to a certain degree, to feel a

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sense of self.

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Although I think

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most of us are very ego driven. And we could listen a little

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more to our hearts and our physical body. And put the

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monkey mind the ego a little more. Yeah, into a corner into a

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little positive time out.

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You can observe your ego especially well, when something

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out of the norm, or super annoying is happening to you.

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It is, for example,

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I can only come back to my phone issues here. How I tried to

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problem solve and the assumptions I make all my phone

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is broken. Because

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I didn't do updates and I'm just very neglectful with my devices,

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I always expect them to function, yet I don't take

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perfect care of them. Hence, I'm

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neglectful person. So something happens that is super annoying.

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And then you make an assumption about yourself, and this is who

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you are.

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and The bad thing about us is that it holds you in that

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assumption and it makes you be that person that you assume you

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are and that's never a good thing because every morning we

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wake up we can be a new person. Every moment in this life we can

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decide to make different decisions than we made in the

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past. And if we are stuck in a certain way that we think we

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are, it is not good.

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Now look at other people, when people do something that is out

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of your norm that is different than your monkey mind usually

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jumps into an s very harsh and judgmental and opinionated.

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Look at comedians look at YouTube videos where you know,

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other people would laugh and you don't really think it's funny.

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And there as well you become judgmental. You say, Well, why

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is that funny? Why is that person so? Yeah. Silly in this

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moment and thinks that this is funny. So this

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The SEO, monkey mind when we feel jealous,

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the monkey mind is highly active and judges and compares and

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makes you feel small and then you want to make the other

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person feel

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inferior are shitty, and you want to kind of change

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the thoughts around that person in order to make you feel

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better. So this is also the ego and the monkey mind.

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And it's very interesting to observe because the most secure

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people have the least amount of monkey mind activity, or they

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know how to not take it too serious. So they hear the

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thoughts in their brains, that a one brain they don't have two

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brains. And then they can maybe smile about it, laugh about it,

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but put it in the corner. They don't identify with the monkey

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mind. They see it as a maybe even separate entity that does

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its thing. But they don't let it distract from what is really in

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front of you. What is reality

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skews me. So next time you see yourself being jealous, it's

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very easy to do when you go on Facebook or Instagram or Tick

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Tock or whatever. Observe your judgment, your opinions,

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your negativity, maybe even. And no, this is not you versus your

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little bit of insight and security. And if you could maybe

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guide your mind to feel and think inspired

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by what is making you jealous by being happy for the other person

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even by knowing that the other person achieved a goal or as

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successful, because they put every little cell of their body

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and mind into that project. And are so dedicated and are so

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focused. And this is why they are succeeding. And not because

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you're dumb or young, or whatever excuse you want to

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have. And they're not successful because they were born into a

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successful family or they have your money or whatever. They

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have a healthy mindset and are okay to reach the goals that

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they set themselves. Because there's tons of people out there

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who are born into rich families.

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And they absolutely don't make anything out of what is given to

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them. And that's totally legit. They go their own path. So your

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ego is also the part of your brain of your mind. That comes

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up with excuses. Oh no, like I can't do this because I was

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always bad and math or Oh no, I can't learn that

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language because back in school, I had bad grades. So your ego

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can also really keep you stuck with what I said at the

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beginning what you think you are,

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and it can

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really manipulate you out of beautiful things like love

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relationships. Yeah, when you've been hurt when you had to go

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through a heartbreak and now you meet that new person and you get

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to know them and they are just being themselves and your mind

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your ego keeps coming up with all one gonna get hurt again, I

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will have to have my guard up and I cannot be intimate or

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close with that person. Because I might get hurt in the future

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again. So your ego is a very good thing it wants to it wants

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to protect you at all times. And this is also why it makes it a

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bad thing. Because

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life is meant to be messy. You will always get hurt and

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disappointed and you just got to learn to make healthy

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assumptions and conclusions about sorry about yourself and

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life in order to be happy and your ego when it is left

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unchecked will prevent you from enjoying life to the fullest and

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having deep relationships and

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Yeah, loving life and people and all the adventures that you can

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have. So for the next couple of days, I want you to notice your

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monkey mind and befriend your monkey mind, that's a good part

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of your brain. But sometimes it's just a little too loud,

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it's too active. And it's trying to, yeah, push you into a

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direction that is not oriented towards growth and health. It

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keeps you in unhealthy small spaces, sometimes even

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disconnected from people and isolating. So have a look at

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your monkey mind and have a look at my little videos on

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Instagram, and YouTube. Maybe not yet, but Facebook for sure.

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And then you will have a different angle on this topic.

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listening. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. And

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