Ep.2 The key to genuine connection [relationship, love, dating]

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Hey there, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, and I'm so happy to be spending some time

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with you today. I have a couple of listeners who have been here

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from the very start. You guys have been listening over nine

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hours of my content already ever since January 3. So from the

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bottom of my heart, thank you so much for listening and giving me

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feedback. And yeah, just soaking in my energy and my stuff that

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I'm putting out here. It really means so much to me. And if you

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just started listening to my podcast, welcome here. Thank you

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so much for being curious. And if you want to listen to

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meditations, they are made for people who are starting out with

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meditations for people who still have some kind of resistance to

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meditation. And, yeah, I tried to make it very personal and

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relaxing, insightful for you. So maybe tomorrow or the day after

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or on the weekend, you want to take 10 minutes aside and try it

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out. Today, I want to talk about undivided attention, undivided

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presence. If you listen to my episode yesterday, it was very

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messy, it was about inventory. If you have done an inventory

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check of your feelings of your life so far. And I had my dogs

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in the background and my computer was loading something

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up in the background, I only noticed afterwards. And when I

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listened to it, I knew that you would receive the content and

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the message there I want to send out there. But it was also very

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challenging to stay focused and to feel respected. When I had so

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much going on in my background, so much noise and not being

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really focused yesterday. So today I want to talk about how

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undivided attention undivided presence is so very precious

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when it comes to relationships, when you can just put your phone

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down when you can just push your opinions, your thoughts out of

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your own way. And just receive the message from the person that

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is standing in front of you. It will totally make them feel

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appreciated and open up to you. And you will also appear and at

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the same time be very trustworthy. And this is the

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number one thing that we all want to notice we all want to

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see and a person that we relate to. It is trustworthiness. And

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you can probably talk to a bunch of CEOs out there. People who

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employ people on the daily They not only look for skills and

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behavior and confidence, they look for trustworthiness and

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predictability. And then of course the other points to

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confidence and skill set. But if you can bring trustworthiness,

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if you can bring total undivided presence into a relationship,

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you not only make the other person feel seen and

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appreciated, but you also learn to see very, very precious clues

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about that other person that they might not even be aware of.

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When you are putting a single focus on a person and really

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listen to their words to their body language and everything

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that is in between the lines then you really get a deeper

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inside of that person you are communicating with. And I don't

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know if I mentioned that before. I think I will drop in every

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episode not I want to drop something about me that you

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might not know or that you are curious about your Always

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Welcome to Ask me questions and request meditations from me.

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Today I want to share with you one of my one of my very

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favorite codes from Bruce Lee. He says a warrior is an average

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man with laser sharp focus. So let that sink in. You can take

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the street sweeper, you can take the bouncer, you can take the

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see all from a company, you can take a lawyer, you can take a

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doctor, all of those people, if they bring laser sharp focus to

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the table, they will be excellent at what they do. They

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will be driven, focused and dedicated to their work or their

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hobby. And isn't that so? So simple? I feel there's a lot of

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people out there who have dreams, but are very insecure

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about how do I start? How do I get there? I feel intimidated by

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my competition. But as soon as you allow yourself to totally

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immerse yourself in that topic in that area you're passionate

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about, and completely focusing your whole energy into that one

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project that you're passionate about, then you can only

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succeed, of course, you're going to fail at some point and fall

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and encounter obstacles and encounter people that want to

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challenge you, and tests and everything. But if you keep that

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focus, you can be so so successful at whatever you want

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to be. And if we appreciate, appreciate, if we approach

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sorry, people with an undivided presence, when they know in a

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world with so many distractions, you decide you choose to be with

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them for 10 minutes for half an hour on the phone, or maybe even

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five minutes, maybe just 30 seconds. If it's the grocery

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clerk or if it's the street sweeper, then you have such a

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big impact such a positive impact on people. And it

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wouldn't make you feel less lonely at the same time because

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you connected on a on a very good, genuine level. So maybe if

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you listen to yesterday's episode, inventory check in

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today's episode, you can hear a huge difference, you know that

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I'm fully there, that I'm putting all my energy into that

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record into that podcast now. And this will be received by

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your ears, through your brain. And you know that today I was

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focused, I was there with intention and compassion and

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passion. And it is a huge difference to what I delivered

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yesterday. So this was the Borealis experience. And I'm

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your host Aurora. And as I say in my bio, I'm very raw, and I

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don't really apologize for much because I might make mistakes

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for a reason. And then I rectify them afterwards or try to make

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sense of them afterwards. And I find Today was a beautiful way

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to show you how it feels when somebody is giving you her or

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his full attention. take really good care of yourself. And I'll

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be sending out an episode very soon again for you if you're

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motivated every day, so I'll be there every day.