ep.3 Men's mental health. [relationships, society]

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Come to the glorious experience. I'm your host. And

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I'm very happy to be spending some time with you today. Help

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you unwind, relax, reflect about your life and yourself, the

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better we know ourselves, the stronger we can be out there in

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this world, the more compassion and support we can show for our

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people

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out there.

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So today I want to talk about mental health for men. Why do I

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have episodes? For men only? I was part of an interview the

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other day. And the lady, a very sharp, intelligent, kind lady

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asked me, for me out of the blue. Why do you make a

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difference between mental health between men and women? Why is

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there a difference? And if you are really focusing on men, why

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is that? And don't you feel like you're letting the ladies down?

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And I really didn't have an answer there. I just knew that

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this is the direction I'm feeling drawn to. In the past, I

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had an Internet TV show with guests. And the interviews I had

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with these guys were incredible. They were sharing their story

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about trauma and depression and heartbreak. And the feedback I

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got was so incredible. And like we were able to help so many

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people out there to feel less lonely with their story and feel

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supported and better about themselves. And when I came to

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Canada, I decided to study agriculture. And I become very,

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very interested in prison farming and prison ag

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agriculture and gardening for veterans. And that's been five

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years ago now. And I don't know, I think I grew up with male role

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models that were more aggressive, were very, I don't

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know, struggled in life, at times, and as their closest

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relative. I struggled with that behavior. But there came a point

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in my life where I had no choice but forgiving, and

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understanding. So that's like, not very detailed, but some

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explanation of why I focus on mental health for men. And then

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I moved to Alberta here and Canada, and a lot of young guys

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in their 20s in their 30s committed suicide over the last

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couple of years now, and it was really scary and uncomfortable

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for me to see and read these news because a very dear person

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in my life was struggling with severe depression and insomnia

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at that time. And I just felt so very powerless. And as if I

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couldn't help move, this is getting emotional. Nevermind.

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And then I met this awesome guy here in Calgary in Canada. And

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he is a veteran himself, and started out with a project where

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he bought a piece of land and transformed it into a huge

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vegetable garden project. And we were working on it turning it

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into a farm for veterans, for guys who come back from war,

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have to sign that bullshit paper that says do you feel okay or do

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you feel shitty? Do you suffer from these symptoms? If not, you

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have to sign now and then we are not responsible for your mental

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health. And then those guys sign that paper go back Come maybe to

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a family maybe not, and still struggle with what they went

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through and war and are suddenly pushed into society again,

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sorry, and live with their families, maybe with young kids.

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And it's like, putting a homeless person or a person that

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is struggling with deep mental health into Disneyland. Yeah, of

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course, it will be overwhelming and hard to make that transition

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during COVID, now, the numbers of alcoholics, the numbers of

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drug abuse, depression, and domestic violence is

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skyrocketing. And I want to bring peace to this one, I want

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to provide a space where people can just feel okay with

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themselves again, and meditate and sit with their thoughts. And

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if they are so ugly to face, then at least you face them, and

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you can be with them. And you don't run away from them

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anymore. And you know that there is a person out there, who cares

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about you.

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This is awesome. I can just hit pause, cry my eyes out, drink

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some tea, and then continue talking. So yeah, I don't know

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that topic touches me so deeply. And if you've listened to

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previous episodes, I've been raped when I was 21. And I was

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able to get over that trauma now and move on with my life. And I

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don't expect any woman to do that. But this is my experience.

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And I feel for every woman who still feels hurt and

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traumatized. But a rapist is not born a rapist, a rapist is

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formed by society. And I'm not talking about severely mentally

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ill people who really need to be in treatment for the rest of

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their lives. I'm talking about those people who at some point

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in their life, truly fucked up truly did something bad. But we

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need them back in society, they need us to receive them back in

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society, and how can we introduce them back into

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society, if we push them to the edge of society, then there's

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going to be more violence. I think my attempt here is for

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when people feel violent and angry, that they find a new way

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to chant, channel it out, and to express it, and to be okay with

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their past, to be okay with themselves. And know that every

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day you can make a new start. Every day you wake up, you can

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make your bed you can make your breakfast. And you can make

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different choices when you met in your past. And to ask me why

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I'm more focused on men's mental health and on women's. Please

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know that my podcast is for everybody. I just have these

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little episodes there that I want to send out for men only

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because I feel there's so much for women out there. There's

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such a huge choice of makeup tutorials and emotional pain and

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getting over your toxic relationship and getting back to

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your ex umbrella. There's so much out there for women. And it

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is for me as if you would ask vascular surgeon as a surgeon

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who is focused on operating doing surgeries on the heart and

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the veins and the arteries, if you would ask him, why did he

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not become an orthopedic? Why does he not care about the

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joints and it is not that he not care that he doesn't care about

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the joints or the bones and the cartilage. He is just more drawn

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to the heart surgeries and the vascular surgeries. So this is

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my reasoning for today why I'm focusing more on mental health

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for men, and I feel in talking about it and providing these

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episodes. There's women out there who will also open their

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heart to it and learn maybe about their men, and there's men

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out there who can make peace with men, women, again, who

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maybe are so angry at women because they were hurt in the

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past, they were let down and disappointed and make peace with

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their feminine energy again. So it is for both of you out there.

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I love both sides equally. And I just choose in some episodes to

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focus on men a little

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more.

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I hope that's okay. And if it's not then change your podcast. I

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will be doing what I'm doing. And yeah, this was the Borealis

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experience. I'm your host Aurora, with today's episode

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being very emotional, but it is okay. It just shows that I'm

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imperfect and deeply caring. Take good care of yourself. And